You have to know this answer…what’s the FIRST step?

Goal setting, goal setting, goal setting…

I get hundreds of emails each week from people asking about goal setting…

They want to know:

  • How to set realistic goals
  • Why they aren’t reaching their goals
  • How they know if their goal is realistic
  • Should they split up their goals into different categories
  • If they can focus on more than one goal at a time or multiple goals


Here’s the deal…

I firmly believe in the saying “if you can conceive it you can achieve it” BUT this is where most people struggle…

Every huge vision

Every momentous goal

Every ultimate success


Decide what your ultimate vision is…

I guarantee it is full and complete and includes all the elements of life:

  • Money
  • Career
  • Creativity
  • Relationships
  • Spirituality
  • Fun

and more…

In all my coaching and teaching I tell you to know what that full vision is and see it, taste it, touch it and feel it in as much detail as possible…

Once you do this, then I need you to break that down into bite size bench marks or goals…

If you want to make a million dollars and work 4 hours a week and travel the world with the love of your life but right now you make $30,000/year work, 40 hours a week, can’t take time off for vacation and are single then your ultimate vision is probably somewhat intimidating.

I’m here to tell you it’s possible BUT you have to break it down…

How do you eat an elephant?

1 bite at a time!

Do it now…write down the bench marks…make sure you break them down enough that the first bench marks feels achievable.

Great…that first bench mark is your first goal.

Now I need you to decide 1 thing and 1 thing only…

What’s the FIRST step?

A step isn’t something that involves many steps…

A step is a step…just one…

What’s the first step?

Write it down…

If this step requires a list of steps to achieve it then you haven’t broken it down enough…

The first step is the FIRST STEP and that’s it.

Once you decide what the first step is you MUST schedule it and then DO IT!

Here’s the trick to achieving your ultimate vision faster than you thought possible…

One step at a time…

Once you  finish 1 step, identify the next step, identify it and DO IT and so on until you reach your first Bench Mark or Goal.

As soon as you reach your first bench mark or goal it’s time to figure out the first step on the journey to the next bench mark or goal and so on.

Every day ask yourself, “What’s my next step?”

Do this exercise and leave me a comment telling me your first step…accountability is a huge key to success!

Go Big!


27 Responses to “You have to know this answer…what’s the FIRST step?”

  1. jenni eden says:

    hey great news…..Hello Magazine are going to interview me for my October exhibition!! So all I have said to you in the past is coming through. This is it for me and by the end of the year all the manifestations will be here. It’s taken since 2003 but every step has brought it’s own rewards and highlighted the journey so it’s been a great ride. like you say it’s just one step at a time and having the complete belief that the ultimate dream will be achieved! I have sold on average 3 paintings a week through the galleries in the UK, this last year and the buzz is out about the work I do. It’s very, very exciting!!
    I hope everyone gets this way of thinking and we all achieve our dreams!! with the ‘lack’ all gone we’re left with abundance and joy and that will be a wonderful place for us all to be

    big bubbly wishes

    Jenni Eden

  2. Edward Litors says:

    Great post. But here’s the truth for whoever wants the know the truth. If you don’t hit your goals, it is because you don’t BELIEVE you can hit them. And if you truly believe you can, you don’t stay focused long enough to reach that goal. LOA is LOA, and unfortunately we have been programmed to believe that reaching a life changing goal is not easy, so therefore it is not. It doesn’t take much to get off track because we are surrounded by distractions.


  3. Rosemary says:

    I want more REO listings, and I know I must therefore do more BPOs (broker price opinions). To do that, I must have them assigned to me. I’ve been doing them in Bishop, CA, but need to do them here. I was given a list of the Asset Managers to contact, but never got around to doing the contacting, always letting some other pressing issue take up my time. Today, I decided to begin contacting them and, lo and behold, a young aspiring agent sent me an e-mail that she needs work. So, the first step was to respond to her e-mail and ask her to call me in the morning. I need the help, and maybe this was the Universe’s way of sending that help to me and to her.

  4. mirette says:

    i still don’t understand how to do it

  5. Will Bosch says:

    The first step> It’s that first nibble and where to bite that halts me ever so briefly in my tracks, until out of desperation I begin chewing just to get started. I am learning how to become the elephant so that I transform the obstacle into a stepping stone, and go from negative to positive!

  6. Leila says:

    Hi Kristen, do you think there’s something in what Will says? I like the idea of becoming the elephant.

  7. Gordon Bendall says:

    This has come at just the right time for me.Belief is my big problem but I won’t let that hold me back any longer. I am working through the 5 steps and will come out the other side a better, more productive person. Thanks.

  8. Babalwa says:

    This year I wanted to get a drivers licence and I did after several attempts. Thank you for making it possible to achieve my biggest dreams – one step at a time. You know I had such big dreams, that I thought it was impossible to achieve. I know I’m a work in progress and the progress is good so far. I thought I was a complete failure due to the economic crash I experienced last, loosing a job and savings.

    You have made it possible, thanx for your encouragement – it is changing lives! I hope I’ll make it easy for u to continue doing this great work you are doing.

  9. Andrew says:

    Great advice! I started selling my art online on various products month ago. I have been doing alot of different things but it has not been easy making sells. However, I’m very determined to reach my goal. My next step will be to use YouTube to post separate videos with my art in them. Thanks Kristen(LOA)! ^_^

    I also liked what you said Edward Litors!

  10. helena says:

    focus and goals are the hardest things for me. I want more from life but i don’t know how to get the clarity i need to set specific goals and then to stay\focused

  11. Hani says:

    Hi Kristen,

    Great post as always. One question that’s been puzzling me and cannot seem to get the answer that I feel is THE answer.

    When you set a short term goal and visualise it, do you visualise that goal for 30 days and follow through with inspired action, or do you continue to visualise (and take inspired action) until you manifest the goal?

    Also, how would you visualise your dream home as a goal, especially that it’s a long term goal and one that cannot be broken into bite size chunks?

    Many thanks.


  12. Padmanabhan says:

    Hi Kristen,

    Due to financial stingency, my first ultimate vision is money which must go on flow everytime effortlesly in order to help poorer people as well to my family members too, to stay in harmonious level.

  13. Ellen says:

    I have set myself goals over and over and over again. I got to the point where my goal was just to survive for another month and not be homeless in the dead of Winter. Right now I am living off of student loans. When I first started school back in May of 2010, I thought (this is the best I can do to survive) since I couldn’t find a job. After being in school for two semesters, I discovered it is possible and achievable to reach my goals.

  14. Darko L. says:

    Continue BIG! Best regards 🙂

  15. Hi Kristen: Sometimes when we think of all the steps that we need to do we find ourselves shutting down and get distracted. I think you need to have a vision of the outcome you want but you have to do the steps, one step at a time, because sometimes we don’t know what the steps are when we first start something – and when we find we have to do something, then just do it or find someone that can help you get through it because you don’t need to know everything, you just need someone else that does and can guide you to the next step. I have been writing children’s books and if someone told me there were so many steps to go through in the beginning I would have thought it was too much and maybe would have shut down.
    So just keep the vision and do the steps as they come and before you know it you will have succeeded and accomplished what it is you want. I am almost ready to have three of my children’s books published. That of course is not the end, only the beginning as I need to find vendors to take them – more steps.
    So people, don’t get discouraged, just keep on keepin on and you will get there.

  16. Hi Kristen

    This is the ultimate lesson. More power to Kristen! To achieve ANYTHING in ANY area of life this post explains how in a very clear way. Human beings are their own worst enemies – look at some of the posts!

    I would like to wish you a very happy Xmas and a very prosperous 2011


    Bernard (Australia)

  17. George says:

    I can’t see me discarding 45 years of life and returning to those younger heady days again. So, setting that idea aside I have three goals and they have not basically changed this year; health, wealth, and a home, a place to call Sanctuary, where I can realise my artistic potential. That is assuming I have any, but I think I have, or perhaps that is the ego speaking. So there is the vision to come to fruition in 2011.

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  19. Shankar says:

    Hi Kristen,
    I have been doing this exercise for more than a decade and I have realised my dreams. I keep setting new goals and work toward them.
    Shankar, India

  20. Louis says:

    A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

    Lao-tzu, The Way of Lao-tzu
    Chinese philosopher (604 BC – 531 BC)

    I was paralyzed for nearly a year. One night in the hospital I slid of my bed and took one step. 11 years later I can walk for miles unassisted. I took the first step !!!

  21. Hi Kristen,
    Thank you for repeating the information on goals. Taking one small bite at a time is the best way to eat an elephant.

    I’ve just started a new Chronic Pain Coaching business. Getting paying clients is my goal. My financial situation is dismal, which means I really need paying clients. I’m getting in touch with insurance companies, a health & fitness center, and workman’s comp companies to have them refer clients. Am I on the right track?

  22. Alex Gabriel Vu says:

    There are no external obstacles that prevent you from realizing your dreams but invisible barriers that emanates from the inside where your mind and your heart oppose each other. Each individual human beings have equal right to realize their dreams and their fulfillment. Some succeeded in realizing their goal by avoiding obstacles and make a shortcut. A quick way to the goal may seem easy and sensible. But in the long term, you can easily forget your purpose.
    The highest value in this life is to understand yourself and come to perfection.
    If you want to achieve this you need to go through all obstacles, no matter how big or small they are. For each obstacle is a reminder of why you have chosen this path.
    – Yes, for your purpose in this life is to achieve your perfection that lies in front of these obstacles.

    Alex G. Vu

  23. Alex Gabriel Vu says:

    There are no external obstacles that prevent you from realizing your dreams, but invisible barriers that emanates from the inside where your mind and your heart in conflict with each other. Each individual human beings have an equal right to realize their dreams and their fulfillment. Some succeeded in realizing their goals, avoid obstacles and make a shortcut. A quick way to the goal may seem simple and sensible. But in the long run, you can easily forget the purpose.
    The highest value in this life is to understand yourself and come to perfection.
    To achieve this you need to go through all obstacles, no matter how big or small they are. For each obstacle is a reminder of why you have chosen this path.
    – Yes, for your purpose in this life is to achieve the perfection that lies ahead of these obstacles

    Alex G. Vu

  24. Stacey W. Moore says:

    My goal is to be finacialy independant. I am one that gets real distracted. Sometimes when I do things I feel like I haven’t even accompliched anything. I am so glad you are here, I really need accountability right now in my life. So much has changed.

  25. Emmanuel Sarkodie-Boateng says:

    I’ve learnt a lot from this article after taking my time to read it and I know and believe that my life is not going to be the same. Thank you for a good work done. God bless you for that.

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