How do you walk into a room?

We’ve been talking a lot about how to become a solution for someone else’s problem.

We’ve also talked about how important it is to approach people and ask them how you can help them instead of approaching people and telling them how you think you can help them.

I know from the emails I’ve been getting that some of you are already having GREAT success with this and some of you are really struggling.

The biggest struggle seems to be in having people believe you are the solution.

Luckily this is where I can help…

As you know I am a coach but I am also an actress.  I have performed on Broadway and in Film and TV and the audition process is a great learning tool…

Here’s why…

When someone is casting a show or movie or TV show they have a problem that needs a solution.

Their problem is a script with no one to bring the characters to life and tell the story in a way that will come across to the audience.

That’s where an actor comes in…

Every person that walks in the door to an audition is a potential solution to that problem.

Now here’s the key…

When you walk into the room to audition, you better carry with you the belief that YOU ARE A PERFECT SOLUTION to their problem or you are going to be almost invisible.

Notice I didn’t say THE perfect solution and that’s because I am of the mind that to every challenge or problem there are multiple solutions…

But if you don’t go in there feeling that you are A perfect solution they will almost not even see you.

So what can you learn from this?

MANY, MANY things…

But the primary thing I want you to look at right now is making sure you do whatever you need to do before you approach someone in any way to absolutely believe that you are 1 perfect solution to their problem.

If you are feeling invisible, that’s what’s missing…

People are looking for solutions to what they are focusing on and if you don’t fit that, it’s nothing personal, you just won’t be on their radar.

I want you to remember this through all of it…

You won’t be the solution that gets chosen every time…

That’s ok…

Your ONLY job is to make yourself visible to them as a possible solution whether it’s now, later or never…

If you find yourself constantly feeling invisible there are 2 primary reasons:

  1. You don’t have conviction in you being a solution
  2. You are trying to make yourself a solution to the wrong problem (find the right fit and you’ll be amazed at what happens.)

So I ask you…

How do you walk into a room?

Do you walk in as a possible solution or do you walk in already expecting that you will be invisible and overlooked?

Be honest and leave me a comment so I can know how to continue to help you!

Go Big!


14 Responses to “How do you walk into a room?”

  1. Eke (AK47) says:

    i really appreciate your style of teaching i will be in constant touch cos i think you are good

  2. Rosemary says:

    Interesting imagery, Kristen. Yesterday, I spoke with four different people (well, one of the \"people\" was actually a couple), offering my services and, in one case, the services and amenities of my building, and felt a connection to those people that I hadn\’t felt for a long time with anyone. Let\’s see how it works out.

    Ever hopeful,

  3. Abdul Wahab says:

    Hi Kristen,

    I shall walk into the room “as a possible
    solution “

  4. Thank you for these wonderful and inspiring articles. Keep up the good work. I am learning everday . Thank you so much. God Bless

  5. Justene says:

    Hi Kristen
    Today I took one of those temprament quizzes. It turns out that my personality is one people navigate to for answers and help. This blog gives me confirmation that I already have the personality, I just must use the confidence that I AM the solution they need.

  6. Joe says:

    I believe i got it!Thank You!


  7. Robert says:

    Hi Kristen,

    I don’t feel invisible per say, but I know the truth about myself and that’s what may appear to others’. I cannot live in a fantasy world, making believe that I am an expert on something. For example, I have an accounting background and was employed as a Financial Analyst many years ago. The times have changed and I haven’t worked for quite some time in this field, so I tell people what I don’t know, I will find about and get back to you. That is the truth. If someone asks me a question that I’m not 100% sure of.

    Just a comment,


  8. Suresh says:

    Hello Kristen:

    Very interesting concept. Starting today, for one week, I am going to try your approach (a perfect solution) & share my experience.



  9. Zilola says:

    Hi Kristen,
    Maybe this way of walking into room might be possible to use to get attention of the man I like? Like I will be walking with the thought that I am a PERFECT SOLUTION (MATCH) for the man I like?

  10. Maria says:

    Thanks again.

    From this day on I will walk in the room with confidence that I am a perfect solution.

  11. Rev George Wesley Tagoe says:

    Thanks,for letting me know Iam a solution and from now on I will confidently walk into everyroom

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