Standing Your Ground

Welcome back to the current issue of the Law of Attraction Key Newsletter!

I have a very special article for you today about what it takes to experience a total transformation.  This is so powerful and important to you. Here’s what I suggest with this one…

Take a few minutes to read it now, and then come back to it tomorrow and again the next day.  When you do it this way, the message will come through deeper and deeper each time!

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“The first step is willingness. Willingness
to redefine your ‘self’ – willingness to
let go of the stories that don’t serve you –
willingness to stop being right about
everything that is wrong.

Kristen Howe

Standing Your Ground

By Crack Your Egg

Once you make the conscious decision that you want to break out and bring about a transformation and change your life, the field of ‘infinite awareness’ (often dubbed ‘the universe’) comes at your aid… but not always in the ways you might expect. Because here’s what happens: 

The experiences you attract tend to be tailored to break down those energetic walls around you that block your vision!

So yes, true enough, the process of ‘transformation’ may bring challenges. But if you stick with your intuition through all of these experiences (nice and less pleasant), after a while your life changes because of what you’ve experienced going through these challenges, NOT despite of it.

But many people give up entirely, degrading this whole concept of ‘attraction’ as mumbo-jumbo the moment the going gets a little tough:

“This wasn’t what I wanted to attract! This doesn’t work!” 

Well, actually it does. You’re attracting the very experiences designed to break through whatever is keeping you from experiencing your desired reality.

Of course, the process of transformation doesn’t take place like this for everyone all the same. People tell me different stories all the time:

  • For one person, their lives may change radically practically overnight… through the mere act of evaluating the mind frame that their reactions come from, and adjusting based on their new awareness… And before they know it, their entire life transforms into this ‘magical’ experience they had always wanted.
  • For others, at first things may seem to go exactly the opposite way as they envisioned when they started their attempts to change their lives based on their new-found knowledge of the principle that has become known popularly as the ‘Law of Attraction’.

And in case of the latter, some are able to easily deal with it… while others start to really have a hard time. And true enough: this process can be a tough one to swallow, especially if you’re not fully aware of the mechanism that’s at work here. 

And I’m speaking from personal experience here!

Here’s the thing:

When you wake up from the ‘programming’ inside of you that’s been keeping you small, and you consciously state the intention that you want to reclaim your power and make the change in your life that you desire, what happens is that (as I call it) “your egg begins to crack”.

Your life changes… often even seems to ‘fall apart’… And you wonder why you’re going through such challenges when you just wanted to ‘be spiritual’ (and perhaps have a fancy car).

It’s the ‘being spiritual’ that people often associate with the images of ‘birds flying’, ‘flowers blossoming’, and having a choir of angels rhapsodizing in the background as they speak.

There are also more than a few (often self-proclaimed) ‘gurus’ on the Internet who put a significant material label on the process, in the form of ‘attracting new cars’ and Ferraris magically popping up in your life being the ultimate confirmation of personal, spiritual power.

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not judging this… I mean, everyone’s free to decide for themselves what their definition of ‘being successful’ is.

However, here’s what few of these gurus tell you, while it’s really something that many people can expect:

You’ll often experience that the ‘material payoffs’ come only once you’ve cracked through the energetic concrete that may have been holding you back from experiencing your true desires in the first place. 

And that’s the crux. We’re all projecting a vibrational field that reflects our current mental, emotional and spiritual state. And this belief system dictates which energy fields within ‘all that exists’ (<– the “Universe”) our consciousness decides to ignore or to ‘read’ (and thus manifest). 

It’s like our consciousness chooses which track to play on a ‘universal DVD’, and then makes that one visible. And the choice which track to play is based on what we currently believe and think/feel of ourselves.

Eliminate The Overlooked, Subconscious
‘Blind Spot’ That Keeps You Stuck On
Your Limiting Beliefs:

I’ve been through this myself. Once you make the conscious decision to change yourself and your life experience, you make the decision to change in a total way.

It’s not like you can change just a bit, so you can attract that Ferrari (or something like that) while everything else in your life stays the same… so others will look up to you, and you get an artificial confirmation from others that you’re now ‘successful’ and ‘powerful’.

It’s not like that at all! Not least because that particular example would mean you’re still looking for confirmation by others of your alleged ‘success’.

Instead, you either change in a total way, or you don’t change at all. It’s like being pregnant. You can’t be a bit pregnant. It’s not a continuum. You’re either pregnant, or you’re not. 

Similarly, when it comes to a process like this, you either change totally, or you don’t. That’s the way it works. It’s not a matter of small changes, of a little thing here, a little thing there. It’s a matter of turning yourself inside out!

Now, I mentioned earlier that I’m speaking from personal experience here… For me, it has been like plowing snow for a while, to make way for a new ‘reality’ (put differently: another track on that universal DVD).

Except that metaphor doesn’t really convey how it felt for me going through this process. I really had to… how shall I put this? To a certain extent… I suppose… let’s say I had to do an awful lot to break free.

But to give a more accurate impression of how it really felt… and I beg your pardon for my Swahili… 

I had to really shovel some shit!

Evidently, it wasn’t always pleasant. Still, ‘shoveling my shit’ was the greatest liberation I ever felt. And my life has transformed magnificently.

You know, we create our reality based on what we believe, consciously and unconsciously. But here’s what I’ve learned on the process:

We may appear to believe something on a conscious level. But that’s often a front to hide what’s really going on subconsciously.

For example, you can see this with apparently highly confident people who are really consumed by severe self-doubt just below the conscious threshold.

Let me pull up my ‘Law of Attraction’-jargon vocabulary again for a moment:

  • The way what people call the ‘Law of Attraction’ works, is that energy (your energy) attracts energy of similar vibration. These energies manifest in the form of people, places, jobs, relationships, experiences, etc.
  • So once you awaken from your programming and consciously decide to make a change, the ‘energy matrix’ that you’ve been calling ‘your life’ begins to break down and change as well.
  • As a consequence, this must reflect itself in your ‘outer’ world of people, places, jobs, relationships and experiences. After all, the ‘outer’ is a reflection of the ‘inner’, and must and cannot do anything else but follow changes in the ‘inner’. 

We experience this as the life we knew ‘breaking down’. But what you’re really doing is breaking through to a new reality and thus to a new life experience. Your energy changes, which means that the people, jobs, places, experiences and relationships you ‘attract’ change as a consequence.

Now remember:

Turning yourself inside out can be different for everyone. After all, we all have our own issues locked up inside. So for some the process can be heavier, scarier, more unpleasant than for others… who might naturally flow into their new experience.

But the underlying mechanism is still the same. You have to change what you do and what you are, in order to change what you get. And what you attract is tailored to what you need, in order to experience whatever you want to experience.

And in most cases, that includes experiences that’ll help you ‘shovel your shit’… if you’re up for it.

Obviously, this transformation can be extremely challenging. After all, oftentimes needing to shovel your own shit isn’t even all… You’re also pressured to ‘stay in the box’… You know, the box that everyone’s used to (or rather: programmed to accept).

For example, those around you can be ruthless in their use of some sort of ‘emotional blackmail’ to stop you from expressing who you feel you truly are inside.

Parents and friends can be extremely cruel. And they’re often not even doing this consciously. It’s just that apparently the change you’re bringing about in their programmed reality can be quite confronting.

In the same way, we ourselves are often more concerned with what the neighbors, parents, boys at the bar, etc. think about what we do, rather than with pursuing with full dedication what we know makes our hearts sing.

Once again, I’m speaking from experience here. So many people don’t pursue their dreams, simply because they’re afraid of the reactions of other people. 

But as I’ve written multiple times already, to break free, we must not succumb to this, and let our intuition be our guide.

True enough, awakening people may experience challenges like losing their jobs, and seeing their friends, relationships and acquaintances change.

But let me ask you this: 

How can you free yourself from your programmed reality… the one you’re somehow not satisfied with in the first place… without changing the very lifestyle and mental/emotional/spiritual atmosphere that created that very programmed reality to begin with?

The trick is to trust in your intuition. And if you stick to it, you’ll eventually begin to see where it’s all leading you.

I once took note of this passage somewhere:

“True love does not always give the receiver what it would like to receive. But it will always give that which is best for it. So welcome everything you receive, whether you like it or not. Ponder on anything you do not like, and see if you can understand why it was necessary. Acceptance will then be very much easier.” 

What appears to be a problem can be a wonderful opportunity waiting to be discovered. Life often so brilliantly disguises our greatest gifts as our worst nightmare. 

But as said, if you stand your ground, before you know it you’ll notice your life has changed because of what you’ve experienced going through these challenges… NOT in spite of it. 

The trick is to trust your intuition… to trust what you KNOW is right for you… And then stand your ground, give it your best shot, and give it everything you got.

That’s right. Hang tough, and be confident in yourself. Trust who you truly are, and live that image with full self-esteem.

And you watch the brilliant mechanism of life helping you ‘shovel your shit’, ‘crack your egg’, and transform your energy and experience in order to live you dream.

You’ll be glad you did.

It’s like the Green Day song goes:

It’s something unpredictable
But in the end it’s right
I hope you had the time of your life.

Quick Tip Look Who’s Talking…
If you are feeling tempted to give up, I want you to do this…

Think about a time when something great happened in your life and you looked back at all of the events that went on before that thing happened.  All the trigger points, all the coincidences, all the pieces that fell into place.  Then I want you to look for the point in that journey when it seemed that NOTHING was going to turn out right.  When in fact it seemed that everything was falling apart.  You know, those times that you look back on AFTER the amazing thing has finally happened and you say, “Oh I get it…THAT’S why that happened!”

Use your history to keep you going.  Use your history to remind you that, sometimes it is in the moment you most want to thrown in the towel, that the ‘thing’ happens that triggers you to start down the right path that ultimately leads you to success!


I have recently overcome a lifelong depression and have been open to so many new programs that are helping me tremendously. 

I […] have just gone through your Go Big Now eBook.I am so thrilled with what is transpiring in my life right now and am looking forward to going through Ready, Aim, Success (next on my reading list).I know our paths have crossed for a reason and believe we were meant to continue to connect.

Thank you for taking the leap to share your knowledge with the world, I look forward to doing the same!”

– Tammy

23 Responses to “Standing Your Ground”

  1. Gilberto says:

    I agree with you. I’ll never give up and believe me, sometimes it’s hard to go on, but it’s always better to go on than giving up. Why? Because you’ll give up, you’ll go back. But if you’ll go on, you’ll have new chances. Thx. Gilberto (thenevergiveupman 😀 )

  2. Anne says:


    When you wrote this I felt it was a profound statement. Unfortunately many of us need it spelled out more fully and in living color.

    You have to change what you do and what you are, in order to change what you get. And what you attract is tailored to what you need, in order to experience whatever you want to experience.

    Could you please give us a concrete example in story format of someone who has changed the “do” and “are” and “get”.

    I think a good story would help us tremendously get from point A to point B and beyond.

    A personal reply would be graciously appreciated as I may miss you in the overload of emails I get every day.

    • Kristen says:

      Hi Anne!

      Sure thing! I am happy to give you a story and it is actually very close to me as it is from my life. Way back when I was struggling in NYC, walking dogs, barely making $300/week – I found myself at a crossroads…

      I could keep BEING who I was BEING – meaning I could keep thinking what I was thinking and believing what I was believing and acting how I was acting OR I could BE different. I realized that as long as I kept being the person I was, my life would follow the same path it always had. (This path for me was a massive roller coaster ride – of amazing successes followed by periods of barely getting by and starting from zero).

      Now, here’s the key – I had NO IDEA how to be different than I was – so I did 2 things…

      1. I started asking myself this question, “For me to have a life of one success leading to the next and the next and the next, and for me to be filled with joy and happiness in the process, what do I need to believe?”
      2. Then I asked myself this question, “If I DID believe what I needed to believe, what would I think/feel/do in this moment?”

      And then I would do it. Over time, I redefined myself – and now, I can’t even remember how it is to be the person I was then.

      Within 1 month – I had literally manifested an opportunity (out of thin air) to work with a best-selling author in his business. I shifted from $300/week to over $5000 per month and was in the front seat for the best groundwork, hands on training, that allows me to do what I do now.

      You can redefine yourself – be gentle and kind to yourself and use the 2 questions I just gave you!

      You are absolutely magnificent!


  3. Mal says:

    Thank you for this post, it’s very inspiring and really helps to keep me above ground. I can’t use my history becasue since years ago when all started to fall apart, it’s still falling. I understand it’s all my own doing, so I don’t complain.
    I last 2 years I spent more than 10k for different programs, coaches, CD, DVD, seminars etc. but nothing helped. Now I can’t even get more coaching as I spent all my monies.
    I will keep looking for a new path 🙂 and ask questions you suggested.
    Love & thanks

  4. Tom Gabriel says:

    Kristen, I just had to stop and comment on this post and thank you for sharing it! This one hits the nail on the head for so many experiences I have had and others I know have had and puts valuable perspective on them, something that most coaches, counselors, and gurus barely consider, let alone address specifically. This can leave people hanging in doubt and disbelief, wondering if they should just quit all this “spiritual” stuff altogether because it just doesn’t work, or seems to backfire in their faces (me included). You, almost alone among people writing and sharing information sources, are always looking for fresh, valid perspectives that can be shared, and I want to say that you are valuable, dedicated, trustworthy, and responsible! Thanks for all you do!

    • Kristen says:

      Thank you Tom! What amazing words, thank you for taking the time to share this. Thank you for being here and trusting me to be with you along your journey – it is an honor!

      You are extraordinary!

  5. Amy says:

    I like your message! I totally agree with you!

  6. Amy says:

    I sent you a comment/question earlier that I think got lost- or else I posted it in the wrong place. The title of this article “Standing Your Ground” made me think about something that has been bothering me lately. You are talking about not being afraid to be who you are- right? If so, then I have a question for you. I live in a state where almost every person I get together with belongs to one political party, and I belong to the other party. When my family and I get together with our friends, we often struggle- I know I do- because if we start discussing politics, they go into a long- often angry assertion of why their party is right and ours is wrong. I feel like I can’t be myself and be honest with them about my beliefs because I’m afraid they will get mad at me and possibly lose their respect for me. How can I tell them that I don’t have the same political beliefs- without offending them too much- or at all? I have been hiding the truth because I feel that people will be angry at me if I’m honest about this aspect of my beliefs, and I feel like I’m losing myself in the process. I can’t do this anymore. What do you think?

    • Kristen says:

      Hi Amy!

      Thanks for asking this question – and this is an interesting topic (that comes up a lot). Here’s my take on it – being yourself means being who you are within you no matter what – however, it doesn’t mean that you have to try to force other people to see things your way OR that if they don’t agree with you then somehow you are less.

      Who you are is not your politics, or your gender or your skin color or your beliefs – these are all aspects of who you are, and when you are truly yourself, then you honor those aspects about you, even when faced with people who don’t. Before you start feeling that you have to ‘get into’ discussions and arguments about what you believe, first start by getting clear (within you) about WHO you are – at your core. How do you treat yourself? How do you treat other people? How do you treat people who have differing views than you do? etc. You can be that person NOW and once you are so strong in that – once you believe in and love who you are so much that your point of view isn’t threatened by someone else and what they think of you, then you are ready for these discussions.

      I am NOT saying that you should pretend to have viewpoints you don’t. But choosing when it will be helpful to discuss versus harmful (to you and your sense of self) to discuss, that is the key.

      YOU are magnificent and you are not alone!

  7. Jenny says:

    Hi Kristen
    I found this statement
    “…we experience this as the life we knew ‘breaking down’. But what you’re really doing is breaking through ”
    to be quite profound – for me anyway. It is exactly what is happening at this time. No point for me to mentally whinge to the Universe about “this is not what I meant”. No point to keep saying “it’s getting worse, not better”. Definitely no point to keep asking “what about meeeeee”.
    The egg is cracking. I can work with this now.
    A very helpful post indeed. As usual Kristen, you have chosen the article well.

  8. Amy says:

    Thank you very much! You make very good- and valid points. Throughout the journey that started this year, I have found myself getting very angry at people who don’t agree with my political views. Well, there’s actually two things here, in this case, the frustration is partially valid, because of the reason for my anger and frustration. I’m not simply angry at people because they don’t belong to the same party. I have found- this year- during this Presidential election campaign, that the people who don’t belong to my party aren’t just standing up for their views- their expression of their views is full of underlying hatred, and prejudice for President Obama as a person. This is why I have been so frustrated. How do you go and get together with friends- who you think are generally on the same page as you- (generally speaking), and then suddenly you’re listening to them ranting about how the country has been stolen from them by an man who is secretly plotting to destroy us. This is what I’ve been listening to- these statements coming from people who I have known to be family friends. I feel like they’re trying to convince me of the accuracy of their claims. My main question for you is this- when you’re dealing with a situation like this, where people are overflowing with bigotry- how can you still be yourself with these people- who you still like and enjoy spending time with- but you are offended by their views in this one area?

    The second point is where you are right. I have found myself getting angry at Republicans-running for office and in Congress- just because I don’t agree with their views. Then, on a few occasions, I realized that I was doing the same thing to these people that they are doing to me and other Democrats. I’m getting angry because there are people who don’t share my political views- and that is wrong!

    • Kristen says:

      Hi Amy!

      Love how honest you are being with yourself – to be honest, the best answer I have for you is this…

      the people that you enjoy, spend time with them doing and talking about things you enjoy – explore where your minds and hearts meet as THAT is what is most important. Any time you can get into congruence with another person, that raises the vibration. You don’t have to get into congruence with them on a specific subject. Try it – and yes, you are smart to see the mirror reflecting back to you on the second point. Good for you!

      You are extraordinary!


  9. Amy says:

    I like your post. I also really like that statement- “We experience this as the life we knew “breaking down” but what we’re really doing is breaking through.” Reading your post helped me with my issues. Thank you.

  10. Amy says:

    Thank you very much! What would you do- though- if you got together with a friend- who you considered to be a very good and close friend- and- you’re having an innocent discussion about the issues that are facing people today- then suddenly this friend starts ranting and blaming the President for everything bad that has happened in the country- and you could feel that hate vibrating from her being as she made her comments? I’m very intuitive, and you don’t even have to be that intuitive to be able to tell when someone is spreading prejudiced lies and spewing hatred at you. How would you react if a friend started doing that around you?

    • Kristen says:

      Hi Amy – this is going to seem like a simple answer, but I would send love – as much as you can actively send love, the better! Even if you don’t see them change in that instant, you will be shifting the vibration!


  11. Amy says:

    Thank you, Kristen! In other words, use that experience as an opportunity to meditate and focus on sending positive energy to the people who are vibrating hatred. Any ideas for how I could- nicely- tell the friend that I disagree with her ideas and that she is hurting my feelings- without having her get angry at me?

    • Kristen says:

      Hi Amy!

      In that moment – try to just peacefully send love first – I would do this several times – also set the intention of love before you see her – sometimes that alone will shift the energy and you may find that she doesn’t even go into a tirade. I want to be clear – when I say send love, you really need to just focus on love (not on trying to shift the hatred, if you focus on trying to shift the hatred you are actually focusing on hatred) 🙂


  12. Lainey says:

    Hi, Kristen!

    Thank you so much for your wonderful articles! There was so much in this particular issue that rang true to me, so I simply wanted to thank you for the time and effort you put into sending your readers information and insights that have the potential to change their lives and realities DRASTICALLY! You’re truly doing amazing work 🙂


    • Kristen says:

      Hi Lainey!

      Thank YOU for being here and for taking the time to send your gratitude to me – that means a lot!

      I’m thrilled to be here with you on your journey!

      You are extraordinary!

  13. Amy says:

    Thank you, Kristen! Actually, the frustration I have been telling you about has not just been with one person. This is an experience we have been facing in our family with many people that we have talked to- friends, co-workers, the bartender at our favorite neighborhood bar. Whenever we were around these people and started getting engaged in a heated discussion about the issues facing people in America today, the discussion quickly turned to one of prejudice against President Obama. I wonder if they think we can’t tell?! People don’t come right out and say that they hate him or are prejudiced- but the way they express their views, the hatred jumps right off of them and fills (at least me) with anger- at those people who are acting that way. I can totally accept the fact that people have different beliefs, but when people spew hatred at me- prejudiced hatred- I feel like screaming! That is the situation I have been describing to you.

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