Have you lost hope?

The other night I sat around talking with 2 of my closest friends.

We were talking about losing people you love and the process you go through afterward to reclaim your life…

We all agreed that when you go through losing someone who is very important to you, there is a healthy amount of ‘The small stuff doesn’t matter’ that follows…

And that’s a good thing!

However, one of my friends made the very good point that there is a flip side to that when you are suddenly faced with the reality that we are all going to live and then we are going to die and that flip side is the natural impulse to wonder why any of it matters.

Then she said the most amazing thing…

She said, “I feel like I’ve lost the constant hope I used to have.  I’m still looking for it, but if I’m being honest, I’ve lost my hope.”

When she said this her eyes were so clear and honest and real…

I said, “Isn’t that just hope showing up differently?”

“What do you mean?” she asked…

“Well, you’ve lost your hope but you are still looking for it…so you have hope you’ll re-discover your hope…”

Her eyes lit up…

“Yeah, funny…you’re right.” She seemed relieved…

Here’s the deal…

When it seems like you’ve lost your hope, for whatever reason…

Ask yourself if you still truthfully feel that you are looking to have hope again…

Sometimes emotions show up in different ways than we are used to…

They have to re-design themselves so that we’ll notice them and feel them and not always recognize them…

Have you lost hope?

About anything…you can lose hope in one area and not another…

  • You can lose the hope that you’ll ever be wealthy, but know that you have love
  • You can lose the hope that you’ll live your dreams, but know you can make lots of money
  • You can lose hope that you’ll ever feel excited about your life but know you can be healthy

So, have you lost hope?

Do you feel yourself looking for it…wondering if you’ll find it right where you left it?

Then let me give you the good news…

You still have it…

It is never too late for hope…

It is never too late to believe that things can change…

It is never too late to live an extraordinary life…

You can do it…one step at a time!

Don’t hesitate…

Leave me a comment and tell me where you have hope!

Go Big!


29 Responses to “Have you lost hope?”

  1. Well, still have the same enthusiasm. No worries here.

    Go big!


  2. manish says:

    Exactly what i needed right now.



  3. Linda says:

    Knowledge in financial freedom is the power I seek, and hoping for the lessons in the learning has been the first step, reading, listening, planning, focusing on the intention and now taking the action have all been the steps to heading in the right direction.Hopeful for what I want works for me.

  4. bart van hoeck says:

    I\’m not giving up…..yet cause i\’m only getting started……..:)

    Giving up now is missing out on life and all it still holds and will soon reveal to everyone whom endures the whole process. Still there are moments that negative little voice want to climb back up and take control over everything so i\’m always looking for the foor knob so i can smack the door right in it\’s face and that little negative voice can scream & shout all that i have to do is move forward and go get my dreams.

    lets go BIIIIIG!!


  5. Leila says:

    Hi Kristen,

    Thanks for your post. I still have hope for all areas of my life.

  6. Moses says:

    I always livemy life in hope. I have several alternatives of hope. If am resigning from a job, I have much more hopes for a better one. I now hope am finding a better job in 2010
    I am workiing hard at finding one, with all the hope

  7. Bernard says:

    I have hope this world will change for the better, more prosperity for everybody, more justice for all, more opportunity arisinfg as people everywhere realize we are all one family under God.
    I have hope I will experience fulfilling love in my family (now divided), in my relationships personal and business. I have hope Peace will become the major focus in the world starting with internal peace and going all the way up to governments and NGOs.
    I have hope these personal development sites will reach more people and empower them to make changes in their lives and so spread teh positive benefits around
    I have hope thongs are getting better everyday

  8. Mike says:

    Because of my past I feel like I don’t have anything,to look forward to.


  9. Rosemary says:

    Dr. Anthony said something about “hope” that I think is relevant here. Can’t remember it perfectly, but living in hope means we don’t “know” that what we want, the Universe wants even more than we do. We are here to express, and our dreams and desires are the basis for our experiences.

    So, I am already wealthy.
    I am healthy (that’s for sure).
    I am a good problem solver (just got presented with a whole bunch more to solve for a client).
    I am living my dreams, thoughts, aspirations (another word for hope?), goals, etc.

    I also know that the world is getting better. This financial downturn is opening people’s eyes to the danger that surrendering our power and liberty to an all-powerful government, or NGO, or organization, or even another person represents, so that we are looking deeply into ourselves to find the strength and wisdom there.

    Thank you for at least raising the issue of hope. It’s great that people so respond to your posts.


  10. O. Erel says:

    Beautifully written and very true.
    Thank you for the wounderful post

    It’s good to see the great teaching of LOa are catching on all over the world

  11. Chris says:

    Hi Kristen, I think hope is like our intuition, its a part of us, we feel down, then some thought will lift us up. I suppose we have to work thru the loss before we make room for the hope. Its our desire for what we want in our life that gives us hope. We all desire more. :o) C

  12. karen says:

    thank you! without hope we have nothing, even when we think we have come to the end of everything, it is hope that makes us keep trying!!!!

  13. joe says:

    this comment is me in a nut shell,now I just try to survive!
    “She said, “I feel like I’ve lost the constant hope I used to have. I’m still looking for it, but if I’m being honest, I’ve lost my hope.”

  14. Claudie says:

    No I never lose hope as life has a habit to come up with another challenge, another hope.

    A very nice post


  15. S.Meenachi says:

    Yes,I have some hope.That’s why at the age of 55
    I still feel I could do something for myself,be what I want and achieve something for myself

  16. What do you do when you are working toward the same goal as your partner and you are being positive and they are discouraged and being negative? Will their negativity counteract the positive vibration you have achieved, or will the negative take over the situation? We are working together to accomplish a common goal, but we seem to be sitting on different polarities in dealing with it.

  17. Kevin Jeeps says:

    I don’t need hope, because I have (self-) belief.

    Have a great day and belated birtday wishes for yesterday, from one K to another!

  18. Diane says:

    I agree with your analogy, Kristen. Thank you for being an inspiration to us all.

    Go Big!

  19. Rosemary says:

    Ah, another blast from the past!

    Last night, a friend of mine who is something of a Native American shaman, wrote that the world is going through a great cleansing, and that some people are trying to clean up all their dirty kharma in one lifetime. She called that hubris. Almost sounded fatalistic to me, so momentarily I lost . . . hope?

    No, although the economic situation continues to worsen, and I observe many people just giving up (their homes, mostly, but also their efforts), I know I, and others of good will, can act with integrity, honesty and (tough?) love and help lead the way to opportunity and hope for a better future, indeed a better present.

    Thanks for the reminder.


  20. Abbie says:


    I work in circumstances that is challenging. The colour of white is a major issue and you are totally blessed for having a job opportunity to support your family. I am a driver and can honestly tell you, without God, Love, Faith and Believe I cannot fulfill what is presented to me. Discrimination, victimisation, intimidation is on your daily calender, and much more! Despite all, I get up every day being blessed and serve my God foremost, because when I die I will stand before my Father and He will require answers from me and not my Leadership colleagues. Hope is what caresses our cheeks when we feel hopeless, warms the heart when we are hurt and comforts us when we are lost. If I can do it – you can. Go BIG!!!

  21. Jan says:

    I left my novel-writing critique group the other day feeling very downcast and hopeless that I would ever finish the novel I’m writing. Not that my fellow members said anything harsh, but I’m disappointed at my own progress (or lack thereof) and was wondering if I’m a poser not a writer.

    But, came the answer, sometimes you have to start from ground zero, hit rock bottom — pick your metaphor. In great stories, there’s always an “all is lost” moment just before the final triumph.

    There’s a false hope that says, “LALALALA,” in the face of the reality of what I need to do. There’s a real hope that takes one small step forward even though it appears “hopeless” and accepting that the way will clear as you walk.

    Thanks for your thought-provoking post.

  22. ozlem says:

    Dear Kristen,
    I just realised when I read this that I lost hope of finding my true love but I have high hopes of beco?ming wealthy. Actually, I want both and I can have both. Why should I settle for one while I can find both? Is this my mind compensating?

  23. Mark Danner says:

    You only lose hope when you give up. There are so many in this world that have given up. It is our responsibility to encourage those that have given up to keep moving forward.


  24. Orlando says:

    Hello Kirsten, thank you very much for directing me to this blog, but I guess you caught me in a dark part of my day because although I’m sure things can change I feel like I’m losing hope and the desire to keep trying, every time I feel like there is some light at the end of the tunnel something drags me down, and I just can’t seem to make steady improvements, and there just isn’t one aspect of my life (professional or personal) with which I feel even close to having what I want.

  25. Martina says:

    I’m trying hard to hold on. I haven’t given up completely but I am losing hope and faith. The issue is my home and I don’t want to lose it!

  26. Rosemary says:

    Martina: Please don’t give up hope that you can keep your home. As a Realtor, I know there are confusing and seemingly endless solutions, laws, changes in regulations regarding loans, and the like. Have you tried for a loan modification? While quite flawed, there are government sponsored programs that can help you do that. Please contact the Real Estate division of your state, or reach out to your congressman or senator for tips on who would be the right person or agency to guide you through the process.

    You might also think about contacting a Realtor in your area. Ask some of your friends for referrals. Many of us want to help to right this real estate ship that appears to be foundering more every day.

    And also, please know, there is someone in Sparks, NV who wishes you well in your efforts.

  27. Anoot says:

    Thank you.

  28. Josie says:

    I am wondering where my hope has gone. I used to be brave enough to push through and pray lots. Now I pray more for the courage to move on. Somewhere there is hope and I will find it again.

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