What do you do when you fall off a horse?

What do you do when you fall off a horse?

YOU GET BACK ON AGAIN!

So, what do YOU REALLY do when you fall off a horse?

Chances are good if you are like most people I talk to…

When you fall off a horse, you probably think up suitable punishments and/or means to rectify your fall.  Think of all the ways you can try even harder and do even more to make up for the fall and make it appear as if it didn’t happen at all…

Some people decide not to punish themselves, but instead look to place the blame for the fall on someone else…

And other people pretend they never fell at all, shove their heads in the sand and ignore it…

It doesn’t matter how you handle falling…what does matter is that it takes precious time and energy…here’s what I mean…

Falling off the horse isn’t setback…the setback comes in the beating ourselves up, thinking how we’ve let ourselves down, about all this will cost us and what failures we are and how we are weak and not committed and lack follow through and will NEVER have what we want BLAH BLAH BLAH! We spend so much time and energy in all of that muck and mire that by the time we’re done it seems impossible to get back on the horse.

THAT’S the real setback…if you just fell and got back up again without taking the time to beat yourself up, look for someone to blame or pretend it never happened, you’d be surprised how small the impact of inevitable falls are…

Ask anyone who rides, ‘What do you do when you fall off a horse?’

It isn’t just a saying…I GUARANTEE they will answer, ‘Get back on again.’

Then ask them, ‘When?’

I PROMISE they’ll say, ‘RIGHT AWAY!’

You’re going to fall off the horse…there…I’ve freed you…given you permission…told your future.

Leave me a comment to let me know these 2 things…

Before this moment, what did YOU do when you fell off a horse?

After this moment, what will YOU do when you fall off a horse?

Go Big!

Kristen


28 Responses to “What do you do when you fall off a horse?”

  1. kay says:

    wow–got a little emotional reading that.
    Before this moment, allow shame and fear.
    After this moment, hopefully courage and compassion. Hopefully realize — I am where I am and where I am is where I’m supposed to be and this is a good bouncing off place for a better life, wisdom, and Oneness.

  2. I answered that question the same way.

    Josh.

  3. kay says:

    Me too Josh– my first thought was answering it the same way. But am trying to think different. They say if u change the way u think, things change. So —- we’ll see..

  4. Rev George Wesley Tagoe says:

    The downfall of a man is not the end of his life.Morning has been all night coming.No matter what happen in life you must get up,dress up,and show up.

  5. Leila says:

    Hi Keristen,

    Before I used to sulk and make up (with myself or whoever), sometimes it didn’t take long and sometimes it took forever. Now, I don’t want to waste any of that time – which doesn’t mean I won’t ever sulk again but I can guarantee it won’t take so long.

  6. Bernard says:

    Falling off the horse would usually bring me down and lose the confidence that things are/will change for the better
    Now I´m trying to accept it as part of a natural process. We need to be reminded of this
    Thanks for the reminder!!

  7. Velda says:

    Amazing!

  8. PANCHA says:

    I ACTUALLY DID FALL OFF A HORSE IT WAS THE FIRST TIME I RODE. I TRIED TO RIDE FAST LIKE THE OTHERS, & DIDN’T KNOW HOW TO STOP! THE HORSE DECIDED TO STOP SUDDENLY AND I FELL OFF. I HAD ONE LEG IN THE STIRRUP, AND MY BODY UNDER HIM. I LOOKED UP, DIDN’T HURT ANYWHERE & JUST BEGAN TO RELAX. MY BUDDIES GOT OVER THERE QUICK & GOT ME LOOSE. I FELT NO RUSH, UNTIL I NOTICED IT WAS A MALE HORSE & VERY BIG..BOY, DID I HURRY UP THEN WHEN I RELIZED HE COULD RELIVE HIMSELF AT ANY MOMENT!! I GUESS THE LESSON IS–GET UP QUICK CAUSE IT CAN GET WORSE JUST AS FAST!!!

  9. What I meant was, that I answered the question this way. I always get back on the horse and do my thing until it is done right. (Now do you get it Kay?) And Kristen, I shortly blurbed that answer, because I am busy on my horse riding if you know what I mean.

    Go Big!

    Josh.

  10. bart van hoeck says:

    I tend to still punish myself at sometimes and at some point i get the feeling again of falling apart.SO you can easly say there are still old pains remaining behind.I have a mother whom doesn’t believe in much then the old believes of the rat race.
    My dad doesn’t really know the whole deal but sees my doing better and is then happy about it.
    To fall of your horse happens to the best but then it’s not alwayw easy to get back up cause it can create blockadges when NOT having the right people around whom have been there and have made it. And still fall of the horse at some times but i know that every moment i have to deal with it i’m still a winner and the others are the losers cause they rather stick to the rat race and believe they are happy but show no sign’s of that.
    SO to go BIG is all there is but some still try to put me back into this old pattern i’m more into breaking free from and becoming a whole diffirent person,and this makes one at some points really pissed of at them.
    So to BIG is all there is cause we are all born as winner but half way down your life some try to convince you of diffirent.
    If to quote words from Bob Proctors winners image there is said we are god’s greatest

    creation and are born with the tools in our minds to gain the abundance but like said non have told you will be falling down but without faith in ourself and to to pull thru we will fall of out horse every time & not knowing what you can achieve will make a person quite half way when there are so close to achieving there goals so i have to remind myself i’m better then what people tell me to be and i’m stronger then the others for i’m going to continiu with this cause i would love to see that the year 2010 becomes a better year then this and that everything i’ve lost along the way will some way return to me.

    GOING BIG,

    Bart

  11. Rosemary says:

    Bart’s post was closest to my reaction:

    When I fall off the horse, I almost always get up and push harder until I get it done. How soon depends on how much emotion I allow myself to wallow in, emotions such as I’ve blown it, I am being punished for not doing the right thing, I’m so frustrated that it’s not working yet, etc. It’s never someone else’s fault, even if someone else has confronted me with the problem, or someone has let me down. At least, I’m not that far gone.

    AFter this: I’ll just shorten the time between falling off and getting on again.

  12. priya says:

    Hi after readingyour article, i felt that i fell off the horse long time ago but my ego has not accepted that i dropped down, so i was covering a mask. You article gave me a insight that i dropped down.. Thanks a ton for that bcoz i feel only if you know that you are fall down you take attempt to ride again.. Hopefully i get the courage soon to ride the horse

  13. abdul says:

    hell kristen
    yes, i’ve been falling from many horses since many years ago. and i for sometime feel v.bad
    and i tell myself i’ll never try again any thing.
    but, then i encourage myself to try another thing
    again. i’ve been trying many things in life in order to work for me. especially IM. but everytime
    i encounter with difficulties and i spend alot of money and i gain nothing. till i think got to the
    end. but again i find a new begining and start all over again. what to do this is life; as long as we breathe we have to live.
    thanks
    abdul

  14. Sandy says:

    Pancha! I loved that story. It’s excellent and exactly where I am. I’m on the ground, glad I’m not hurt and procrastinating but oh! I’d better realize it truly could get worse and I don’t want that! Thanks for your story. Let you guys know how I’m doing. Send me your best vibes and thanks!

  15. Theolyn says:

    My whole life I’ve been to afraid of doing anything/everything for fear of failure, and still I’ve fallen more times than I can count. When I fall I beat myself up so badly to a point of despising my reflection in the mirror. My greatest deception was my own opinion about myself. Since reading the Law of Attraction Articles I learnt to forgive myself and purposefully find reasons to celebrate myself and/or accomplishments daily, however mundane it may seem. Everyday is beautiful! . . . I AM beautiful!. Kristen I Bless You and Thank you for being a Blessing to me.

  16. Roy says:

    Hi

    Virtually everyday I fall off my horse and the very next day I get back on my horse. This has now been going on for almost 2 years. I thought I found a way to no longer fall off, but every time I feel I have fixed the problem, I fall off again. I get back on and fall off day after day.

    It is becoming extremely serious and I no longer know what to do to make sure I no longer fall off and hurt myself and my family. I have read so many books on “my horse” and on attracting the good things into your life, that any other books I now read on the subjects appear to be the same words, but in a different arrangement-same message over and over again.

    Two years ago, I decided to get on my horse-I wanted to be a fulltime self employed currency trader, working from home, generating my own income and benefiting from the additional time that I could spend with my family. I was tired of the dead-end job, the daily 4 hour commute to and from work and I wanted my freedom. But my freedom has come at a price.

    My savings/redundancy money ran out long time ago. We had to stop paying the school fees for my daughter so that we could make the mortgage payments. My unemployment benefit has come to an end and I have no idea where I am going to find the additional cash to meet the monthly expenses. The credit card was maxed out and I had to resort to insurance cover to meet the monthly payments, so the credit card is no longer valid.

    I have applied for so many jobs, I have lost count. The vacancies have dried up in my area of experience and all I see is the same jobs now advertised by different recruitment agencies. The market appears dead at present. I have been looking for work since October 2008 and have employed strategies of direct approach (so-called unadvertised job markets) as well as recruitment agents.

    Every day I get up and look for currency trading opportunities. Sometimes I make some money, but most days are losing days-falling off the horse! Yes this gets me down, yet every day I get up and and work at it. It is frustrating and depressing when whatever strategy you try never seems to work. My trading capital is also running out and once again I have no idea what to do.

    I have asked God/Universe or whatever name you wish to ascribe for help and understanding in rectifying the issues that I face, but I cannot yet see the solution to my situation. I have tried to let go and “let God” as they teach in the various Law of Attraction stuff, but I am still waiting. There is the thought that no matter what, you should trust God that everything will turn out fine.

    How many time do I have to fall off my horse and get back on? How dark does it have to be before the sun rises?

    I am hurting financially, emotionally and mentally and am at my wits end. I have a responsibility has a husband and father to my family and cannot fail them.

    Tomorrow is another to ride my horse.

  17. Ayman Baroudi says:

    More I know you more I believe in you

  18. William Clapp says:

    Been getting back on for 30 years Kristen… I like you!! 🙂

  19. PANSY PIERCE says:

    I would get back on immediately.
    PP

  20. Geoff Hirst says:

    First time I rode I fell off too, and got dragged about 500 yards over walls as my foot was stuck in stirrup. Not nice. However, when horsey did stop and I was able to ‘get back on’ I did. I had to or else a fear of horses would have grown.

    There is another, perhaps humourous, way to look at this.

    If at first you don’t succeed, remove any evidence you tried.

    At least then everyone knows that you never failed at anything because you never tried anything. Good for you. Stay on the treadmill.

    Just remember that the guy who invented the lightbulb didn’t do it in the first go, in fact Thomas Edison had about 5000 tries, before he got it right.

    We evaluate results, adjust, try again. Keep the cycle, it works eventually.

  21. Larry says:

    Kristen,

    It’s hard to believe all this ageless wisdom and spunk can come out of a young lady as yourself. Thank you so very much for telling it like it is. I need a good slap in the face from time to time.
    Thanks
    Larry

    Larry

  22. alejandra says:

    You are absolutely right. What a waist of time to feel guilty about falling. But I´ve experienced this feelings whenever anything went wrong. I will be more aware now, and get on the horse right away (if my subconsious programming allows me to, at least I laugh at it now).

  23. tim says:

    I have been falling off of my ‘financial’ and ‘relationship’ horse for years. I recently managed to save $500 a major goal for me. Went out and blew it over the weekend. You’d think that after living from paycheck to paycheck for years this would be easy. But for me money goes through my fingers like water – so I’ll start over next payday and keep on -keeping on.

  24. Susan says:

    Sometimes I get right back on the horse, other times I lay in the grassy meadow watching the clouds swirl about. The fall is a chance to decide -“Do I really need to ride right now?”

  25. Don says:

    There are many areas in life where we may “fall off”. I have fallen off, dumped my motorcycle, What did I do? Learned from what happened and got back on the bike as soon as it was possible.
    I have been through relationships that have failed. What did I learn? To be more aware of myself and what is happening. To love and accept myself completely before offering love to another. To keep trying and keep Learning.

    What will I do now? Learn, Laugh, Let it go, and keeping trying with more fervor. Each day is a blessing.

  26. piamaria says:

    Oh boy!… this article came to at just such time, … feeling quite bruised, more from ‘beating myself up’ than from the fall …. Yes, I’m feeling fear about getting back on and riding forth, yet this is the step to take … Thank you Kristen !

  27. Rob says:

    Hi,

    This is actually a response to the above comment’s by Roy.Your story really resonated with me.The seemingly never ending cycle of frustration you are encountering must indeed seem like it will never get better.I sympathize with you…I too have my difficulties financially,and work daily at bettering my situation,finding more work in my line of work,but at the moment it does in fact feel as though the market is dead at present.
    I don’t prescribe to having the solutions but I admire your will and fortitude and truly wish your situation does turn around and that your faith will be rewarded…”this too shall pass”

    Good luck,it’s comforting to know at least there are people out there that are in a similar situation…

  28. PANSY PIERCE says:

    THIS HAS HAPPENED TO ME TOO MANY TIMES TO NAIL
    IT DOWN TO ONE FALL. I DID EVALUATE WHERE AND WHAT IT DID WRONG. I SOME TIMES WANTED TO TRULY ABONDON THE RIDE AGAIN BUT NOW I LOOK FOR THE LESSON VS THE WHO’S FAULT IT WAS.

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