Improve your “self-talk” with 3 easy steps!

Welcome back to the current issue of the Law of Attraction Key Newsletter!

How often are you brought up short by that inner voice that tells you, “You can’t” or, “You failed” or, “It’s too late” or, “You’re a disappointment” or anything else of this limiting and self-judging nature?

I have two pieces of good news for you…

  • You’re not alone.
  • Rick Luck is here today to share a simple 3 step process to instantly improve the quality of your self-talk.

The fact of the matter is that most of us would never let someone else speak to us the way we allow ourselves to speak to and about us. You can reverse negative self-talk, and this article today is going to help you start right now!

I can’t wait to hear your comments after you read it for yourself.

I know I’ve said this before, but it is important that you know how thankful I am for your comments after each magazine issue – they mean so much to the Law of Attraction Key Community, so please keep them coming! I DO answer and comment back. Remember, your question or comment may be just what someone else needs to hear as well – what an amazing way for us all to raise the vibration together!

I also know that many of you have started sharing the articles and resources at the Law of Attraction Key Magazine with your friends and family and I REALLY appreciate that – we are raising the vibration of the world together – thank you!

Life Mastery Is Yours!

Kristen

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“Beliefs are the foundation for
your inner dialogue. The moment
you start telling yourself what you
CAN’T be, do or have, it is time
to change your beliefs.”

— Kristen Howe

 

Improve your “self-talk” with 3 easy steps!

By Richard A. Luck

Did you know that you talk to yourself all day long?

No, not the mental chatter about activities and chores that you need to remember throughout the day. That’s a form of self-talk too – but I’m referring to the things you say to yourself on a regular basis; and more importantly, the tone in which you say them.

When you make a mistake, do you berate yourself angrily? Do you put yourself down or call yourself derogatory names?

When you have a hard time making positive changes in your life, do you bemoan what a “worthless” person you are and conclude that you can’t do anything right?

Negative self-talk can be incredibly damaging to your self-esteem, especially if it’s a big part of your daily life. When you keep saying things like that to yourself, eventually you begin to BELIEVE them!

Highest self-esteem and self-confidence are two of the “keys” to unlocking the door to your desires.

Most often these negative messages begin as statements uttered by the adults in your life when you were a child…. They may have said something negative about you when your actions displeased them, or perhaps they had a habit of saying unkind things even when you didn’t deserve it.

As painful as these experiences can be, even worse is when you pick up where they left off and keep repeating the same negative messages to yourself over and over!

Keep on reading to find out the 3 steps to change your “self-talk”…

 

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The good news is that you can change your “self-talk” any time you want. The first step is to become AWARE of the ‘tone’ of your messages and consciously ‘replace’ them with more encouraging ones.

Try these simple steps for starters:

Step 1: Develop AWARENESS of your self-talk.

It may take practice, but if you start “listening” in to your inner voice, you’ll begin to notice when you talk negatively to yourself.

Step 2: CHALLENGE the negative messages.

When you notice yourself saying something negative such as, “You’re such a screw-up, you can’t do anything right” – Stop yourself and challenge that belief. Is that really true? Maybe you mess up sometimes, but do you ALWAYS mess up? Probably not.

Step 3: REPLACE these negative messages with positive messages.

When you realize you’re saying unkind and untrue things to yourself, simply TURN IT AROUND in your mind.

Using the above example, you might say, “Wow, that’s not true at all! I do plenty of things right. It’s true I make mistakes, but so does everyone. I’m a good person and I try my best.”

Over time, your efforts will pay off in the form of stronger self-esteem and RESPECT for yourself and your capabilities. It probably won’t happen overnight, but the more you work at turning your self-talk in a more positive direction, the better you’ll feel about yourself.

 

Quick Tip Look Who’s Talking…
One of my favorite things to do to quiet negative self-talk is this…

Ask yourself, “Whose thought is this?”

Here’s the deal – most of our negative self-talk isn’t even of our own creation.  Think about how freeing it will be when you realize that the negative thing you are saying to yourself, in any given moment, isn’t even your thought or belief…

When you try this for the first time you will feel exactly what I mean.

So, start asking yourself this question, “whose thought is this?” every time you find yourself in negative self-talk.

You will feel it when the thought isn’t yours – when it is a thought you assumed was yours, but it isn’t, and you ask this question, the power of the negative self-talk immediately dissipates.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Good morning!! 

I started using your ideas the last week in February, during March my sales doubled!! 

I work at Verizon in retail in a small town. I never thought it was possible to make the numbers I did. I changed my thoughts and my customers came in and bought. I truly doubled my sales in 30 days!!! Can’t wait till April and I believe April will be even better!!! Thank you so much!! .

Btw, my store is not in a rich area; the customers didn’t change – I changed and I made the decision to be confident. Every day I wake up and say I am the best and I am successful. I do not use the words I can’t anymore!! 

Thank you for your programs, I truly appreciate all of them!!”

– Gene M.

 

 

 


37 Responses to “Improve your “self-talk” with 3 easy steps!”

  1. andrew says:

    Thank you Kresten….am grateful of the changes you do in my life..God bless you

  2. lisa says:

    thank you!

  3. Larry says:

    Thanks for doing good things, Kristin. You a light that shines!

  4. Euchariste says:

    Hi,

    thank you for your tips.

  5. Joe deMoncada says:

    Quantum Physics is awesome and once it is understood and applied to ones life, amazing things start to happen. It is a universal law that can help us if we know how to use it.

  6. Florence Butale says:

    Thank you Richard for the amazing article.

  7. nasrullah baki says:

    hi,
    what an amazing! I’m realistically following your 3 steps damage negative thoughts. It works.

  8. Isabel says:

    Rick, what if the voices are right? I mean, wouldn’t it be better to be prepared for the reality, other than fooling yourself with words that might not be true?

    • Kristen says:

      Hi Isabel,

      Any thoughts that limit you or take away from who you are as a person are just that – limiting thoughts and negative self-talk.

      I believe in you!
      Kristen

  9. Barbara Clark says:

    I think the awareness of the inner voice of negativity is key to stopping it. We would never, ever say those things to a friend. Thank you for these lessons in having a better life! Barbara Clark

  10. Tricia says:

    Hello to all!

    Interesting angle on self-talk. I’m one of those lucky ones in that I do not get into negative self-talk even when I make big mistakes. On the other hand, I do not walk around with my head in the clouds either. I love myself, though I am not a narcissist. My question is, how do you straighten out a situation in which negative things often come your way even though you engage in generally positive self-talk and do your best to avoid the limiting beliefs? I do my very best even though I am totally blind and have a significant hearing impairment.

  11. ofentse says:

    thanks dear about the self talk principle can you make it clear about subconscious mind as inner voice.

  12. Curtis says:

    Hi Kristen,
    The steps described in this article work for me, and some negative thouputghts do stem from critical talk and thoughts from my parents, though I realize it was simply their way of trying to make me better through their “tough love judgement”. They really didn’t know how to put things in more loving and child-friendly terms, and I can see it is relative to their own rough and traumatic childhoods (both my Mom and Dad had lost their parents in their early teen years). I want to do better for my kids. Lately I’v been noticing my 5 year old son being self-critical when doing or trying new or challenging things. He’s quick to throw in the towel and say “I’m not good enough” or “I can’t do it!”. I try negating this with big praise and encouragement, but by then it seems too late; it’s like he has literally crippled himself from even trying or practicing by saying these negative words to himself. He loses the will to even try because he’s made up his mind that he can’t, no matter what. So my question is: Do you have any advice for teaching

    • Kristen says:

      Hi there!

      Great question – when you notice this happen – instead of trying to ‘talk him out of it’ – try helping him raise his vibration – ask him to tell you about the last time he laughed out loud – totally change the subject and then when his vibration is higher and positive, ask him, what is a different way we can look at what happened before? What is a way you could see that you are good enough? When you raise vibration first and then ask him questions so he comes to positive conclusions himself, it is much more powerful for him! Try it and let me know how it goes!

  13. Derib says:

    Dear Kristen!

    I really appreciate YOU and the four words: “whose thought is this”.

    Thank You!

  14. Ed Nemec says:

    I have started doing this awhie ago and sometimes it isn’t so easy. But with each occorance of negative thinking, I get better at being in the moment.

  15. Vilma says:

    Hi Kristen,
    Thank you so very much for sharing this great lessons.

  16. Donna says:

    Kristen, Love your messages. Raising our vibrational level and that of this planet is so important now. So grateful for what you are doing. I have found positive self-talk helpful. When I catch the negative comments, I imagine a little hologram of myself and reprogram the thoughts. It seems to help.

  17. adina j hart says:

    Dear Kristen,
    This is a very wise article by Richard Luck, as well as holding much truth, and a tool which can help improve self talk to be what it should be, i.e. Positive!

    Thanks to you and Richard,
    Warmly Adina

  18. Thanks for the reminder about negative self-talk. My sister came to visit me from Los Angeles. She is a wonderful person, but her presence and the attitudes she has about money show me where my fear of poverty comes from.

    Things are going well in my business, so I’ll have to watch the negative self-talk about not being able to handle more than I have now. I have five deals in escrow, and more prospects coming in every day. Yes, I can set up a better contact management system. Yes, I can service more clients and give them the same level of service. Yes, I can make more money and finally pay myself a salary again. Yes, I can overcome my fears about taxes taking everything. Yes, I can!

    Rosemary

  19. Chaitanya says:

    Hi Kristen! Whenever dark clouds of negative beliefs seem to cover my mind, I open your site for one of these inspirations… your messages have always been like sunshine…. Thank you.

  20. jusna says:

    Thank you Kirsten. Its a simple way in being aware of self talk and changing the thoughts in ones mind. Thank you once again. Jusna

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