Scared to be too pushy or salesy?

I know there are many of you trying to get something out there into the world…

For some of you it’s a new business for others it’s a form of creative expression or way of impacting the world…

It doesn’t matter what it is, what matters is that you get it out there and I know that for most of you there is probably fear that goes along with that. You don’t want to be pushy or salesy or annoy the people you know and love…

But let me tell you something important about this…

And I’ll actually use this blog to illustrate my point…

Here’s the truth…

The more I blog, the more responsive people are…the more people ask for my help, hire me as a coach, bring me on to speak etc.

What does this mean to me about life and more specifically living the life we want to design, achieving our aspirations, being the people we desire to be?

I’ll tell you (you knew I would)!

It means that when we want to get something out there or make something known or get people on board with something we have to take the other people into account.

Now this is where I flip what we normally do on it’s ear!

How we normally ‘Take other people into account’ is by ASSUMING we will annoy them or bother them…we think they will grow weary of us…so we mention something in passing and then let it go…assuming that if it is important to them or resonates with them they will pick up the ball and run with it, gleefully letting us know how what we have is exactly what they’ve been waiting for.

Let’s be honest, if we REALLY ‘Take other people into account’ we will realize that there are so many distractions and so much stimuli flying around all at all times, that if we just mention something in passing, chances are great that our thing or message or whatever will automatically shift to the back of their brains, not because they are being mean or don’t care, but just because that is how it is.

BEFORE I GO ON LET ME CLARIFY…You should also NEVER ASSUME that they are all ears and sitting around all day every day just waiting for your message or thing or whatever…I’m NOT saying be annoying…I’m not saying harass people…in fact you should always give people the chance to respectfully decline…

Here’s the thing…you only want to be talking to people who want to hear what you have to say AND I guarantee you that there are a lot more people that actually do want to hear what you have to say than you think.

To boil it down, I’m saying is this…

‘If you don’t toot your own horn, someone else will pick it up and hit you over the head with it.’

Toot it with respect for the people listening…
Toot it with confidence but not OVER confidence or false bravado…
Toot it and know that NOT everyone will like the sound of your particular horn…

Keep in mind…tooting your own horn doesn’t mean talking about yourself or bragging…it means putting what you want out there and letting it be known…you never know who has the key to a door for you!

And remember…listen for when you might have the key to a door for someone else…because that’s a powerful thing!

Leave me a comment right now and answer this question…

What have you quietly kept to yourself or mentioned only in passing, that it’s time to claim loudly now?

(This could be a dream as big as wanting to run for President or it could be as simple as speaking up and saying that you have always wanted to have the Vintage Cameras that used to be in your Grandmother’s house.)

Go Big!

Kristen

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Law of Attraction | Kristen | November 20, 2009 6:43 pm

14 Comments

By Russ, November 20, 2009 @ 7:01 pm

Well, yes, and no. Afraid? Yes, have to admit that one. Of being too pushy or salesy? No. But that\’s only because I\’m not! Those are things that I just don\’t do. I\’m not a pushy or salesy kind of guy!
By adam, November 20, 2009 @ 7:35 pm

great post and very in touch with what I always thought self promotion should be like, meaning respectful and with an audience of like minded people. I want to be able to enjoy my family and children more from being at home more with my own home business. Still a dream and along way to go. Thanks for the chance to voice it
By Merry Makowski, November 20, 2009 @ 8:33 pm

Hi Kristen,

I loved it that much, I allowed myself to posted it into my blog. I think you are very much right, many of us are afraid to be to “salesy”
By SUE, November 21, 2009 @ 12:52 am

Hi Kirsten,

You are so right. I enjoy reading all your bloggs, and even think of comments, but never get round to responding. It is nice to be interactive.
I do hope you are feeling much better after your car crash.
I guess people will ot know what you want to say unless you say it!
By Leila, November 21, 2009 @ 3:21 am

I think if you have a good link to your intuition you know who to push what in front of (so to speak).
By Joshua Clayton, November 21, 2009 @ 6:55 am

A big fat NO on that question. Never afraid. Always cool. Ahm a Road Runner huhnnnney!

Go Big!

(did not even have to hesitate answering.)

Josh.
By Tim, November 21, 2009 @ 9:36 am

Kristen,
Thank you! I will have wealth beyond my imagination. I will not worry about the how and ask for your teaching. You have survived a terrible accident for a purpose. Your are living that purpose. Please teach us.
God bless
By Anthony Quiroz, November 22, 2009 @ 8:52 am

I am in good hands when I allow God into my soul I am only wanting to make our world a better place and help others believe in themselfs we all make this a better place to live lives free and happy!It does all matter no matter what just Believe!
By George, November 22, 2009 @ 11:55 am

Hello Kristen,
I like it a lot, people do hold back in fear of hurting other people\’s feelings. But where is the line of growing up to be respectful by refraining from saying things we like to say to being open and honest of what you want to say to people without fear of hurting them. I grew up holding back and feeling like there is some secret that I must not talk about so I found this pretty interesting.
By Peter, November 22, 2009 @ 4:54 pm

Good post Kristen. If something is important enough to say in passing, it is important enough to follow up.
Leaving it up to the other person to “know” the where, when, how and why that is on your mind is not a productive way to get things done.
namaste
Peter
By Margaret Taylor, November 23, 2009 @ 7:03 am

Im not afraid of anything. I’m a child of God no less than the trees and the stars. My thoughs words and deeds————-Manifest.
By Stacy, November 23, 2009 @ 12:16 pm

Kristen – boy does this message hit home for me! I have started a new career in sales (my own business) and I even though I KNOW that people need my products and services, and I KNOW it’s my job to be somewhat “pushy” I still am fighting inner conflict with how much is too much. I have come up with a holiday marketing campaign that I KNOW will work, but have been putting off implementation because of this exact fear. Taking your message and the timing as a sign that I’m on the right track, and that it’s time to put my plan in place. Thanks for the push!
By Barb, November 24, 2009 @ 9:59 am

One thing I can take from this is I realized I can speak loud and clear for myself. I used to let my husband do all the speaking and thinking for that matter. Funny thing, I exploded 1 day and I haven’t stopped speaking since then. Doing what is good for me is good for other people as well. We are all creative and all need to contribute to make it work )be it pushy or not, but we need to keep trying and find what’s right and works for each of us, pushy or not is an individual calling. Thank you Kristen.
By Rosemary, November 27, 2009 @ 7:18 pm

I\’m a real estate broker, so I\’m not really fearful of putting out the information. Sometimes I get positive responses, and sometimes I get no response at all. I just learned about Facebook (I\’m 61 years old, not 21, so I never realized what it was for or how to use it), so I think I\’ll start doing that as a marketing tool and a way to keep in touch with my clients without pushing them too hard.

Hold me accountable! I\’m one of your GoBig clients.