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We’ve been talking a lot about happiness here at the Law of Attraction Key and from what I’m hearing back from all of you, that is the right focus.
I have an exciting article from Anik Singal today, where he shares with you another secret to happiness – I am particularly excited about this magazine issue, because this key to happiness is often completely overlooked and yet, if you don’t pay attention to it, it can be the root of much unrest and self-sabotage.
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“The imprint you are here to make on the world is as specific to you as your fingerprint. There is no other you. Value that, honor it and celebrate it, for you are a unique expression of the Universe.”
— Kristen Howe
The Secret To Happiness: Core Values
By Anik Singal
Many people go through life in a walking daze. Waking up is a struggle because they feel like their days are spent doing menial work for people they don’t care about. Because they think everything is scarce, they desperately cling onto whatever they can get.
Before they know it, YEARS have gone by. As they look in the mirror at their aging body, they ask themselves “Where did all that time go?”
It saddens me that most people never get to experience how amazing life is when you wake up every day with purpose and passion. Life just feels so… easy.
Sure, there are challenges. Bad things happen. Sometimes you feel negative emotions. Nevertheless, even in the darkest moments, you have an underlying feeling of fulfillment.
This is the ideal. Life is not about accumulating the most stuff or impressing the most people. It’s about living in alignment with whatever is meaningful to you.
This comes from recognizing that there truly is abundance in the Universe and understanding who you are and what matters to you.
So… what are the things that are meaningful to you? The answer is found in examining your core values.
Core values are one of those things like Law of Attraction that many people hear and roll their eyes at. That’s because – like Law of Attraction – it has all kinds of weird connotations.
This is a shame, because core values are actually one of the most practical things in the self-help world today.
Core values are simply beliefs that are meaningful to you.
They aren’t necessarily tied to any particular political or religious beliefs, although if you are religious that might influence your core values.
Everybody has a different set of core values. Your set of values make up a big part of who you are. If you do not know what your core values are, then you literally do not understand yourself.
This means if you live your life out of alignment with your core values, you will never, EVER feel fulfilled – except maybe in those fleeting moments when other people give you approval.
Most people do NOT live in alignment with their core values. Actually, most people have NO CLUE what their core values are in the first place!
What happens to these people? Well, their family and society tells them what they should value, and they live their lives in alignment with what others believe. Of course, in many cases these values are not the same as what the person’s real core values are.
All of this means that if you want to be happy and fulfilled – and who doesn’t? – it is important to discover what your core values are and better align your actions with them.
Obviously, this is easier said than done. How do you go about discovering your core values?
Well, there is no quick “method” for doing this. You can’t just do a quick 5 minute exercise that gives you a complete list of your core values now and forever.
Instead, you need to be a detective. Like any good detective, this means you need to look out for “clues” and persist until you discover the truth.
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Your core values are exposed during two specific moments in your life:
1. Peak experiences
2. Low points
In other words, your core values are revealed during both the best AND worst moments of your life.
If you finish a project at work and feel awesome, that tells you something about what you value. Likewise, if you lie to your boyfriend and feel terrible about it, that also tells you something about what you value.
Another place to find clues about your core values is with the people you admire.
We tend to project ourselves onto other people. If there is a certain person you know – or even a celebrity you don’t know – who you deeply respect, it’s probably because they are embodying one or more of your core values.
Likewise, if you deeply dislike somebody, that’s a clue that they are embodying the antithesis of one or more of your core values.
If you understand this, you will discover your core values over time as you amass reference experiences. So even if you’re frustrated that you can’t just do a quick 5 minute exercise and fully understand yourself, hopefully the ongoing nature of this takes the pressure off!
Plus, being a detective is fun.
Of course, you need to actually USE what you learn about yourself.
Just knowing your core values is not enough. You need to make changes in your life so that you are more aligned with them.
Over time, as you do some detective work and uncover more and more clues that point you to certain values, constantly ask yourself some “why” questions with your core values in mind.
1. Why do I make the money I make?
Would you be happy making $50,000/year? $100,000/year? $500,000/year? It depends on your core values, doesn’t it?
2. Why do I work at this job?
Are you dissatisfied with what you’re doing for a living? Could that be linked to your core values somehow?
3. Why do I spend time with the people I spend time with?
Are you surrounded by people who share your values? If not, perhaps you need to network with some new people.
Too many people unconsciously pile on more stuff without ever stepping back and considering the foundation. Then, one day, they realize their mistake … but because they have so many responsibilities and obligations, they are trapped.
Constantly reflecting on your core values and asking questions like these prevents you from getting trapped.
If you are confident about your core values, you will approach new goals with passion and vigor.
You will become happier AND more effective.
That’s a good combination in my opinion! It’s ultimately why I believe core values are some of the most important things you can investigate in your life.
|Quick Tip||Look Who’s Talking…|
|Have you ever felt that you get SO close to the things you want, and then something happens and you self-sabotage it? Well, pay attention, because often that self-sabotage is because, deep down, you are scared that will have to sacrifice one of your values to achieve a specific success.
Here’s the great news…
It doesn’t have to be that way – of you discover what you are scared will happen if you achieve a certain success, then you can come up with the true vision of what you want that success to look like – meaning you have the success AND keep your values in place.
Let’s say you have always wanted to have a successful business that allows you to travel all over the world and get paid extremely well to do so. And let’s also say that one of your core values is to be able to spend quality time with your partner/kids/family and friends. It is very possible that when opportunities arise to bring you that dream business that pays you to travel, you might sabotage it for fear that your relationships will suffer. There is no such thing as either/or – so, once you realize what it is that you are scared of losing, you can design the ultimate vision of how you can have the amazing business opportunity AND the incredible relationships. Once you include both in your vision, you instantly remove that level of resistance.
|“*Thank You so much for this, Kristen.*
Today, THESE WORDS touched my heart and brought tears to my eyes.
I have been following you and “Manifest Everything Now” since last September 2012. […]
I have been struggling with self worth, self confidence and so much fear. I lost my mom 3 years ago. As an only child, I knew I would have to make some adjustments. Listening to M.E.N., I realized that I had been living almost all my whole life in FEAR. That fear affected my Dreams, my Health and strangled my Wealth.
It has been a journey, but I have been able to clear a lot of “stuff” out by listening to M.E.N. […] I have a way to go but I am on my way and will not give up until I reach my goals.
I am so grateful for you! You were there when I came to that place in my life where I needed what you were offering. Please, continue to keep these options available because so many people need this kind of help. Now, I see that several others have started their Speaker programs,…..
*But, Kristen, you will always be my FIRST!*
Love and Blessings to You.