Discipline is only causing you pain?

In life there is pain…

That doesn’t mean life has to be painful…

But there will be pain…

I want to talk about 2 specific types of pain — these aren’t the only types, but they are the 2 kinds that determine a lot about the life you design — or don’t design…

So what are they?

1. The pain of discipline

2. The pain of regret

Now don’t get me wrong here…

You know I am all about creating a life of flow and ease and not forcing your life…

Which leads me to the pain of discipline —

Let me rename it to– The pain of consistently pushing your comfort zone in order to move you toward your goals…

That’s really what it is…

Just discipline to be disciplined can rob you of a lot of joy…

And so many of us see crazy strict discipline AND will power as the only way to get what we want — but the pain of that random and meeningless discipline is EXACTLY why we consistently choose NOT to follow through.

That’s why we need to redefine it IMMEDIATELY so that you can start to thrive…

Here’s what I want you to do…

Throw out discipline and will power —

You heard me…

Throw it out!

Now before you get all giddy, here’s what I can tell you…

What I am going to ask you to replace discipline and will power with will make you VERY uncomfortable…

BUT it will also bring you results!

Replece discipline and will power with choosing to consistently push your comfort zone in order to move you toward your goals…

Every day…

Don’t just do things to be disciplined…

Do them, because they make you uncomfortable AND will move you toward what you want…

Doing this will save you from the worst pain of all…

The pain of REGRET…

Are you ready?

Leave me a comment and tell me how you will push your comfort zone this week…

Go Big!


24 Responses to “Discipline is only causing you pain?”

  1. Leila says:

    Hi Kristen, it’s the first time in a long time that I’ve felt a big need to expand my comfort zone. There are so many directions to choose from 😉
    Can you suggest a direction that would help me the most.

    • Kristen says:

      Hi Leila!

      There are always many directions to choose from…decide which direction is most in alignment with what you want to grow to right now and choose something that pushes your comfort zone in that way…

      Go Big!

  2. su says:


    I not too sure on what discipline is but i do know i put things off a lot! is feeling excited about doing things differently or thinking different the same as pushing the comfort zone. After reading your site i am really enjoying “flipping” when i feel negative AND I AM ENJOYING THE RESULTS, is this what you mean? Thankyou i love the change.

  3. lolonyon Akouete says:

    I am in Real estate Investing business and I don’t like making phone calls. I am going to make 10 phone call everyday and make offer on 10 property/day.
    thank you.

    • Kristen says:

      Hi there!

      That’s great! 10 phone calls a day is a great way to push your comfort zone…keep your eye on why you are doing it and it will be worth the discomfort! 🙂

      Go Big!

  4. Adam says:

    Thanks Kristen 🙂

  5. Steve says:

    This week, Kristen, procrastination os out the door.

    Querying is the name of the game…

    • Kristen says:

      Great Steve!

      Remember to focus on why you are pushing your comfort zone and you will be more willing to do it! 🙂

      Go Big!

  6. Irene Kats says:

    thought we needed to be disciplined to avoid procrastination! like blogging daily for best results.

    are you saying no to this kind of discipline or another kind?

    • Kristen says:

      I mean that will power isn’t going to do it…we have to consistently choose the things that will push our comfort zone and move us forward…just being disciplined isn’t enough…we need to know WHY we are taking action!

      Go Big!

  7. PANSY PIERCE says:


  8. barney says:


    This was very timely for me since I have a comfort zone in which I have been comfortable for far too long. In order to grow I have to leave it, push it, expand the boundaries of my vision, desire and willingness to accept that I am worthy of the goals and desires that I have. I am capable of achieving them and I simply need to do the work through discipline.
    Thanks for the reminder.

  9. Mark Danner says:

    Hi Kristen,
    Just wanted to say I am trying to change and doing pretty good. I do get thar overwhelming feeling of dispair. Not sure if moving forward with my project is the right thing. I have worked hard to get to this point and would like to continue,however I have so much that I am carrying on my shoulders that I get this overwhelming feeling of flight. But I know I do have my responsibilities and get mixed emotions. You have helped and I am thankful. For now I will continue, at least for a couple of months.

    Thank You

  10. Alex Gabriel Vu says:

    Each of us is a unique creators of God. The most incredible of a person is that we humans are, and has a different personality from generations to generations. God created all people with unique and unprecedented identity, neither you or I can copy it. We can only learn from or improve our own consciousness of the other person\’s success and strengthen our own role model (the person who you really are), but we never manage to copi other identities. Be yourself with tools (your own creation) you have, use it with a good sense of mind and understanding.

    Alex Gabriel V.

  11. Avi says:

    Hi Kristen,
    This post coincided with me deciding yesterday it’s time to move out of comfort zone and do something I wanted by was hesitant and maybe scared about. I called the acting agency and start working with them going to auditions.
    As you said, I felt regret and I do not want to have more of it in the future. I also think it is very important to pay attention to the inner talk that tries to convince why not to do stuff we feel like doing. I pay attention and I deal with it.

  12. Catherine says:

    Your generosity, Kristen, is life-giving. I like what you responded to Leila – “decide which direction is most in alignment with what you want to grow to right now and choose something that pushes your comfort zone in that way”. THAT fires me up!

    Going big.


  13. Alex Gabriel Vu says:

    Think right, feel right and act right
    (the three R’s law)

    How do I find my intelligence?
    How do I attract my intelligences?
    How do I love my intelligences?
    How do I take care of my intelligences?
    How do I reconcile myself with my intelligences?
    How do I increase intelligences?
    How do I realize my intelligences?
    How do I unite myself with my intelligences?
    How do I become a good friend of mine intelligences?
    How do I welcome my intelligences?

    Alex Gabriel V.

  14. alice says:

    I must resolve a debt with my ex-boyfriend and to do so I must admit to him I have it in the first place. I have procrastinated for too long. I just sent him an email. What will happen next, having to confront him, definately pushes my comfort zone …

  15. Will says:

    Pushing Boundaries: I decided on a new career track as a Business Improvement Consultant. Decided to see just what was possible when I did try to do things I hadn’t done. Ended up landing a long term contract that uses a lot of brain power as business coach, personal coach etc.

  16. Patrice says:

    Nice post! Leading a team is I think one way of pushing myself out of my comfort zone as I am not a born leader. However, I will try in order to escape the pain of regret.

  17. Tamara says:

    Dear Kristen, pushing my comfort zone has been overwhelming. I too, have been put in an aweful financial burden (bankruptcy, foreclosure, no support coming in, etc. due to divorce). I’ve had to seek employment, and taking tests, interviewing, and getting out there is hard after staying home 10+ years. I’ve already had a 21 year career. Am 50 now. I’m always Thinking Big and a regular job just doesn’t meet the potential I feel I have to bring me the success I desire. Don’t know where to start for Going Big. I’ve been out of contact with people from staying home too long. I will try to Think Big so something Big will come. Just don’t know where to begin…Thank You

    • Kristen says:

      Hi Tamara!

      You can Go Big by taking SMALL steps 🙂

      What is 1 small thing you can do today — seriously, think small…to move you toward 1 of your goals?

      You can do this!

      Go Big!

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