Who are you listening to?

When it comes to your life and your goals and desires…

Let me ask you 1 question…

Who are you listening to?

This is one of the biggest challenges today…

  • There are a whole bunch of people in your life who are more than ready and willing to give you advice on what you can and especially what you CAN’T or SHOULDN’T do…
  • There are countless people standing by, ready to protect you or steer you toward what is smart and sensible and realistic…

So often these people listen to your ideas and tell you they won’t work, or they aren’t smart…

And when they do, it’s easy to get discouraged and abandon your ideas…

It’s easy to get deflated and look for a more sensible or realistic approach that doesn’t get you excited, but at least ypu’ve heard it makes sense…

Here’s my big question for you…

When it comes to the people who you are listening to…

Do they have what you want?

I’m all for advice and mentors and perspective…


Please, please, please…

Get that advice from people who are where you want to go…

  • If you want advice on how to start making $10, 000 a month through passive income, should you listen to someone who has only ever made $3500/month and traded time for every single dollar of it?
  • If you want your relationship to be healthy, communicative and passionate, are you going to listen to your friend who is in a loveless marriage?
  • If you want to get into the best shape of your life, are you going to go to someone who has never exercised a day in their life for advice on how to do it?

When I ask my coaching clients these questions they always see how ridiculous it is to get advice from someone who doesn’t have what you want…


Most have them have been doing just that…

Most people have a group of advisers that they love and who love them, but when it comes to deciding if your ideas and dreams can happen…

When it comes to discovering the path to design the life you desire…

Make sure you are listening to people who know from experience what it takes to get there!


Your friends and family are so important to love you and add to your life…

And if you your friends and family do have the things that you desire, then PLEASE listen to them!

But often your advisers serve a different purpose…

Start finding people who have what you want (at least the next level from where you are)…

Your life will start to change instantly when you do!

As always, leave a comment here…I love hearing from you and what you have to say might be helpful to someone else!

Go Big!


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18 Responses to “Who are you listening to?”

  1. Leila says:

    Hey Kristen,

    Great advice. It’s easy to carry on listening to the same people you listened to before but when you’re aiming high you need to follow the stars. Thanks.

  2. This is one of the most difficult areas for some seekers to deal with. Over the years they have developed long term friendships but in the process of self-development, they outgrow their old friends. The fortunate this is that this is usually a subtle process over time. There comes a time when you must grow and sometimes that means leaving old friends behind. The old cliche is look at your 5 closest friends and you see a mirror of yourself.

  3. Elizabeth says:

    We attract what we need and
    I am aiming high

  4. raymond says:

    you are so right,good advice.im going in the right direction,i just need to have patience with myself and my progress.

  5. Jan says:

    The people that have what I want are so far from where my husband and I are. When I reach out to the people that have what I want, my husband gets jealous and discourages me. He is not ready to make the changes that I am so ready for. I love him, but he really drags me down. What can I do??

  6. Alex Gabriel Vu says:

    Seek, and you will find it. For those who are looking and searching have true joy of theirs discoveries. Search for what you have lost and seek for what you have forgotten.

    Alex Gabriel V.

  7. KCTAN says:

    Have your words and i know u always right.Most of us always take advice from those we close to and we tend to listen to them and sometimes it goes the opposite way.Great advice and i long for many great advices that coming.Thanks and appreciate.

  8. Maher says:

    Well I agree with your advice but please note that there are some of your friends and even your family members who do have the things that you desire but.,they don’t want you to have it ( that is what envy means) It is sickness of a soul .It is a sin. So you must not bother. Just be smart & wise.

  9. I listen to Bob Proctor and read a lot of books by authors like: James Allen, Vic Johnson, Napoleon Hill and Wallace Wattles. They have become successful and I follow them.

  10. Raymond Day says:

    Your blog post was right on the money. It is always prudent and wise to seek out those who have gone before you and done similar or even the same thing that you are looking to accomplish in order to move ahead in this thing we call life.

    Raymond Day

  11. PANSY PIERCE says:


  12. Migen L. Osorio says:

    Dear Kristen,
    Your emails give me a boost and let me know just where I am going or where I am headed for. Thank you for your continuous stream of messages for me. I aim to go big soon, as soon as I can afford you. In the meantime let me just say that knowing you comes at a time in my life when I feel I am ready to realize all my dreams. I believe that my being able to communicate with you at all is a sign that soon, very soon, I can go big and have a needed boost in everything I am engaged in. Thank you.

  13. Cristina says:

    Hi Kristen, You are right. And thank’s for the advice. It’s difficult but not impossible. What if there is a fried that always want to be with you, talk to you, but as you recomend spent time with people that have more levels than you,and this person have a lower level, what do yo suggest to do ?

  14. Alex Gabriel Vu says:

    Some of us have ears but hear not, and have eyes but see not. Therefore, so do not listen with your ears, but listen with your heart and do not see with your eyes, but sees with your faith.

    Alex Gabriel V.

  15. Joseph says:

    This is the single most thing I have been struggling with for years….How do you find and hang out with these brilliant people who can help you become wealthy? You rock !!


  16. Dr. Ranka Kulic, electrical eng. says:

    Obstacles and questions
    My history as unemployed person is so long – six years. I live in old house with my old mother. For thirty years in this house we have not fill in any new things. My parents were poor persons. Now, the situation is worsen – we have only six sheep and two cows. Our earns are so small and for mother and for me uncle from Sarajevo has to buy food for quite this years. Like that in the previous several years uncle from Sarajevo have to intervene. I feel shame and I see communication with people as great problem. I think that all people think as exist great problem as hidden and dark in my history. That “great problem – dark and hidden” is the right reason that I have no chance to find a job in spite of the fact that I’m doctor in area of electrical science.
    The questions are:
    1. What is the methods to eliminate consequences the named story and to be treated by people as a person which can be strong and successful and to be treated as person with addiction and conviction which can win so powerful national parties in region which are put me in this shame situations?
    2. What is the best path in order to start and to eliminate the named fear and lack of confidence which is induced by national powers (or parties) in Montenegro and Serbia?

  17. Rosemary says:

    I can’t tell you how many people have advised me about the “foolishness” of buying my building, and it would almost seem that they were “right” because it has fallen in value (with much of the rest of commercial real estate) and we are stuck with still paying out money to meet its operating expenses. But, I love the building, it is wonderfully functional, and I know that one day it will turn out to have been a great investment.

    Thanks for the cautionary note, and let’s keep looking for the right advisors. They are there, I know. May their numbers increase!

  18. its good to listen always but must be from the right source because that is what would benefit you. thanks pal

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