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There is something I call the “Well” Trap and it just may be ruining (or at least keeping you stuck in) certain areas of your life. The good news is, it is easy to spot and what I share with you in the article I wrote for you today will help you free yourself from it with ease.
The best part is this will make your life easier AND it will absolutely benefit ALL of your relationships as well…
Also, in the Quick Tip section I give you my favorite way to speed up the transition between the “Well” Trap and Solution Vision – I’m excited for you to use this!
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“Sometimes when you resist solutions, you simply need to let off steam…”
— Kristen Howe
Is the Word “Well” Ruining Your Life?
By Kristen Howe
A good friend of mine called me the other day and she was STRESSED. She asked me if she could bounce what was going on with her off of me to see if I could help her resolve what had become a very challenging situation at work.
Now, the details of her challenging situation don’t have any impact on why I’m writing this for you today – however, the word “WELL” does.
Let me explain…
She told me what was going on, and since she had specifically asked for my help, I jumped right on the solution train…
I suggested one approach and she responded, “Well…I could do that but…”
So I regrouped with another idea and she said, “Well…that might work but…”
Not to be deterred, I came up with a 3rd idea and she said, “Well…I would love that but…”
Suddenly I realized this conversation was not going to lead to a solution and my instinct was to fight for my ideas, to sell her on why they would work yet I realized, there was 1 word that was going to have me beating my head against a wall, and that word was, “WELL…”
The conversation came to an end a few minutes later, she thanked me for helping and got off the phone. A few days later, she called me again, she was much more calm this time, and she said, “What was that last idea you had for me the other day?” I shared it with her again and this time she said, “Yes, that is definitely worth some attention – I’ll let you know how it goes.”
So what happened? Why was she able to make that shift?
I can’t tell you for certain as it was her personal process, however, I have noticed that when people try to solve things in a stressed state of mind they tend to become attached to the negative picture (that’s where the word “WELL…” comes in) yet, when they calm down and get a little distance, they can see differently and solution vision becomes possible again.
Keep Reading to Discover How to FREE Yourself from the “Well” Trap…
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ARE YOU FALLING INTO THE “WELL” TRAP?
Listen, it happens to all of us…
Something happens in our life and we constrict around possibilities (even though we really desire a solution). You aren’t doing anything wrong when this happens, however if you try to “fix things” when you are in this state, you are setting yourself up for a lot of frustration.
So, pay attention to when you are looking at a possible solution and if your first instinct is to think or say “Well…that could work but…” or anything like that – then shift your focus elsewhere and come back to it later. I know that sounds counter intuitive however, when you do this, you allow your attachment to the negative picture to get smaller so you can then see things with solution vision.
This is also a very powerful thing to remember in relationships – and I mean ALL relationships, love, business, friendship, parents, children, strangers etc.
And here’s why (actually there are 2 reasons why)…
If you have gone to someone for assistance and you notice that you are responding to their suggestions with “Well…” Then you know it isn’t the time for solutions yet and you can very simply say, “Actually, I want to be open to solutions for this right now, but I’m not there yet, can we come back to this later?”
Believe me; handling it this way will remove a lot of frustration for BOTH of you.
If someone comes to you for assistance and you notice that for every solution you suggest they respond “Well…” realize that this isn’t the time for solutions and instead simply offer emotional support.
Now, a quick note on that – please do not point out the “Well” Trap to them when they are in this state because it will not end well (no pun intended)…
Here’s the deal – the “Well” Trap will only ruin your life if you continue to try to push through and come up with solutions when you are in that state because your intentions won’t be in alignment with your true desires at that moment – however, when you simply use it as an indicator of where you are in the process, you can shift your focus elsewhere and return when you are ready and willing to have solution vision and your life will be much easier and even challenges will much have less struggle.
|Quick Tip||Look Who’s Talking…|
|Often the simple awareness of the “Well” Trap will cause the shift to solution vision to happen faster. To assist this transition, use this…
Ask yourself, “I know I will discover a solution, however, what do I really need right NOW?”
Often you will discover that you need support or to just let off some steam and when you let yourself have what you really need in that moment (as opposed to forcing yourself into solution mode prematurely) the entire process speeds up infinitely!
|“Kristen:You are so intriguing to me, in a very good way.
There is something different and very real about you that simply captivates.
I can actually “FEEL” your heart, your love and your authenticity thru your writing!
Interestingly enough, what I feel with everything that comes from you is precisely what this article is about, how Powerful you are! Thank you for telling me that I Am Too!
This really is what I need to know and believe and remind myself of every single day.