Your life won’t change unless…

Here’s what I’ve realized…

Your life won’t change unless you change it!

Now, of course I mean this in the way that you assume — you know I am a firm believer in the fact that YOU are responsible and capable of changing your life…

BUT, I also mean it in an unexpected way…

Here’s what I realized one day and I was shocked…

Your life won’t change unless you change it — and sometimes all (or some) of the things have happened that you thought would change your life and yet you find yourself living the same life as before…

Let me give you an example —

A while back I had a plan — I was working my tail off to make several businesses take off and to justify working so hard, I focused on how my life would change when I hit the next level and started consistently making 5 figures a month…the goal isn’t what matters here, for me it wasn’t about money, it was about what I would do with the money…and we all have that something that “When it happens we will live like this…” — You know what I’m talking about…

I had plans of monthly massages and fun adventures and many more things…

The details don’t matter — what does matter is that I KNEW that when I hit that financial point I would finally be able to chill out and stop working my tail off…

Guess what happened…

6 months after I had consistently been at that financial goal I had a huge realization as I was running to grab some food so I could cram it in my mouth before I ran back to my computer to work until 10 pm…

And the realization was that I had reached those goals I had and yet, my life hadn’t changed because I hadn’t changed it…

I was still living like I was before…

And it was up to me…

I had to make myself do the things that I had put in front of myself to make my goals exciting or else it didn’t matter how much money I was making, my life was the same…


So when I say that your life won’t change unless YOU change it, I mean that in 2 different ways…

1. YOU have to do what is needed to change your life

2. Then YOU need to do what is needed to make sure your life ACTUALLY changes

Don’t wait until you have a million dollars or whatever it is the BIG goal is…this really isn’t about money…

Start changing NOW!

Leave me a comment — let me know how you can start!

Go Big!


34 Responses to “Your life won’t change unless…”

  1. I have changed drasticly over the last few years, actual last 30 years. I am on a Spiritual Journey and like where I am at.

    Yes, life is a learning endeavor and we need to change, not a little but drasticly.

    Yes, I need a few more changes other than what I have already made. What are they? I shall find out with yourhelp, I hope. Thanks.

    Herb Lynch.

  2. Mark says:

    Hi Kristen,
    I am struggling, I know it is up to me to change my life. This has been very difficult lately. I have had so much loaded on my shoulders that I can’t focus on moving forward. I start and boom it hits me and I lose my forward movement. My son and his family are struggling and I am going deeper in debt trying to help. My businesses that should have been opened months ago have’nt. This has caused financial problems. The feeling of dispair at times is overwhelming. I am not sure how much longer I can hold out before totally losing it. I am thankful that I have my lovely wife who has been positive through ll of this. I have not given up and will continue to move ahead till either the bottom falls out or it falls into place. Thank you for your encouragement and advice. I just pray that some day I will be able to return your acts of kindness.

  3. Rosa Muziotti says:

    Dear Kristen, Thanks for your words of wisdom.
    Now I understand that change begins within us. Success is not the key to happiness but happiness is the key to success.
    When we love ourselves and love what we are doing, we have success in all life areas and we’ll feel pretty good

  4. Diana says:

    I’ve had this experience. It’s so true!

  5. Linda says:

    Great information again.
    Change is scary and all the so it seems hardships appear and uncertainties around the new focus.Faith is now big time called in and a strong belief that all is moving towards the goal.
    I am here at the moment.
    Taking Inspired Action is a big focus.

  6. Rosemary says:

    My business, my building, my financial situation all seem to be at an impasse: I keep overcoming obstacles, and somehow the bills get paid (something always comes up), but I need to take the next inspired action step. It’s marketing, it’s reaching out to others to help me achieve my goals. I am doing everything possible to maintain my lifestyle, so changing my life only means to make myself feel more secure (less guilty, perhaps, for continuing with my pleasures like monthly massages).

    Today, I lost my focus, because the deal I had lost was beginning to take on an ugly side: The other agent is insisting on taking my clients’ $5,000 good faith deposit. So, on top of not having the commission I should have earned, I must expend energy fighting against what shouldn’t have been lost in the first place.

    It is what it is, but I need your guidance to get myself out of this nasty place once and for all.

    Thanks, Kristen.

  7. bart says:

    Hi Kristen,

    I’ve orderd the sleepprogramming but havn’t yet gotten it.For me it will make a whole lot of changes in everything because everything starts inside your mind.

  8. Lydia says:

    Hi Kristen ,
    Thank you for the link for free ebook .I shall read it .
    Kristen , this connection with you was out of the blue but I wanted to come here because of another guidance ,Bradley …
    This is not the only one course that I ‘follow’ but I like your guidance too.I need a litlle time to fix a few things and make a new plan .
    And I am working here ,really .
    Something began to change .
    So , let’s do this step by step .I need time to read all this .I am from Europe and I don’t speak English .

    It’s good that I want to keep this connection with you .Ok ?
    I like your guidance .You are awesome .

    Best regards ,


  9. Hello Kristin,

    The information in this post is so simple yet so profound. What you said makes a lot of sense. I have been struggling for a long time to change my financial situation. I have also been working on changing myself for a while as well. The key thing that I received from your post was to make sure that I change not just my circumstances. Thank you Kristen.

  10. Kathleen says:

    Hello Kristen, Kathleen from Belgium here. Thank you for the e-book, the emails, the posts. They all help me a lot. 6 months ago I lost my job and the man I loved almost at the same time. It took me a while to overcome the hurt, the loss of confidence,… but ever since I have been reading everything I could about self-improvement and put it all into practice. I placed a card on my mirror at the beginning of August that I would have an exciting new day-job by October 1st and was looking forward to it and feeling excited and expecting it all of the time. I changed my believe-system and guess what, I landed the new job last Friday after being the oldest Candidate for the job (I am 47) Everything just fell into place and now I believe I can do this job and provide excellent service to the customers based on my belief, my knowledge of languages and my experience in customer-care. I am looking into becoming a lifecoach myself and I belief I can do that too. In the meantime with not much of financial back-up I took my daughter to an nice affortable restaurant this weekend and we had a wonderful time. I am cutting back on my smoking habit and replace sigarettes with walks, exercise and healthy food. I know I can already start doing small things of my desire-list. I wanted to share this story because it may inspire others. Let’s all GO BIG !!!
    Sincerely, Kathleen

    • Kristen says:

      Hi Kathleen!

      WOW…thanks for sharing your story — you are living proof that you can always Go Big! Keep me in the loop as you continue your amazing journey!

      Go Big!

  11. Hi Kristin,
    Having studied and taught personal development for more than 50 years, There are many things that I have learned but, one of the big ones is overcoming the fear of change. Although you had reached your financial goal, you were held back from enjoying the real rewards that money can bring. The set point in your mind fears change and to actually accept and enjoy the rewards challenges our self-image. There are many unhappy millionaires who simply feel unworthy of accepting the rewards of success. Money is only one measure of success and true wealth requires a change of heart at the deepest level. We may have incredible success but with feeling of unworthiness, we continue to play the “If Only Game.” If only I had more money, then I could enjoy it. If only I could (name your goal) then I could enjoy it. Money is simply a tool but success requires a willingness to accept it with deep heart-felt joy.

  12. Dale Evans says:

    mmm…Working hard is a montra from the industrial revolution. I learned to work hard while growing up on a farm. I received little money for the time I put in. This has carried forward until recently when I began to study the art of co-creation. By changing my vibrational level through thought and planning, I have increased my economic value with customers and have begun to focus on the real values in life. This means that I am worth new cars and new houses and exotic vacations and participating in charities. But first I have put the needs of others first, by starting with where they are and providing them with what they want and then moving forward with new desires I can help them with. Create, take action, achieve, repeat.

  13. Mark says:

    Hello Kristen,
    Thank you and you are absolutely right! Making a decision to change and sticking with it! That is what I am trying to do to lessen my work load. With several businesses and little funds to hire, it puts the burden on me to do most of the work. I know that I can be successful as long as I keep moving forward and don’t look back. No matter how tough it gets. My biggest problem is not coming from a business back round. I spent the last 20+ years in law enforcement so I need to learn as I go. I made a ton of mistakes,but I haven’t let it stop me. I am sure I will make a lot more. Your advice and knowledge has been very helpful and I am grateful for your help!
    Thank You!

  14. Georgeann says:

    I interrupt,change, requirers be a good listener trouble is I am deaf in one ear and loss of pitches in other nothing can help my hearing problem bone and nerve gone.Self control do not think that others really realize that I did not hear them talking, I get easily hurt feelings.I know that living with this problem is not the answer,I have to overcome this problem, I try to watch their lips,not much confidence in myself for correcting this.

  15. Brett says:

    Great post Kirsten… if you, (or any of you out there) haven’t yet read Timmothy Ferriss’s book The Four Hour Work Week, do it NOW! It will change your lives, and it is EXACTLY what this post is about. Don’t just browse the cover at the store curiously and then put it down, take this as a message from the universe answering one of your questions, do it, and do it now… I think you will thank me that you did… or rather, you will thank Source. Love to you all…. me

  16. Nap says:

    We all do need to change…for the better. We understand, accept and value the benefit of this change. And you’re right, unless we do something about this knowledge, it’s not going to benefit us at all. When we do decide to change, we expect our lives to change as well, but it is not the process that changes us, but is the result. This either impacts our lives positively or negatively and again depends on how we allow the result to either control us or guide us towards better individuals.

  17. Armel Lom says:

    Hi Kristen.Thanks for this reminder.the first step towards changing oneself into success is awareness.I am on a daily basis doing my best to get aware of every single thought i have.I am on the path of building a business that is about import-export.So far i am on the stage of gathering all the necessary and administrative info i need to know before i start doing anything.I do appreciate your concern.don’t hesitate to keep mentoring me.Thanks

  18. Philip says:

    Hi Kristen,
    Change is constant,I think that is what every one needs.Life itself produces unlimited access.As soon as you are done with one and you want to feel better, another circumstances appears that puts you back on the status quo as if though there are still lots of miles to thread

  19. Ken says:

    I am down and completely stuck, where to go?

  20. Jules says:

    2 years ago my life was a complete mess…… I was working full-time as well as taking a MSc…….my dad had died…. my husband of 30 years left me for another woman(after maxing out all the credit cards in my name thus leaving me owing £30k and ruining my credit rating….. then no surprise I was diagnosed as clinically depressed…… after 6 months of comfort eating I looked at the fat blob I had become and decided things had to change… got taken for a ride by a lot of sharks but eventually realised that I was the problem…. I couldn’t manifest a better life simply because I was getting in my own way…. things are getting better …. I have learned to like myself….. lost 120lb….. reduced my debts and am now working on manifesting the life I want…… my message is believe in your real self not the image that has been programmed into you by other people….. you are uniquely special and have every right to have an amazing life.

  21. tom says:

    I like it. I get money but I work so hard to have it and then to keep it then to try to get it back when it goes away then wonder why it’s not coming back. So I’m just going to do what I know I want to do. Let the money catch up to me. Afterall I’m the important one the money is just a so-called means to and end. I desire a means to a beginning and it’s right there under my snozzola. The means to an end is stress and heartache. heck with that. I’m done with it.
    Again Kristen you make a great point.

  22. tom says:

    I like it. I get money but I work so hard to have it and then to keep it then to try to get it back when it goes away then wonder why it\’s not coming back. So I\’m just going to do what I know I want to do. Let the money catch up to me. Afterall I\’m the important one the money is just a so-called means to and end. I desire a means to a beginning and it\’s right there under my snozzola. The means to an end is stress and heartache. heck with that. I\’m done with it.
    Again Kristen you make a great point.

  23. patwilson says:

    My spirit keeps drawing me to you and your e-mails. Thanks for the wonderful insight.

  24. james milne says:

    i have been on a spiritual journey for the past two years,i have drifted away from my old friends and made some new spiritual friends,the journey has just started for me and all the changes that are happening seem to be automatic. love and peace James

  25. Hussaini says:

    hi. thank you for heling my life, i am so happy. i really love it.

  26. Joe D. says:

    OMG- If I could only take action !! all I do is gather more and more free material….I need a mean coach !!

    • Kristen says:

      Hey Joe!

      What 1 thing can you do today — that will take 15 minutes or less — that will move you toward 1 of your goals?

      Answer the question and do it now!

      That’s the key to action right there!

      If you do need a coach, I’m happy to set you up for a free assessment, fill out the form at the following link, if you are interested…

      Go Big!

  27. JACK says:

    thank you kristen
    this is a very great message i ever had. and i am so happy and grate ful for this

  28. JW Joyce says:

    Thank you for this article. I enjoy reading your insights. Keep up the good work. Peace and Namaste.

  29. Paule says:

    Dear Kristen, Thank you.
    It seems to me that the lesson is NOW, perhaps?

  30. Rosemary says:

    I have hit a very bad place. Despite working my tail off, I took some shortcuts to keep up the bills, and now am sabotaging myself, believing myself to be irretrievably guilty. This only makes things worse. My friend tells me to forgive myself. That is very hard to do when the standards I violated were those I had set for myself and lived by for most of my 62 years.

    You say it is not money? Then what else is it? That’s all people see. Money is a medium of exchange. A trade of value for value. When one has no money, one has no value either. That is not true of the Universe, but we as people live in a world of duality: Money vs No Money; Health vs. Disease; Love vs. Fear; Success vs. Failure.

    The only way out is for me to forgive myself and get on with creating the success I know I can be. How?

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