Who do you have to be?

You know I love the power of questions…

And today I want to introduce you to one of the most powerful questions there is…

I know SO MANY of you are frustrated and feel like you are banging your head against a wall wondering WHEN will you finally have the success you are looking for…

I get emails about it all the time — emails that say things like:

  • “Kristen, I’m doing everything I can think of, but I still don’t have enough money…”
  • “Kristen, I’m doing everything I can think of, but I still haven’t lost the last 20 pounds…”
  • “Kristen, I’m doing everything I can think of, but I still haven’t met my soul mate…”
  • “Kristen, I’m doing everything I can think of, but I still don’t have enough time…”
  • “Kristen, I’m doing everything I can think of, but I still don’t have enough opportunities…”

and the list goes on…

I know you are nodding your head right now in agreement — I know you know what this feels like — I’ve been there too…


I shifted my focus — this is what I did…

I asked myself a different question than I had ever asked myself before —

Do you want to know what that question was?

Of course you do…here it is…

I asked myself this…

“Who do I need to be to have ___________ ?”

Here’s another great follow up question to that one…

“What do I need to believe to have ____________?”

And another powerful question…

“How do I need to act and look at life and handle setbacks to have ___________?”

Here’s the deal…

Whatever you want, I guarantee there is proof in this world that it is possible because I promise you someone else has it —

Study those people that have what you want —

  • Who are they?
  • What do they believe?
  • What do they focus on?
  • How do they handle setbacks?
  • What do they expect?

This works for EVERYTHING —

Whether you want

  • More money
  • To lose weight
  • To be a famous artist
  • To have a successful business
  • To find the love of your life
  • To excel at your current job
  • To discover your passion and purpose

etc. etc. etc.

STOP looking at what you don’t have and instead focus on who you have to be to have what you want…

I promise you that right now you are EXACTLY who you need to be to have what you currently have — and I know you are ready to change that!

Leave me a comment — let me know what your beliefs and more need to be for you to live the life you want…

I also have a video with more (free) power questions for you at:


Go check it out — this stuff can change your life — I know because it changed mine!

You are extraordinary!

Go Big!

15 Responses to “Who do you have to be?”

  1. barney says:


    I love the questions. I love finding my answers. Thank you.

  2. Lori says:

    “who do I need to be to have…”

    wow what an intense thought for a saturday morning…..

    to me this question says, what are the changes I have to make to me, not just my life, but MY Person that will grow me to be ready for all the I want.


  3. Misty says:

    Hi Kristen it is me misty.I am writing from my dad work computer ,i visited him today for a little while.I am writing to say thank you for writing on my blog.THANK YOU!my dad said to tell you that my blog is at number 1 on google for the words mistys fun blog with no quotes.He said that is good.bye,love, Misty.

  4. joe says:

    Hey Kristen ,as always a very interesting post.I think if I figure out the answers to these questions my life will become a much simplier place lol.I know who’s life I wish I could emulate but that is about as far as it goes.(ps. my daughter watched your vid the other day and insistead on writing a thank you to uyour post on her blog,she thinks she has seen you befor but I hav’nt the foggiest where that could have been). thanks and t/c!

  5. SILMY says:


  6. SILMY says:

    Are you going to take me to the next step? How many more times do you want me to comment?

    • Kristen says:

      Hi there!

      I am here to help give you the tools, but it is up to you to take the next step.

      Reading the posts and commenting is a great way for you to have support along the way and stay accountable.

      Go Big!

  7. p.gopinath says:

    hey Kirsten,
    I follow your isntructions and questions daily and feel really exited , but how long is the wait. I am yet to realise the results.

    • Kristen says:

      Hi there!

      If you plant a seed, you don’t dig it up every day to see if it is growing, it is the same with this, do the work and have faith that the seeds are growing instead of looking for the results…

      The results will come, realize there is much old programming that must be undone!

      Go Big!

  8. Carlos says:

    I’m with you Kristen. I believe we already have within us the seeds to manifest whatever we wish in life. Your question is a mindshifter, getting us to focus on what we desire, what we want to manifest and what is possible, not what we lack .


  9. Mark says:

    Hi Kristen,
    You have hit the nail on the head again. I finally have my businesses opened and I feel like I am still beating my head against the wall. I just have to keep moving forward. I just want to keep my head above qater is that to much to ask? Thank you for the help. You are truly a friend.


  10. John says:

    So does age bring a cut off point? Is there a too old bar? I’ve turned 70, am fit and active, and have spent my life mainly teaching in 2 creative disciplines. I have a list of successful students, many of whom keep in contact. Now I find I’m in a hard space financially. I thought I knew who I was, but did I really? Where does one go from here??

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