The Secret to Overcoming Procrastination
By Dr. Robert Anthony
Why do you procrastinate?
Why don’t you do the things you want to do?
Why do you have great dreams, but don’t take massive action to make them come true?
The answer lies in Newton’s first law of physics: “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction”
Let me explain:
Let’s say you want something, whatever that ‘something’ is. Let’s call it ‘success’ to keep it simple.
The bottom line is this: if you want success, and you want it more than anything else in the world, you will get it.
However, if you want to run away from your fears to a safe place, a place you feel secure, that means you want security MORE than you want the success. This is why you don’t achieve those great dreams.
The excuses or ‘reasons’ will ultimately sound like:
• “I’m not smart enough”
• “I don’t have the money”
• “I don’t deserve more than I already have.”
• “I don’t have enough education”
• “I don’t have the qualifications to do this”
All of these excuses are what keep us from our dreams. The way to discover what we are hiding from ourselves is to learn to ask the right questions.
We KNOW all the answers. The problem is that we don’t ask the right questions.
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Here are two questions you can use in almost any quandary:
Question #1: “What is the BENEFIT I gain by not realizing my dreams?” or “What am I getting by not realizing my dreams?”
Trust me; you ARE getting a benefit or a PAYOFF for not realizing your dreams, and you must discover what that benefit is in order to eliminate it.
One of the most common hidden benefits is that you get to stay in your comfort zone. Even if we are unhappy where we are, many times, we have convinced ourselves that going after what we want is more difficult and more painful than staying where we are. We may be miserable, but at least we are comfortable.
Question #2: “What am I afraid will happen if I …………………. (fill in the blank with the dream)
This encompasses the changes in lifestyle we will have to make in order to achieve our dreams. This includes what we thing other people will think.
In order to have the success you want and deserve, you must answer and resolve these two simple questions.
Okay, so what do you do now?
First, turn off the phone, TV, stereo, and all other distractions. Then get a pen and paper and write at the top of the page:
“The benefits of NOT realizing my dreams are:”
List a minimum of 20. If you can’t ‘think’ of any, then just ‘guess’ and write them down. About the time you reach 10-15, you subconscious mind will take over. Write anything that comes to mind, no matter how trivial or insignificant.
Just allow your mind to wander and go where it takes you. Get as specific as possible.
Very few get past this point before they have some very interesting answers come up.
Now ask yourself how your fear or procrastination has served you thus far. Realize the fear is there for a specific purpose. Find the purpose and ask yourself if it still serves you to have this fear. Perhaps it is time to let go of your fear and stop procrastinating once and for all.
When you have lost the need for the fear, you will just naturally let it go (if you are ready to do so).
And when you let it go, you will be free to move toward the things you say you want—-and you’ll do it with ease and joy.
Are you ready to stop procrastinating or are you going to put if off a little longer? The choice is yours.
In life you can only have two things – Reasons or Results – and Reasons don’t count! You either have what you want, or you have ‘reasons’ why you don’t have it.
Procrastination is a disease. The cure is convincing yourself that it no longer serves you.
“Great article! I have been working on some of these for a couple of years now, and I can tell you from experience that they work. My favorite is the three questions, if you answer them honestly when you’re feeling stressed or upset they will help you focus. Thanks! – Smitty”
When the topic of procrastination comes up, I ALWAYS encourage you to look at, what I call your ‘MUST Conflicts’.
Let me explain. Your MUSTS are the things you have decided are important to you – like in a deal breaker kind of way. Let me give you an analogy – let’s say you are buying a house. You are going to have a list of MUSTS and then a list of WOULD BE NICE IF…
So for instance, perhaps your MUSTS are, a price of $250,000 or less and 2 bedrooms. And remember, these 2 things are deal breakers (they aren’t on your WOULD BE NICE IF list – they are MUSTS).
And let’s take this analogy further and say that you are terrified you won’t be able to buy a 2 bedroom house for $250,000 or less. And that fear turns into certainty and so without looking for actual facts or spending time brainstorming how you can realize BOTH of your MUSTS – you instead procrastinate even looking for a house.
That is very similar to what we do in life. So, the first step is to discover your MUSTS. And then look for what goals you have that seem to bring 1 or more of those MUSTS into conflict with each other. And then brainstorm – I promise you, there is always a path to agreement if you take the time to look.
So ask yourself this power question, “How can these MUSTS work together to create an exciting and joyful experience?”