A bag of what?

When I was a kid and my mom would take me to a friends house or birthday party, she would always stop me before I jumped out of the car — look me straight in the eye (so she knew I was paying attention) and say, “Don’t forget your bag of pleases and thank yous” and then she would pretend to hand me 2 bags…

Okay — I’m not gonna lie — there was a period of time when that made me want to run out of the car — rolling my eyes the whole way…

BUT — now I have to say how brilliant that was of her…

Even though I didn’t always love that moment in the car, I always remembered to say “please” and “thank you” and it became a habit…

And now, I’m amazed at how many people NEVER say “please” or “thank you” — and that base level of courtesy and respect is what we all need!

It may seem small, but small things can change your reality, and change the world in the process — I promise you this, people will notice you and they will appreciate that you took a second to say “please” or “thank you” — you will make more than 1 persons day — every day that you do this — and you will start to command a different level of respect from others…

Try it!  As you wake up every morning — make sure you grab your bag of “pleases and thank yous”…

I can’t wait for your comments!

Go Big!


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27 Responses to “A bag of what?”

  1. wes says:

    Good Word Kristen!
    The average person has forgotten, (or probably never been taught) the basics! I takes only a second to say “Thanks” and if you take the time to add “I appreciate that” it means you have made eye contact with someone else in this world and acknowledged their existence and their value. Can literally change a day and a life! Keep up the good work I enjoy your thoughts and attitude!

  2. Ann says:

    My parents raised us the same way and we raised our children with the same values. On a recent college trip with my 17 year old daughter, she actually said to me, “Mom, I am so glad you raised us with manners. It is amazing how many people are not even polite enough to hold a door open.”

  3. Niki says:

    I always say my pleases and thank yous and I get very angry when others do not use these basic courtesies. I have to admit, I am less likely to go out of my way to help someone who doesn’t say please or thank you. I use these words out of respect and appreciation, however I actually benefit as an indirect result. I always thank the kitchen staff at the school where I work when I take my plate back. I am a vegetarian, the vegetarian food is lovely and therefore a lot of the time it gets eaten by the “carnivores” before I arrive. Without me even asking, the lovely kitchen staff now hide a plateful of food for me so I always have something tasty to eat. I believe this is their way of saying thank you for my acknowledgement of all the hard work they do. Gratitude and manners are wonderful things.

  4. oliver says:

    Kristen, great little Story- My parents didnt use that trick- well A ) they didnt have a Car B) we actually owned a little shop that sold sweets-so not sure how that would work. But hey I did learn that habit- and even today always say thank you in shops-even in the big supermarkets etc- where i dont think they are used to hearing it. Thanks for sharing story- will pass to my daughter- who might adopt it with her glorious awesome little son- my grandson

  5. Vinod says:

    Hi Kritin, this is a great advice, which i will keep it in mind.And like always you tell things in a simple and brilliant way.
    God bless you,

  6. rajendran says:

    thank u for ur concern

  7. Jerry Linn Gerber says:

    Please keep doing what you do and don’t give up on me. Right now I am struggling financially and can’t afford what you have to offer. Thank you! I appreciate you and all that you do.

  8. Margareta says:

    Yes I like that and I still complement people for all and everything just by these simple words…..though I have a feeling that I am often looked upon as an alien for that.

  9. robert says:

    wHAT A great idea! sounds good

  10. Margaret says:

    Great example, and a great “picture” your mother provided for you! I wish that I would have thought of that to tell my children – perhaps it would work better than the constant reminders I have given them. It somehow seems that the “younger generation” is less atuned to using these simple phrases. Is it because we parents have not taught our children?

  11. Maher Atta says:

    Thank you very much .. I really appreciate this reminder note .. BECAUSE WE SOMETIMES DO FORGET TO SENT THANKS & gratitudes even for people we care for…Regards

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  13. Helen says:

    I use a bag of tools when i am anixous.

  14. William says:

    Please note that “Please” and “Thank You” is already genetically encoded in Canadians, who don’t need the 2 bags. It just comes naturally, eh.
    Thank You.

  15. Gerald S. says:

    Kisten, thanks so much for sharing this valuable lesson taught to you by your Mom. What a neat way to convene the concept to younger children. We always told our daughter to say Thanks and to write notes for gifts received. She is now grown and hopefully still remembers the lessons taught her. Wished we’d had your Mom’s example.

  16. Jerry says:

    Kristen, I did’t have a bag of thank-you or a bag of please, instead I got a slap to the back of the head, it produced the same result.

    When I was 11 years old I went to town with my Grandfather, and as we started to enter a feed store he held the door open for a lady and I ran in ahead of her, my grandfather (with open hand) knocked me on the back of the head, grabbed me by the collar and sat me on a block of salt.

    My grandfather told me to always open the door for women, children and anyone older than me (at age 11, that pretty much ment everyone), always look people in the eye and say thank-you and please. Be the first to offer to help and the last to speak and never be a critic.

    That was 48 years ago and I can’t begin to tell all the benifits this ATTITUDE and returned to me and my family. Most all the people I meet and work with and do business with are frendly, pleasant and willing to go to the next step to help. It’s as though my attitude influences others attitude. It’s contagious.

    Small lessons learned at a young age and at the right time, from a tap on the head or an imaginary bag, can and will set your path on good soil and all that you set your hand to will prosper.

    By the way, Thank You

  17. Great reminder. It seems that so many people have not been taught good manners and have an expectation rather than an attitude of gratitute. Maybe we as adults are to blame as we try to give so much in material things to our children, that they don’t appreciate all they have. The real gifts that will help them be successful in life, are good manners and personal esteem. When we can be grateful for little things then we end up being a gracious person who attracts others and attracts all the good things that life has to offer. The more you compliment others, the more you make their day and it is like a boomarang – because it is true: “All that you put into the lives of others comes back into your own.” You really can be a “hero” to someone else just by being kind and mannerly. Keep up the good work.

  18. Chris says:

    manners is the one thing I have instilled in my children = and now people comment on what polite young boys they are.
    It seems that please and thank you are a thing of the past in most people – and not just the young ones. My mother taught me it never hurt to be polite and to use your manners.

  19. Naresh says:

    A timely reminder, for in this day and time we have started taking things for granted and have simply forgotten the meaning of the word “gratitude”!

  20. Poppy says:

    Manners are free…I don’t always believe it’s a generational thing though. I work with women experiencing mental health issues and unfortunately often the fact that they have access to welfare benefits and free or subsidised medical support creates in them a sense of entitlement that not only undermines their personal power and ability to heal but also undermines their ability to practice this simple courtesy in their every day lives. I constantly remind them that saying please and thankyou costs them nothing…hopefully it will eventually sink in!

  21. Kristen I do miss your calls…I only cancelled because of money…you are great coaching I wish I could be on…thanks for the blog post still though…..damn it…….aaahhhh~

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  23. sandy says:

    You are so right on! So many people don’t say the words…
    I am very aware of it and get disappointed with them….. it makes me wonder if they care or really did not like what I did for them???
    I often go back to the ones who are appreciative to know I’m good.
    I work hard to keep my spirits up in spite of what others don’t do or not say. I believe I am great!! and very Grateful!!
    Thank you Kristen!

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  25. tim r says:

    Great little article – sage advise for our personal lives as well as our professional lives.

  26. Thank you so much for reminding me of this priceless statements. My 7 years old son is being taught that in school and I just get surprised when he acknowledges all my gestures to me. I will make sure I use them my self.

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