Be this and your life will change…

I need to share this with you…

2 weeks ago I was in a coaching session and my client was listing all of the challenges he was having —

One challenge after the other —

The list went on and on and on…

Literally for 20 minutes he listed all of the challenges he was dealing with…

When he finally stopped listing he said, “So, what do you think I should do?”

I was silent for a few seconds and then I said…

“Well, it’s time for you to become a solutions expert.”

Now it was his turn to be silent — 10, 15, 20 seconds of silence until finally I wondered if he had gotten cut off — and then I heard a tired exhale from the other end of the phone —

“A solutions expert huh?”

“Yup” I said “A solutions expert”…

He said, “Not sure I know what you mean…”

I said, “Well, I just listened to you list all of the challenges you are having for 20 minutes — so at this point I would say you are a challenges expert — and my guess is that you are hoping I will be your solutions expert and tell you how you can handle these challenges — when the reality is, the most valuable thing you can do for yourself right now is stop being a challenges expert and shift to being a solutions expert…”

“WOW” he almost shouted it — “I never even thought of it that way — you’re right, I sit here and log all of the challenges in my head so that when we have a session I’ll be able to get your take on them — and I could spend that time and energy actually focussed on possible solutions — WOW!”

That was it — he literally had what everyone refers to as an “AHA Moment” and the difference in him is incredible — he sent me an email yesterday telling me all of the solutions he had come up with since we last spoke — and because of this new attitude, he has signed 3 new contracts, dropped 5 pounds and spent valuable time with his daughter that he normally would have had to miss —

So, I’m going to tell you the same thing I told him —

Be a solutions expert!

Be a solutions expert!

Be a solutions expert!

Just try it and your life will change…

Leave a comment and pass this one on — we all need it!

Go Big!


25 Responses to “Be this and your life will change…”

  1. Lori says:

    You are absolutely correct. People want to look at the negative instead of focusing on the positive. When you seek solutions, you begin to see the big picture of life. You learn to break it down. Even if you don’t get to a solution immediately, there may be a resolution to the problem that will lead to the solution. Things then begin to get into perspective.

  2. David says:

    Yeah!!! that’s powerful, imagine what a wonderful world we would have if we all focused on solutions rather than be bogged down with un- ending challenges.

  3. barney says:

    Aha, bang between the eyes. Thank you Kristen.


  4. Janet says:

    I can’t thank you enough for this gem! You’ve made it sound so simple and do-able – from an appreciative budding solutions expert!

  5. margareta says:

    EXCELLENT REMARK! You never get too old to learn new tricks! M@

  6. Georgeann says:

    I listen everyday to my sister and tell her she needs to be part of the solution I think that it is easier said than done.All of her negative talk sure is a downner, I really have to change my attitude after listening to her.I tell her several things or ways she could handle the problem or perhaps she could think of some way to handle it herself, or take some action to change the problem instead of rehearsing it over and over again.Also to accept the problem other wise she is creating some resistance.We need to do our own thinking and do it our way.When we accept it as a challenge and just another thing to solve it appears to all work out for good.

  7. Lynn says:

    Loved it Kristen! We seem to focus in an area that will never move us forward. When I ask clients, “what can you do about that?” they usually stop dead in their tracks. They never even thought about the possibilitties or options for themselves. They don’t realize they have CHOICE! Thanks for getting the “shift” out there!

  8. Eddie Dean says:

    Well Kristen, I can see some of this. Maybe I have been challengeing things to much. Maybe I should Reverse my way of thinking,”solutions”, I have always been a slow type of a person. I have already started some changes. One not believing in myself has already started, confidence right behind it. You have been a great help with your post, keep up the good help,theres a lot of us out there.
    eddie dean

  9. christine says:

    i have to share this after what i just read…
    my mantra this year is,,,”I AM A POSSIBILITARIAN!!”
    when i wake in the morning,i think of all the possibilities that are before me.has given me a different approach to my days..
    i could quite possibly become a solutions expert,
    by being a possibilitarian!!

  10. marcy says:

    every one knows the 4parts of body is mental, emontional, physical,spiritual, but how do you get the physcial sitting in s wheel chair 16 hrs aday when the nursing home offers no physical activies for people like me, I do walk on a walker for 20 minutes aday, am recovering from brain tumor removal left side partially paraylzed, Dr. says paraylsis gone need lots of exercise to strenghten weak muscles, whats your advice.? waiting in Az.

  11. What a brilliant Idea, to be a Solutions Expert. I am so glad I read this, now I too am going to look for ways to be a solution expert. Just absolutlely life altering, I cannot convey in words the amount of sheer joy I am experiencing right now because of this revelation. Thank You so much!

  12. Tom says:

    Ever hear of needing to hear something at exactly the right time but thinking it can’t happen. It just did.
    If I may add this.
    I was thinking of this yesterday. There is a Napolean Hill Video where he speaks a prayer or what ever you want to call it given to him by Andrew Carnegie. It goes like this and I apologize if everyone has heard it before.
    “Devine Providence
    I ask not for more riches
    but for more wisdom
    with which to more wisely use the riches I was given at birth.
    Consisting in the power to control and direct my own mind to whatever ends I so desire”.
    end quote
    I finally figured out that I can direct my mind to create solutions to any and all of my problems. Remove all of my blocks for one thing or what ever I need. I only need the power of my own mind. With this I can be truly happy with whatever I have right now in this very moment.
    Kristen this is a wonderful post as are all of your posts.

  13. Rosa Muziotti says:

    Good idea. See the positive things we can do in order to improve our experience instead of complain about and do nothing

  14. JAMIE says:

    BINGO!!! How true is this..we do not know the power that we all posess to answer our own questions,solve our own problems and overcome our own challenges.I come up against this on a regular basis with my charity project i do.It’s the simple things that keep us going, make a difference and impact us all,and it’s people like you Kristen,that we need to spread the word! keep up the fantastic work.

  15. Tj says:

    This is very true. If people take just half of the energy they waste on focusing on their problems, and shift that to focusing on their solutions their lives would be much better. Great post.

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  17. Amy says:

    I totally agree with your article! I can’t say that I’m perfect at this, in fact, I needed the reminder. Hopefully, I’ll be able to implement your strategy into my life to improve the quality of life!

  18. Hi I want to advise Marcy the woman who is confined to the wheel chair to do some research n google to find out if their is a local group like here in Rochester, NY where I live that can help her.. its an advocacy center called the CENTER for DISABILITY RIGHTS, and if not then perhaps she should call them up at 585-546-7510 and ask them for help or go to their website which I don’t have here but I am sure she can find it if she does a google search for CDR in ROCHESTER, NY

    Ask and you shall receive but if you ask a better question you will get a better answer.

    As for this I do it all of the time that is why I am so blessed..

  19. vincent plett says:

    When i fell 5 floors and was hospitalized i was bedridden but i was determined to get out as soon as possiable. For me the hall way was my excape route to get out of the hospital it was my excercise area to strenghten my muscles. it started with me pushing the iv pole then from there it changed to useing a cane when i left the hospital and i continued to use the cane the rest of that winter untill i felt confident in myself to walk independant.The hint i can give is Don’t STOP start!!! write this down and post it on your wall. i found that i was spending a lot of time sitting at my computer so i posted a note to my self take a walk each hour sitting here instead of looking at these 4 walls. Be your own Dr you know what your body is telling you to do all you need is to take action to the problems or challengges that you are faceing –
    BECOME a solutions seeker i just had aha moment if you look at the word = problem the letters “bl” are stumbling letters then look at the word challenges the “h” and “ll” are the stumbling letters if you were to travel across the letters only all the other letters can represent ease with the word problem you face a obstical and it stops you. I LIKE the word challenges the letter” h” is only a small speed bump which prepared you for the little bigger speed bump the letters” ll” then it is on to ease May this encourage you all to acept challenges which lead to success

  20. Claudette says:

    Hi Kristen,
    Spot on!… I decided that for 2011 I would not just focus on what I wanted but ACT on it even if it meant taking baby steps. Has it been easy to switch from being victim to victor..not really, I have to constantly monitor my thoughts and actions and make the adjustments but I feel more purposeful and peaceful.

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  23. segun Aderemi says:

    This is incredible knowledge revealed.

  24. Darryl says:

    This is the very remedy that one needs to overcome a lot of adversities. Fear, procrastanation, and many other challenges that presents itself within one’s mind. I’m pretty much like your client, looking for someone to provide an instant anwserto my questions, whereasthough the anwsers lies within your own portal of your
    imagenation. “Seek and you shall find” as the saying goes. From this point on I’ll not jump to conclusions about any thing until I think them through carefully. Thank for your useful posts!

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