The “Yeah Buts”…

Does this sound familiar?

You get an idea about something you want to do…

Whether it’s a way to make money or a great adventure you want to take or a dream you want to realize…

And in the first few seconds after you get the idea you get really excited…

It feels so real…

And then the voice in your head starts talking to you…

• “Yeah but you’re not smart enough”
• “Yeah but you don’t have enough time”
• “Yeah but you’re too old”
• “Yeah but you don’t know enough”

And on and on and on…

And then you start to doubt yourself and discount your idea…

I’ll ask you again…does that sound familiar?

Here’s the deal with the “Yeah Buts”…

I guarantee you that if you told someone else that same idea and they started in with all those “Yeah buts” you would have something to say about it…

So this is what I want you to do from now on…

Any of the ideas you have, write down the “Yeah Buts” that you have about them and then for each of them, give an answer of a solution –

Here’s an example from a coaching session I had recently –

My client has a business and she had an idea for how to get a bunch of sales from a group and one of her biggest “Yeah Buts” is that she is terrible with budgeting and tracking money — this was getting into her head so much that she was starting to get scared of making sales for fear of how she would blow it once money was coming in.

So I took her through the following exercise –

I had her tell me about her great marketing idea as if I was her best and most trusted friend — As her friend I then voiced her “Yeah But” and I told her she had to come up with a solution as she would if she was talking to someone else…this is how the conversation went:

CLIENT: “I’m taking my product to corporations to give to their employees — the best part is that I already have 3 corporations that are very interested and it looks like this will explode my business!”

ME: “Yeah but you’re terrible with money! If your business explodes you’re going to screw everything up and get in trouble with the IRS…”

CLIENT: “I thought of that to, so that’s why I’ve decided I’m going to get an accountant right away!

That was it, 3 lines of a conversation and she had decided on the exact solution to her “Yeah But” and she got the “Yeah But” to shut up.

That’s what I want you to do with all of your “Yeah Buts” –

Write them out in conversation form and look at the solutions you come up with –

And here’s a key –

Sometimes it takes longer to get to the resolve — what I mean is if your first answer to the “Yeah But” opens itself up to another “Yeah But” you need to keep going. Stick with it and you will resolve!

You are extraordinary!

Go Big!

Kristen

What if you can’t visualize?

I do alot of talking about visualization and really seeing what you want to achieve…

I have received many emails crying for help — and here’s why…

There are a lot of you that can’t seem to visualize…

You can’t ’see it like a movie’ or ‘create a picture in your mind’…

So does that mean you won’t get what you want?

NO! Don’t worry!!

There is a way…

Free yourself from being able to ‘See it’…

Here’s what you can do instead…

• Describe it in full detail as if you were describing it to someone else –
• Use your words and imagination to fill in all the blanks…
• Describe exactly what you want a day in your ideal life to be…

BUT — and here’s the key…

Describe it to me, in the present tense!

Make sure you use all your senses — tell me what you see, what you hear, what you smell, what you touch and MOST IMPORTANTLY…

Tell me how you feel…

THAT’S THE KEY!!

How does all of this make you feel?

I promise you that once you start describing all of this in full detail and really get into how it makes you feel, you are ‘Visualizing WITHOUT needing to See it in your mind’…

If you are having trouble ‘Seeing’ and ‘Visualizing’ then do this…

AND if you are having trouble knowing exactly how to describe your ideal life — start smaller — start at the next level (this is something I tell you exactly how to do in the Go Big Now! VIP Monthly Program) –

Leave a comment here and describe to me in full detail — remember to include how you FEEL!!

You are extraordinary!

Go Big!

Kristen

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Discipline is only causing you pain?

In life there is pain…

That doesn’t mean life has to be painful…

But there will be pain…

I want to talk about 2 specific types of pain — these aren’t the only types, but they are the 2 kinds that determine a lot about the life you design — or don’t design…

So what are they?

1. The pain of discipline

2. The pain of regret

Now don’t get me wrong here…

You know I am all about creating a life of flow and ease and not forcing your life…

Which leads me to the pain of discipline –

Let me rename it to– The pain of consistently pushing your comfort zone in order to move you toward your goals…

That’s really what it is…

Just discipline to be disciplined can rob you of a lot of joy…

And so many of us see crazy strict discipline AND will power as the only way to get what we want — but the pain of that random and meeningless discipline is EXACTLY why we consistently choose NOT to follow through.

That’s why we need to redefine it IMMEDIATELY so that you can start to thrive…

Here’s what I want you to do…

Throw out discipline and will power –

You heard me…

Throw it out!

Now before you get all giddy, here’s what I can tell you…

What I am going to ask you to replace discipline and will power with will make you VERY uncomfortable…

BUT it will also bring you results!

Replece discipline and will power with choosing to consistently push your comfort zone in order to move you toward your goals…

Every day…

Don’t just do things to be disciplined…

Do them, because they make you uncomfortable AND will move you toward what you want…

Doing this will save you from the worst pain of all…

The pain of REGRET…

Are you ready?

Leave me a comment and tell me how you will push your comfort zone this week…

Go Big!

Kristen

You could give up or you could get _______ …

I know you have things that you want to have happen in your life…

You are focusing on them, visualizing, getting specific and taking inspired action –

You’re doing everything we’ve talked about here…

BUT..

Often you still find yourself waiting for someone else or sidetracked by unforeseeable circumstances or pressed for someone else’s deadline…

So what now?

I constantly talk about how we are 100% responsible for our lives and the story that plays out in our lives and yet…

How can that be true when you are subjected to other people and situations and expectations?

I’ll tell you how…

• You can ALWAYS be creative…
• You can ALWAYS take another path…
• You ALWAYS have a choice…

This is one of those posts that will make some people really angry — and if you aren’t ready to accept this as true, I’m sorry…but I’m not going to change my tune…

Here’s the deal –

When you are waiting or feel like whatever you want to happen relies on someone else, you feel a loss of power…

When you look at the situation and acknowledge that the one path you are looking at is delayed and then ask yourself what different action you can take to find a different path or opportunity etc. THEN you activate your power — you activate your creative juices — you activate Inspired Action…

So here’s my question for you today…

And keep in mind this applies to EVERY AREA of your life…

• Money
• Business
• Relationships
• Fun
• Health

EVERYTHING…

Ask yourself this…

What is something in your life that is ‘held up’ or seems to be reliant on someone else and how can you get creative and look for another possiible path to bring you the same (or better result)?

Leave me a comment with your answer…

Also, let me know if you are ready to be creative and stop waiting for other people to make things happen in your life…

Go Big!

Kristen

Delusions or Expectations?

If you are here reading this then there is a good chance that you are different than the people who are willing to live a “Normal” life…

Chances are good you want your life to be extraordinary AND you feel that the great and amazing things you imagine for yourself can actually happen.

You are on a different path…

And good for you!

BUT this is what I know…

You probably struggle to find other people who understand that path…

When you talk about your plans and ideas and goals most people will dismiss them as delusions of grandeur…

THEY ARE WRONG!

What most people call ‘Delusions of Grandeur’, I call –

EXPECTATIONS OF GREATNESS!

Celebrate your expectations of greatness!

Celebrate your willingness to take a different road…

A road that is only travelled by a few.

It is a hard road to travel down at times…

It can feel very lonely…

But that’s what this blog is here for…

From now on, whenver someone in your world questions your expectations of greatness and calls them delusions of grandeur, come here…

Leave a comment on any post CLAIMING YOUR GREATNESS –

Say it loud!

Claim it here…

We are on the same path and when you have doubt…

We will celebrate your greatness!

Leave a comment now and share your expectations of greatness for your life!

You are brave and I applaud you…

You are EXTRAORDINARY!

Go Big!

Kristen

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