What do you bring to the party?

Okay…I’ve recieved more than a handful of emails in just the last day asking me things like

• “How do I get people to give me the break I need?”
• “How do I get people to put my products in front of their list?”
• “How do I get people to introduce me to someone that can really help me?”
• “How do I get people to really appreciate me?”

and so on…

I get it…I used to wonder those same things…

BUT I had it all wrong…look at the questions I listed above…

What is the one part that repeats in every question?

“How do I get people to…”

I’ll tell you now…you need to stop looking for how you can get them all to make your life better and more successful and instead ask yourself this question –

“What do I bring to the party?”

And here’s the deal with this…

I didn’t say to ask yourself  what you bring to the table…

THERE IS A HUGE DIFFERENCE…

What you bring to the table is all of your natural gifts and abilities…

What you bring to the party is who you are, what you give, how you act, the energy you give off…

Let me explain further…

I know a TON of people that bring a lot to the table…

I mean they are talented and bright and have potential that you wouldn’t believe…

BUT…

They don’t bring anything to the party…

In fact half the time they don’t even show up to the party, and when they do, they are so busy sitting there wondering why no one sees everything that they bring to the table, that they come off as angry, withdrawn, insecure or boring — they actually betray what they bring to the table by bringing nothing to the party…

So, ask yourself, what do I bring to the party?

Leave me a comment and let me know!

Go Big!

Kristen

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Break it down…

I’ve found that people are really struggling with something that is holding them back in a BIG way…

So what is it?

Here you go…

They overwhelm themselves with huge things they have to accomplish in a short period of time…

Here’s my solution…

BREAK IT DOWN!

Here’s what I mean…

Don’t overwhelm yourself by choosing a huge thing to do without breaking it into steps…

Here’s an example…

A client of mine was in a session with me and he said he had a crazy busy day the next day and he was overwhelmed…

I asked him what he was up to and he told me that he was getting his website up and running.

I said “Okay, what does that mean?”

He said, “What do you mean what does that mean?”

I said, “Well, how far along are you?  What specifically do you have to accomplish tomorrow in order to get your site launched?”

He said, “I don’t even know, there’s so much I’m just going to jump in, but I have to tell you, I don’t even know where to start.”

YIKES!

• We spent the next 35 minutes breaking down all the steps of what he needed to do.
• Then we prioritized them.
• Then we figured out what he could have someone else do.
• Then we scheduled each of the steps in increments of 15 min to an hour.

In doing that, we realized it was actually going to take him 2-3 days, BUT he had a PLAN and it was broken down into manageable and doable steps!

And I guarantee you he will actually get it done instead of heading into day after day of running around in circles with it…

When you have something that you have to do, here’s a rule of thumb of it you need to break it down…

If doing it will take more than 1 hour then you need to break it down into smaller steps!

That’s it…

This can literally change your life right NOW!

Leave me a comment and let me know what you need to break down into smaller steps!

Go Big!

Kristen

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You have to know this answer…what’s the FIRST step?

Goal setting, goal setting, goal setting…

I get hundreds of emails each week from people asking about goal setting…

They want to know:

• How to set realistic goals
• Why they aren’t reaching their goals
• How they know if their goal is realistic
• Should they split up their goals into different categories
• If they can focus on more than one goal at a time or multiple goals

etc.

Here’s the deal…

I firmly believe in the saying “if you can conceive it you can achieve it” BUT this is where most people struggle…

Every huge vision

Every momentous goal

Every ultimate success

STARTS WITH THE  FIRST STEP!

Decide what your ultimate vision is…

I guarantee it is full and complete and includes all the elements of life:

• Money
• Career
• Creativity
• Relationships
• Spirituality
• Fun

and more…

In all my coaching and teaching I tell you to know what that full vision is and see it, taste it, touch it and feel it in as much detail as possible…

Once you do this, then I need you to break that down into bite size bench marks or goals…

If you want to make a million dollars and work 4 hours a week and travel the world with the love of your life but right now you make $30,000/year work, 40 hours a week, can’t take time off for vacation and are single then your ultimate vision is probably somewhat intimidating.

I’m here to tell you it’s possible BUT you have to break it down…

How do you eat an elephant?

1 bite at a time!

Do it now…write down the bench marks…make sure you break them down enough that the first bench marks feels achievable.

Great…that first bench mark is your first goal.

Now I need you to decide 1 thing and 1 thing only…

What’s the FIRST step?

A step isn’t something that involves many steps…

A step is a step…just one…

What’s the first step?

Write it down…

If this step requires a list of steps to achieve it then you haven’t broken it down enough…

The first step is the FIRST STEP and that’s it.

Once you decide what the first step is you MUST schedule it and then DO IT!

Here’s the trick to achieving your ultimate vision faster than you thought possible…

One step at a time…

Once you  finish 1 step, identify the next step, identify it and DO IT and so on until you reach your first Bench Mark or Goal.

As soon as you reach your first bench mark or goal it’s time to figure out the first step on the journey to the next bench mark or goal and so on.

Every day ask yourself, “What’s my next step?”

Do this exercise and leave me a comment telling me your first step…accountability is a huge key to success!

Go Big!

Kristen