Do you stick to your guns?

During my Broadway days in NYC I also trained dogs for a while and there is something so important that can be learned from training dogs and that is sticking with your guns…

Huh?

Stay with me and I’ll explain…

One of the dogs I trained was a jack Russel Terrier –WOW they are smart dogs–some people say they are too smart and too hard to train…

I disagree…

If you stick to your guns and follow through and make sure they follow your command when you give it to them (no matter how stubborn they are) then eventually they become the best trained dogs you can find.

For example, this one couple who had the Jack Russel would have me work with him and then I would work with them and him…

Why?

Because in reality I was training them…

This is how it would go…

I would have him sit using a simple arm gesture and command…

The wife would have him sit with the same arm gesture and command…

The husband would try to have him sit with a similar arm gesture and command and then would give up after 3 tries…

YIKES!

If you tell a dog to sit and you really want the dog to know that when you say sit you mean it…

YOU HAVE TO STICK TO YOUR GUNS!

Here’s the deal…

At first they won’t want to and they will try to out stubborn you BUT you MUST PERSIST…

I don’t care if you have to stand there for an hour until the dog sits BUT you can’t let him go until he does.

Here’s another example…

I was in the grocery store the other day and this is the conversation I heard between a mother and little girl:

Little Girl: Mommy I want a candy bar

Mother: Sorry honey, not today

Little Girl: Why?

Mother: Because we’re about to go home and have dinner.

Little Girl: Please!

Mother: No honey, not tonight, some other time.

Little Girl: But I want it!

Mother: You’re about to have dinner.

Little Girl: I WANT IT!

Mother (embarrased because people are looking): Ok, but just this once…

Just this once huh? I don’t think so, that mother is in for a lifetime of candy bars before dinner…

And believe me, I completely understand…her daughter wore her down and brilliantly did it in front of strangers…who wouldn’t give in just to get out of there right?  Seriously, I GET IT!

What’s my point?

Here you go…

You are the Dog AND the Owner

You are the Child AND the Mother

Your conscious mind decides it wants something and gives your subsconscious mind a command to get it…then the outer world strikes and puts up an obstacle or sends out a diversion and your outer mind abandons the original command and changes it.

In other words…

You know what you want out of life and you tell yourself you are going to get it but the second something comes up to indicate that you may not be able to get it you give in or give up and call it a pipe dream and accept whatever ‘SEEMS’ to be true…

We’ve all done it…I know I have…

It’s time for that to end!

CAUTION: I’m not telling you to force things or force action BUT I am telling you not to give up!

Letting go of the specifics will help…

By that I mean don’t attach to how you will make a million dollars or who your perfect mate is or how you’ll get the financing to buy your dream house…

• Know what you want
• Know it’s possible
• Know that roadblocks will show up to indicate it ISN’T possible
• and then STICK TO YOUR GUNS and believe that you can have what you want and then…

Ask yourself this question…

“Even though I have run into a roadblock, what I step can I take right now to move toward what I desire?”

Please, I beg you…stop giving up on your dream every time someone or something tells you it can’t happen…

Like I said, you have to let go of how it will happen or who it will happen with because it may come to you in a way you never imagined but keep believing that you can create your life…

Leave me a comment and tell me the dream that you will now commit to believing in no matter what!

Be brave and…

Go Big!

Kristen

How do you walk into a room?

We’ve been talking a lot about how to become a solution for someone else’s problem.

We’ve also talked about how important it is to approach people and ask them how you can help them instead of approaching people and telling them how you think you can help them.

I know from the emails I’ve been getting that some of you are already having GREAT success with this and some of you are really struggling.

The biggest struggle seems to be in having people believe you are the solution.

Luckily this is where I can help…

As you know I am a coach but I am also an actress.  I have performed on Broadway and in Film and TV and the audition process is a great learning tool…

Here’s why…

When someone is casting a show or movie or TV show they have a problem that needs a solution.

Their problem is a script with no one to bring the characters to life and tell the story in a way that will come across to the audience.

That’s where an actor comes in…

Every person that walks in the door to an audition is a potential solution to that problem.

Now here’s the key…

When you walk into the room to audition, you better carry with you the belief that YOU ARE A PERFECT SOLUTION to their problem or you are going to be almost invisible.

Notice I didn’t say THE perfect solution and that’s because I am of the mind that to every challenge or problem there are multiple solutions…

But if you don’t go in there feeling that you are A perfect solution they will almost not even see you.

So what can you learn from this?

MANY, MANY things…

But the primary thing I want you to look at right now is making sure you do whatever you need to do before you approach someone in any way to absolutely believe that you are 1 perfect solution to their problem.

If you are feeling invisible, that’s what’s missing…

People are looking for solutions to what they are focusing on and if you don’t fit that, it’s nothing personal, you just won’t be on their radar.

I want you to remember this through all of it…

You won’t be the solution that gets chosen every time…

That’s ok…

Your ONLY job is to make yourself visible to them as a possible solution whether it’s now, later or never…

If you find yourself constantly feeling invisible there are 2 primary reasons:

1. You don’t have conviction in you being a solution
2. You are trying to make yourself a solution to the wrong problem (find the right fit and you’ll be amazed at what happens.)

So I ask you…

How do you walk into a room?

Do you walk in as a possible solution or do you walk in already expecting that you will be invisible and overlooked?

Be honest and leave me a comment so I can know how to continue to help you!

Go Big!

Kristen