2 weeks ago I was in a coaching session and my client was listing all of the challenges he was having –

One challenge after the other –

The list went on and on and on…

Literally for 20 minutes he listed all of the challenges he was dealing with…

When he finally stopped listing he said, “So, what do you think I should do?”

I was silent for a few seconds and then I said…

“Well, it’s time for you to become a solutions expert.”

Now it was his turn to be silent — 10, 15, 20 seconds of silence until finally I wondered if he had gotten cut off — and then I heard a tired exhale from the other end of the phone –

“A solutions expert huh?”

“Yup” I said “A solutions expert”…

He said, “Not sure I know what you mean…”

I said, “Well, I just listened to you list all of the challenges you are having for 20 minutes — so at this point I would say you are a challenges expert — and my guess is that you are hoping I will be your solutions expert and tell you how you can handle these challenges — when the reality is, the most valuable thing you can do for yourself right now is stop being a challenges expert and shift to being a solutions expert…”

“WOW” he almost shouted it — “I never even thought of it that way — you’re right, I sit here and log all of the challenges in my head so that when we have a session I’ll be able to get your take on them — and I could spend that time and energy actually focussed on possible solutions — WOW!”

That was it — he literally had what everyone refers to as an “AHA Moment” and the difference in him is incredible — he sent me an email yesterday telling me all of the solutions he had come up with since we last spoke — and because of this new attitude, he has signed 3 new contracts, dropped 5 pounds and spent valuable time with his daughter that he normally would have had to miss –

So, I’m going to tell you the same thing I told him –

Be a solutions expert!

Be a solutions expert!

Be a solutions expert!

Just try it and your life will change…

Leave a comment and pass this one on — we all need it!

Go Big!

Kristen

• First a question
• Second a challenge

You in?

First the question…

Please be honest…

How do you get in your own way?

Here are some things to think about when you answer this…

• Do you focus on what is going right or on what is going wrong?
• What do you assume about other people?
• What conclusions do you consistently jump to?
• When do you procrastinate?
• What do you spend your time doing?
• What do you spend your time thinking about?
• How do you treat other people?
• How do you treat yourself?
• How do you treat opportunities?
• How do you handle challenges?
• How do you handle failure?
• How do you view people who have what you desire?

You get the idea…

So, once again, here’s the question…

How do you get in your own way?

Now for the challenge…

Once you answer this question honestly, I challenge you to NOT JUDGE YOURSELF!

It will be a challenge because you will want to judge yourself…

BUT here’s the key…

Self judgment is just another way for you to get in your own way –

So, answer honestly and then ask yourself this –

“What can I learn from this?”

and this

“What SMALL adjustment can I make right now to make myself more open to opportunity?”

Leave me a comment and let me know how you do with this!

You are extraordinary!

Go Big!

Kristen

P.S. Often getting out of your own way is a simple as using the Universal Law — however, to do that you need to know about the 16 sub-laws — see what I mean here…

http://www.gobigcoach.com/messageofamaster.html

This is what you most often hear…

Spend 80% of your time on the 20% of actions that get you results

Well…I have a different example of 80/20 that flips it on it’s ear a bit…

Here you go…

Spend 20% of your time on the 80% of your customers that waste your time.

WHAT? What do I mean by that?

Here’s the deal…

80% of your customers, prospects, clients etc. WASTE YOUR TIME…

In fact, some of them waste so much of your time that they pull you from working on the 20% of actions that get you the MOST (80%) of your results!

Clients fight me on this all the time…

They don’t want to devalue their customers, prospects, clients etc.

And that isn’t what I’m suggesting…you should value everyone until they stop valuing you and your time!

Here’s an example:

I was recently working with one of my 1-on-1 clients on this and she was having a really hard time with it…

She had a customer that was wasting tons of her time…

This customer had bought an ebook from her for $19.95 and was sending her at least 2-3 emails per day with different issues and challenges and cries for help –

She asked me what I thought she should do…

I said, “Give him a refund”

WHAT? But that’s money I’m throwing down the drain…

I asked her how much time this guy had already taken from her — and she figured it to be about 60 minutes and counting…

I asked her how much people pay her per hour to consult with them personally — she said $150…

Have I made my point? Does that make sense?

There are some people that are going to be more work than they are worth…

I know that sounds cruel…

And I don’t mean it personally…I’m not saying those people aren’t worth it, but just because they are buying from you doesn’t mean they own you…they need to value you and your time too…

So, in her case, I told her to either lay down some boundries OR refund him…

She refunded him…

I promise you the 60 minutes she gained will be much more valuable in the end — especially since he had all the signs of someone that was going to ask for a refund anyway (it just would have been AFTER he wasted much more of her time)…

Don’t get so wrapped up trying to fix things for your high maitenance customers that you take time away from your dream customers!

This rule applies for every area of your life — ESPECIALLY personal relationships (but that’s a much more touchy subject, so I went at it from a business standpoint)…

How can you immediately apply this to your life or business?

Leave me a comment to let me know!

Go Big!

Kristen

Let me ask you 1 question…

Who are you listening to?

This is one of the biggest challenges today…

• There are a whole bunch of people in your life who are more than ready and willing to give you advice on what you can and especially what you CAN’T or SHOULDN’T do…
• There are countless people standing by, ready to protect you or steer you toward what is smart and sensible and realistic…

So often these people listen to your ideas and tell you they won’t work, or they aren’t smart…

And when they do, it’s easy to get discouraged and abandon your ideas…

It’s easy to get deflated and look for a more sensible or realistic approach that doesn’t get you excited, but at least ypu’ve heard it makes sense…

Here’s my big question for you…

When it comes to the people who you are listening to…

Do they have what you want?

I’m all for advice and mentors and perspective…

BUT

Please, please, please…

Get that advice from people who are where you want to go…

• If you want advice on how to start making $10, 000 a month through passive income, should you listen to someone who has only ever made $3500/month and traded time for every single dollar of it?
• If you want your relationship to be healthy, communicative and passionate, are you going to listen to your friend who is in a loveless marriage?
• If you want to get into the best shape of your life, are you going to go to someone who has never exercised a day in their life for advice on how to do it?

When I ask my coaching clients these questions they always see how ridiculous it is to get advice from someone who doesn’t have what you want…

AND YET…

Most have them have been doing just that…

Most people have a group of advisers that they love and who love them, but when it comes to deciding if your ideas and dreams can happen…

When it comes to discovering the path to design the life you desire…

Make sure you are listening to people who know from experience what it takes to get there!

Listen…

Your friends and family are so important to love you and add to your life…

And if you your friends and family do have the things that you desire, then PLEASE listen to them!

But often your advisers serve a different purpose…

Start finding people who have what you want (at least the next level from where you are)…

Your life will start to change instantly when you do!

As always, leave a comment here…I love hearing from you and what you have to say might be helpful to someone else!

Go Big!

Kristen

P.S. My Go Big Now! VIP Program is designed to give you the strategies of successful people so that you can immediately start moving toward the life of your dreams.  I’m accepting new members and would love to see you there… www.gobigcoach.com

I have received many emails crying for help — and here’s why…

There are a lot of you that can’t seem to visualize…

You can’t ‘see it like a movie’ or ‘create a picture in your mind’…

So does that mean you won’t get what you want?

NO! Don’t worry!!

There is a way…

Free yourself from being able to ‘See it’…

Here’s what you can do instead…

• Describe it in full detail as if you were describing it to someone else –
• Use your words and imagination to fill in all the blanks…
• Describe exactly what you want a day in your ideal life to be…

BUT — and here’s the key…

Describe it to me, in the present tense!

Make sure you use all your senses — tell me what you see, what you hear, what you smell, what you touch and MOST IMPORTANTLY…

Tell me how you feel…

THAT’S THE KEY!!

How does all of this make you feel?

I promise you that once you start describing all of this in full detail and really get into how it makes you feel, you are ‘Visualizing WITHOUT needing to See it in your mind’…

If you are having trouble ‘Seeing’ and ‘Visualizing’ then do this…

AND if you are having trouble knowing exactly how to describe your ideal life — start smaller — start at the next level (this is something I tell you exactly how to do in the Go Big Now! VIP Monthly Program) –

Leave a comment here and describe to me in full detail — remember to include how you FEEL!!

You are extraordinary!

Go Big!

Kristen

P.S. I’m still taking interviews to see who will work with me 1-on-1 — if you need someone to help you get a plan, handle challenges and hold you accountable, go fill out the interview form now and my Director of Interviews will get in touch with you – http://www.gobigcoach.com/coaching.html

From the emails I am getting, it looks like so many of you are on the path to discovering your purpose and what you are really passionate about AND then turning it into a money maker for you…

Good News: I have also been listening to your feedback and am developing a program to guide a few of you, step by step through the process of discovering your passion and making money from it.

Don’t worry, I’ll let you know as things progress, but I have a favor to ask of you before then:

I want to know what specific challenges you are having with this process and the specific things you need help with. Shoot me an email at kristen@lawofattractionkey.com or post a comment here. That way I can see what you are REALLY needing help with so I can make this program the best that it can be!

Okay…let’s get on with this…

You have gone through the exercises to help you find your purpose (right?) and now you have a list of 3 idea ways for you to make money from your purpose…

So now what?

To make money from your passion, you need to ask yourself three Essential Questions.

Grab that pen and paper again…and let’s go!

3 ESSENTIAL QUESTIONS FOR MAKING MONEY FROM YOUR PASSION:

1. What problem do people have that I can solve?

2. Why and how can I help them solve their problem? What is it that I’m bringing to the table that will make their life so much better?

3. Are the people with this problem ready to spend money for a solution?

Before I get a whole bunch of emails about how you shouldn’t want to capitalize on other people’s problems to make money…let me say these 2 things:

1. I NEVER want to encourage you to take advantage of someone else in order to make money.

2. I DO know that if you can help someone solve a problem they are having then you ABSOLUTELY deserve to be compensated for that.

AND I will tell you, that if you have a solution for something and you give it away for free, most often people won’t value it and they won’t take action and use what you are giving them to change their situation.

Right now I want you to look at any problem that you can solve as EXTREMELY VALUABLE!

Think about it, when you have a big challenge or problem, isn’t it worth money for you to pay someone if you know they can help you solve it?

Of course!

I actually just hinted at something that is very important when you are deciding what problem you are going to help people solve…and we’ll get into that next time.

If you can guess what it is and send your answer to me in an email to kristen@lawofattractionkey.com and I’ll give you a free 15 minute assessment coaching session with me.

If you are REALLY READY to start making money from your passion, make sure you answer these 3 questions now.

Go Big!

Kristen