This is going to make some people angry…

I have to write this post even though I know it’s going to make some people angry…

In fact I know that I will probably get a bunch of people riled up enough that they choose to never visit the likes of me or my blog again…

BUT I have to write it…

Why?

Because this one thing is causing people to live in misery and feel alone and defeated and I can’t stand it anymore…

That being said, it’s tough love time and this IS coming from a place of love…

Here we go…

Being a victim is only going to rob YOU of your life!

• I know bad things have happened to you, in fact some horrible things may have happened to you and I am not asking you to ignore that.
• I know people may not always be there for you or know what you need or consider you as they barrel through their lives…
• We (understandably) hold onto these things to protect ourselves from getting hurt again…
• Then we start to look for them even when they aren’t there…
• We stop communicating and sit around looking for proof that we aren’t important to the people in our lives or that we’ll never get what we want because we are too old or fat or thin or young or alone or stretched for time or money or, or, or…

At some point, being a victim only hurts one person and that is you!

All of the hurt that has happened in your life is only hurting you more if it defines every moment forward…

All the pain and alone serves to keep you alone because you won’t risk connection and communication…

The cost is great…

The cost is everything…

If you are ready to create the life you desire…

A life without limits…

A life with abundance and prosperity and love and laughter and adventure…

Then eventually you are going to have to stop hoping someone or something will come fix your life for you…

You’ll have to stop resisting love and connection and risk…

You’ll have to stop waiting for anyone you are going to give your love to to PROVE that they love you just because you’re you…

You’ll have to see that blame isn’t helping you anymore and that holding onto the pain of the past is keeping you in the past and keeping you from your life…

You are going to have to wake up one day (and only you will know when that day is) and decide that what has happened is over and you can start again NOW…

I’m not saying that the pain doesn’t suck and I’m certainly not saying that it is ok for people to knowingly hurt you and cause you pain…

I am saying that pain happens and you can become more because of it and you can still love and have everything you desire once you stop looking for proof of how awful and painful and lacking your life is…

I say this for you because I care…

I say this knowing that you shouldn’t do this UNTIL you are ready…

I say this risking that it will cause you to think I am blaming you and telling you that everything bad that has happened to you doesn’t matter (even though that couldn’t be further from the truth.)

I say this because we ALL need to hear it…and that includes me…

This is the key…

Everything bad that has happened to you up until this moment — it’s time to get over it!

Do it for yourself and no one else…

Do it to clear yourself so you can begin to live again…

I am not blaming or pointing fingers…I believe in everything that you are and I want you to experience yourself in your full glory…

I say this from my heart…

Are you ready to let go of the past?  Leave me a comment and let me know!

Go Big!

Kristen