Who are you listening to?

When it comes to your life and your goals and desires…

Let me ask you 1 question…

Who are you listening to?

This is one of the biggest challenges today…

• There are a whole bunch of people in your life who are more than ready and willing to give you advice on what you can and especially what you CAN’T or SHOULDN’T do…
• There are countless people standing by, ready to protect you or steer you toward what is smart and sensible and realistic…

So often these people listen to your ideas and tell you they won’t work, or they aren’t smart…

And when they do, it’s easy to get discouraged and abandon your ideas…

It’s easy to get deflated and look for a more sensible or realistic approach that doesn’t get you excited, but at least ypu’ve heard it makes sense…

Here’s my big question for you…

When it comes to the people who you are listening to…

Do they have what you want?

I’m all for advice and mentors and perspective…

BUT

Please, please, please…

Get that advice from people who are where you want to go…

• If you want advice on how to start making $10, 000 a month through passive income, should you listen to someone who has only ever made $3500/month and traded time for every single dollar of it?
• If you want your relationship to be healthy, communicative and passionate, are you going to listen to your friend who is in a loveless marriage?
• If you want to get into the best shape of your life, are you going to go to someone who has never exercised a day in their life for advice on how to do it?

When I ask my coaching clients these questions they always see how ridiculous it is to get advice from someone who doesn’t have what you want…

AND YET…

Most have them have been doing just that…

Most people have a group of advisers that they love and who love them, but when it comes to deciding if your ideas and dreams can happen…

When it comes to discovering the path to design the life you desire…

Make sure you are listening to people who know from experience what it takes to get there!

Listen…

Your friends and family are so important to love you and add to your life…

And if you your friends and family do have the things that you desire, then PLEASE listen to them!

But often your advisers serve a different purpose…

Start finding people who have what you want (at least the next level from where you are)…

Your life will start to change instantly when you do!

As always, leave a comment here…I love hearing from you and what you have to say might be helpful to someone else!

Go Big!

Kristen

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Scared to be too pushy or salesy?

I know there are many of you trying to get something out there into the world…

For some of you it’s a new business for others it’s a  form of creative expression or way of impacting the world…

It doesn’t matter what it is, what matters is that you get it out there and I know that for most of you there is probably fear that goes along with that.  You don’t want to be pushy or salesy or annoy the people you know and love…

But let me tell you something important about this…

And I’ll actually use this blog to illustrate my point…

Here’s the truth…

The more I blog, the more responsive people are…the more people ask for my help, hire me as a coach, bring me on to speak etc.

What does this mean to me about life and more specifically living the life we want to design, achieving our aspirations, being the people we desire to be?

I’ll tell you (you knew I would)!

It means that when we want to get something out there or make something known or get people on board with something we have to take the other people into account.

Now this is where I flip what we normally do on it’s ear!

How we normally ‘Take other people into account’ is by ASSUMING we will annoy them or bother them…we think they will grow weary of us…so we mention something in passing and then let it go…assuming that if it is important to them or resonates with them they will pick up the ball and run with it, gleefully letting us know how what we have is exactly what they’ve been waiting for.

Let’s be honest,  if we REALLY ‘Take other people into account’ we will realize that there are so many distractions and so much stimuli flying around all at all times, that if we just mention something in passing, chances are great that our thing or message or whatever will automatically shift to the back of their brains, not because they are being mean or don’t care, but just because that is how it is.

BEFORE I GO ON LET ME CLARIFY…You should also NEVER ASSUME that they are all ears and sitting around all day every day just waiting for your message or thing or whatever…I’m NOT saying be annoying…I’m not saying harass people…in fact you should always give people the chance to respectfully decline…

Here’s the thing…you only want to be talking to people who want to hear what you have to say AND I guarantee you that there are a lot more people that actually do want to hear what you have to say than you think.

To boil it down, I’m saying is this…

‘If you don’t toot your own horn, someone else will pick it up and hit you over the head with it.’

• Toot it with respect for the people listening…
• Toot it with confidence but not OVER confidence or false bravado…
• Toot it and know that NOT everyone will like the sound of your particular horn…

Keep in mind…tooting your own horn doesn’t mean talking about yourself or bragging…it means putting what you want out there and letting it be known…you never know who has the key to a door for you!

And remember…listen for when you might have the key to a door for someone else…because that’s a powerful thing!

Leave me a comment right now and answer this question…

What have you  quietly kept to yourself or mentioned only in passing, that it’s time to claim loudly now?

(This could be a dream as big as wanting to run for President or it could be as simple as speaking up and saying that you have always wanted to have the Vintage Cameras that used to be in your Grandmother’s house.)

Go Big!

Kristen

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I Challenge you…

I have a challenge for you this weekend!

Here’s the deal…

I want you to live and extraordinary life!

• This isn’t just about money
• This isn’t just about love
• This isn’t just about health
• This isn’t just about purpose
• This isn’t just about fun
• This isn’t just about spirituality
• This isn’t just about Joy and Relationships and Creativity…

This is about your COMPLETE LIFE!

There are too many people wandering around, settling for mediocre, accepting a version of themselves that is less than what they want and can be, do and have!

So I have a challenge for you…

And it’s not going to be what you’d think…

• I’m not going to ask you how you can move forward toward your goals this weekend…
• I’m not going to try to inspire you to believe you can be, do and have all that you desire…
• I’m not going to give you tough love and ask you to claim responsibility for everything that happens to you from this moment forward…
• I’m just going to ask you to do 1 thing and this 1 thing will be the start of greatness…

What is it then?

I’ll tell you…

I challenge you to do 1 thing for yourself this weekend!

Just decide to do 1 thing…

Take 1 moment to appreciate yourself in some way…

I PROMISE you it will be harder than you think…

I PROMISE you that this is the start to your extraordinary life!

When you appreciate yourself — you appreciate other people more

When you give to yourself — you have more to give

When you love yourself — you become boundless love

Leave me a comment and let me know what you are going to do for yourself…

Don’t wait…don’t hope that you’ll do this…commit now!

Accountability is the sure fire way to turbo charge your results and I will hold you accountable to this…

Your life depends on it!

Go Big!

Kristen

Get emotional!

I know that so many of you  are struggling…

I get at least 10 emails a day from people like you who are trying to connect to their Ultimate Vision or even the next step…

They are going through the exercises in my report, they are doing all the right things…

BUT

They can’t seem to fully visualize or feel what they desire and experience how they would feel if it were true…

Does that sound familiar?

Here’s the deal…

When any of my coaching clients are struggling with this very issue, the first thing we do is work on getting emotional!

If you aren’t emotional and excited about your Ultimate Vision chances are good you are staying in your rational mind when you focus on it…

So how do you get out of your conscious, thinking, rationalizing mind and get emotional and excited about your vision?

There are a bunch of exercises I run through with my clients which are too involved to do here; let me give you a few tips:

1. Suspend Your Disbelief: As an actress I have to do this all time, can you imagine if I went to shoot a scene in a movie but the whole time I was so grounded in my rational mind that knew I wasn’t really a cop or a lawyer or whatever?  How do you think that would go?  I need you to do the same thing…every day for just 5-15 minutes, suspend your disbelief and focus on your ultimate vision.
2. Pretend: When you were a kid, did you ever play ‘Let’s pretend’? What was the result? You jumped in 100% and played it out — I guarantee you committed to ‘pretending’ and I also guarantee you didn’t sit there judging yourself thinking you were ridiculous and this isn’t possible.  PRETEND…jump into it, play the movie in your mind of you living your ultimate vision –what does it feel like, what are the thoughts you think, what actions do you take?
3. Use Music: Plain and simple Music puts us in an emotional state.  We use music to put us in specific emotional states all the time.  AND when a certain song reminds you of a specific time or event in your life you are able to instantly hop into that state.  USE MUSIC to get into the emotional state you need to be in in order to suspend your disbelief and pretend.

You don’t need to spend hours on this…just 5-15 minutes a day!

Get in there and get emotional…

This is YOUR life we’re talking about!!

Leave me a comment and tell me how you feel about your ultimate vision, tell me how much it excites you and what you realize you have to believe to live your ultimate life!

Go Big!

Kristen

Are you overwhelmed?

Are you overwhelmed by your list?

You know what I’m talking about…

The dreaded ‘To Do List’!

If you are, you certainly aren’t alone!

Here’s what I want you to do right now…

Grab your list

Do these 2 steps:

1. For everything on the list ask yourself this, “Will doing this move me forward, sideways or backwards?”
   (I know it seems odd that there would be a backwards, but let me put it this way, if it’s on your list to help you procrastinate and avoid doing something that would REALLY move you forward than it qualifies.)
2. Keep, Leverage & Get Rid Of: This is how you handle the items now that they are labeled Forward, Sideways, Backwards

Forward: Keep
Sideways: Ask yourself if this really needs to be done, if the answer is ‘Yes’ then is there someone else you can leverage it to?
Backwards: GET RID OF IT!

Seriously…if you really want to get yourself moving toward the things you desire you HAVE to get rid of the things that are on your ‘To Do’ list that aren’t moving you closer to what you want.

I could literally right 20 more posts just on how to maximize the things you are spending your time doing and getting out from under the feeling of being overwhelmed, but this is a GREAT start.

Do it now!

I guarantee you there are at least 3 things you can get rid of if you are completely honest with yourself…

Leave me a comment and let me know what you are getting rid of and leveraging out…

Go Big!

Kristen