Scared to be too pushy or salesy?

I know there are many of you trying to get something out there into the world…

For some of you it’s a new business for others it’s a  form of creative expression or way of impacting the world…

It doesn’t matter what it is, what matters is that you get it out there and I know that for most of you there is probably fear that goes along with that.  You don’t want to be pushy or salesy or annoy the people you know and love…

But let me tell you something important about this…

And I’ll actually use this blog to illustrate my point…

Here’s the truth…

The more I blog, the more responsive people are…the more people ask for my help, hire me as a coach, bring me on to speak etc.

What does this mean to me about life and more specifically living the life we want to design, achieving our aspirations, being the people we desire to be?

I’ll tell you (you knew I would)!

It means that when we want to get something out there or make something known or get people on board with something we have to take the other people into account.

Now this is where I flip what we normally do on it’s ear!

How we normally ‘Take other people into account’ is by ASSUMING we will annoy them or bother them…we think they will grow weary of us…so we mention something in passing and then let it go…assuming that if it is important to them or resonates with them they will pick up the ball and run with it, gleefully letting us know how what we have is exactly what they’ve been waiting for.

Let’s be honest,  if we REALLY ‘Take other people into account’ we will realize that there are so many distractions and so much stimuli flying around all at all times, that if we just mention something in passing, chances are great that our thing or message or whatever will automatically shift to the back of their brains, not because they are being mean or don’t care, but just because that is how it is.

BEFORE I GO ON LET ME CLARIFY…You should also NEVER ASSUME that they are all ears and sitting around all day every day just waiting for your message or thing or whatever…I’m NOT saying be annoying…I’m not saying harass people…in fact you should always give people the chance to respectfully decline…

Here’s the thing…you only want to be talking to people who want to hear what you have to say AND I guarantee you that there are a lot more people that actually do want to hear what you have to say than you think.

To boil it down, I’m saying is this…

‘If you don’t toot your own horn, someone else will pick it up and hit you over the head with it.’

• Toot it with respect for the people listening…
• Toot it with confidence but not OVER confidence or false bravado…
• Toot it and know that NOT everyone will like the sound of your particular horn…

Keep in mind…tooting your own horn doesn’t mean talking about yourself or bragging…it means putting what you want out there and letting it be known…you never know who has the key to a door for you!

And remember…listen for when you might have the key to a door for someone else…because that’s a powerful thing!

Leave me a comment right now and answer this question…

What have you  quietly kept to yourself or mentioned only in passing, that it’s time to claim loudly now?

(This could be a dream as big as wanting to run for President or it could be as simple as speaking up and saying that you have always wanted to have the Vintage Cameras that used to be in your Grandmother’s house.)

Go Big!

Kristen

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Unbelievable…

THANK YOU EVERYONE for your amazing emails and posts!

The outpouring of love and care that has come to me over the past few days since my accident is absolutely amazing…

Some might even call it unbelievable…

Now, you know me…there’s a message or lesson in everything…

So what is it this time?

Here you go…

There are so many people out there talking about the horrible state of the world and the people in it.  Complaining about the lack of connection and care that exists between people these days…

This way of thinking just causes us to disconnect further…

And I have to say, “I get it.”

There are so many distractions now, so many ways for us to all stay in our own bubbles of space and time…

So many examples of inconsiderate behavior and people running over others to make sure they get what they want first…

BUT…

and this is a BIG one…

Over the last few days I have discovered that isn’t the truth at all…

Sure, there are distractions and we can ALL (me, you and everyone else) get too self absorbed sometimes…

But when it really comes down to it…

We are all connected…and when something happens that hits us at our core we feel that connection and are surrounded by it.

You are never alone…

THAT is what I discovered from all the reaching out…

Even when you feel alone you aren’t…

And when you accept that you are connected and supported and loved EVEN WHEN you don’t feel that way or see where that connection and support and love exists for you…

It will start to show up…

In the most unexpected ways and sometimes from the most unexpected people and sources…

But you have to open yourself up to it...

Which means you have to be willing to connect and be available and not decide where it should come from but just let it come…

And then…

Accept it! Don’t say yeah that was great but so and so didn’t show me love…

Don’t look for ways to dismiss the beauty of the love and connection and support that surrounds you every minute of every day…

Instead look for more ways to see it and value it and share it yourself.

Leave me a comment and let me know how you can be a source of unexpected connection or love or support to people you know and love or even to strangers.  Let me know how you are going to consciously CONNECT from now on!

I thank you all for your energy…it is overwhelmingly beautiful and I am better for it!

Go Big!

Kristen