You have a whole bunch of things that you are interested in –

There are a ton of possibilities for your own business –

You don’t want to miss anything or leave anything behind –

So, you are ALL OVER THE PLACE!

Ring a bell?

I know it does for me…

For years I was so scared of choosing to focus in one direction for fear that I would have to put everything else aside forever…

Well, I have a secret for you…

I was wrong — I mean W R O N G!

I was so busy trying to do everything at the same exact time, that I was getting nowhere fast!

I realized that I could have everything I wanted if I would just set up my time in chunks of focus — but the key to my success with this is that when I would block off time to focus on something, that was the ONLY thing I would focus on during that time…

No emails

No phone calls

No distractions

Then, I would shift to the next chunk of time that was dedicated to something else and ONLY focus on that…

And what happened?

My life changed –

My WHOLE life changed…

I had more money coming in than I ever had before

I was able to say ‘Yes’ to more opportunities

My relationships thrived

My health/body/fitness went from being that last thing I took time for to a consistent focus

My sense of peace increased significantly

And more and more and more…

So, what’s my point?

I’ll tell you –

You CAN be, do and have everything you desire when you schedule the time to focus on each thing — one thing at a time!

Try it — for one week — you’ll be amazed!

Leave me a comment and let me know what you are going to do to take action on this — today!

Go Big!

Kristen

• What are you scared of?
• When you feel fear what is it about?
• What doubt grips at you and won’t let go?

Here’s the deal…

We all have fear and doubt, but I have a secret for you…

Normally WHAT we fear and doubt is a recurring pattern in our lives…

And this is what I mean…

Your fears and doubts may seem to be about different things, BUT when you really break them down, they are all the same 1-3 fears AND these fears have been the same for as long as you have had fear.

WHAT?

Do this exercise and you’ll understand…

• Write down your top 3 current fears RIGHT NOW.
• Now, look at those fears and ask yourself this –

“I know it seems like I am scared that (whatever it is you are scared of), but what I’m really scared of is that (whatever you are scared of) will mean that I  __________________ .”

Here’s a good example, let’s say you are scared you are going to have to declare bankruptcy, this is what your answers would look like…

“I know it seems like I am scared that (I will have to declare bankruptcy) but what I’m really scared of is that doing so will mean that I am a failure.”

So, what you are really scared of is being a failure…

• Now, I want you to take it a step further and ask yourself why?

For example: “I am scared of being a failure because then people won’t love me and I’ll be disappointed in myself (in other words you won’t love yourself).”

In other words, what you are really scared of, is NOT being loved (by yourself and others)…

NOW…

Here’s the important part…

• Look back at different times in your life when you have been scared and do the same exercise –

Chances are good that your whole life, you have been dealing with the same 3-5 patterns of fear.

The great part about this is that you only have to address those issues — the real fears to rise above them –

Hear me now –

It isn’t about the specific thing you think you are scared of now, it is about 1 of your base recurring fears — and once you identify that, you can move on!

Leave me a comment and let me know what your REAL fears are…

Go Big!

Kristen

Every time you have to make a decision today, I want you to stop and ask yourself 2 questions first…

Here they are…

1. “If I made this decision out of fear or a feeling of lack what would I choose to do?”
2. “If I made this decision out of confidence or a feeling of abundance what would I choose to do?”

So often we choose out of fear and a feeling of lack, and I promise you that when you choose from that place, you are heading down the wrong path…

Now, let me be clear…

I know there are times where all we see is lack and all we feel is fear, and I’m challenging you to just look at what other options you have when you make decisions.

The state you are in when you make decisions GREATLY influences the outcome and path you travel down…

Most of you will be shocked at how often you are choosing out of fear and lack…

It’s time to look for a different motivation and here’s the great news…

Your circumstances can be exactly how they are right now and you can choose out of confidence and abundance –

Leave me a comment and let me know how you think you normally choose…

You are extraordinary!

Go Big!

Kristen

You get an idea about something you want to do…

Whether it’s a way to make money or a great adventure you want to take or a dream you want to realize…

And in the first few seconds after you get the idea you get really excited…

It feels so real…

And then the voice in your head starts talking to you…

• “Yeah but you’re not smart enough”
• “Yeah but you don’t have enough time”
• “Yeah but you’re too old”
• “Yeah but you don’t know enough”

And on and on and on…

And then you start to doubt yourself and discount your idea…

I’ll ask you again…does that sound familiar?

Here’s the deal with the “Yeah Buts”…

I guarantee you that if you told someone else that same idea and they started in with all those “Yeah buts” you would have something to say about it…

So this is what I want you to do from now on…

Any of the ideas you have, write down the “Yeah Buts” that you have about them and then for each of them, give an answer of a solution –

Here’s an example from a coaching session I had recently –

My client has a business and she had an idea for how to get a bunch of sales from a group and one of her biggest “Yeah Buts” is that she is terrible with budgeting and tracking money — this was getting into her head so much that she was starting to get scared of making sales for fear of how she would blow it once money was coming in.

So I took her through the following exercise –

I had her tell me about her great marketing idea as if I was her best and most trusted friend — As her friend I then voiced her “Yeah But” and I told her she had to come up with a solution as she would if she was talking to someone else…this is how the conversation went:

CLIENT: “I’m taking my product to corporations to give to their employees — the best part is that I already have 3 corporations that are very interested and it looks like this will explode my business!”

ME: “Yeah but you’re terrible with money! If your business explodes you’re going to screw everything up and get in trouble with the IRS…”

CLIENT: “I thought of that to, so that’s why I’ve decided I’m going to get an accountant right away!

That was it, 3 lines of a conversation and she had decided on the exact solution to her “Yeah But” and she got the “Yeah But” to shut up.

That’s what I want you to do with all of your “Yeah Buts” –

Write them out in conversation form and look at the solutions you come up with –

And here’s a key –

Sometimes it takes longer to get to the resolve — what I mean is if your first answer to the “Yeah But” opens itself up to another “Yeah But” you need to keep going. Stick with it and you will resolve!

You are extraordinary!

Go Big!

Kristen

As a website owner and coach etc.  I am required to tell people about average results…instead of the great, life changing results, that some of my clients experience…

So I want to talk about average results for a second…

Here’s the truth…

(For this post, I am only talking about programs and people that deliver on quality — let’s take the con artists out of this particular conversation)…

So, back to the truth…

The average results for any system or program or book or coaching is…

Failure…

and if it isn’t failure, it is mediocre results that probably would have been achieved without the purchase of the program or coaching or book etc.

AM I CRAZY??

You are probably wondering why, as someone who has products and coaching for sale, I would dare say this…

I’ll tell you why…

It’s true…

And it has NOTHING to do with the program, coaching or product (again, assuming a high level of quality)…

Here’s why the Average Results are so poor…

ONLY 5% of people that buy products, coaching, books and more ACTUALLY FOLLOW THROUGH!

And when I say follow through…

• I don’t mean start the program and do the parts that seem easy…
• I don’t mean read the book but don’t put anything into action…
• I don’t mean have your coaching sessions and just talk about things and then only take some action between sessions…

Just so you know…I was in the 95% for years…so I’m not pointing fingers AND you CAN CHANGE!!

I mean REALLY follow through…

• I mean go through the tough times and the frustration and the growing pains and the fear of change and the pain of being called on your resistance…
• I mean not jumping ship the second things get hard and going to the next program that you think might just make everything better…

To be honest…

I am tired or average results…and I know you are too!

• I’m excited about the 5% that do follow through…
• I’m excited about the 5% that puts their head down and knows it is going to be tough at times and that they are going to want to quit but they are so sick and tired or having Average Results that they do it anyway!

Let’s assume we are only talking about great programs and coaches and books etc.

It doesn’t matter if you work with me or with someone else of high quality…

Here is what matters…

Are you in the 5%?

Honestly…

Are you?

Now here’s the tough question…

Why?

Why do you refuse to stay in the 95% a moment longer?

If you are here, I know you are close…but only you can decide!

Are you ready to be in the 5% now?

Whether it’s now or later, whenever you hit the point that you are ready…

I am here for you…

To help you be EXTRAORDINARY!

Trust me, you are more than you could ever dream of…

Go Big!

Kristen

Fear was on my mind on my walk today, I was thinking about a coaching client of mine.

She is faced with an opportunity right now and when it was brought to her she was immediately hit with fear.

On our call today, she told me all of the wild thoughts that threw themselves at her at warp speed when she first got the call with this opportunity.

Before I share her thoughts with you (and yes, she gave me approval to do so) I feel it’s important to know that there is NO MONEY at stake, there are NO CONTRACTS being signed, DEATH could not be a result, hell INJURY isn’t even a possibility.

Back to her attacking thoughts…these are the primary thoughts that hurled themselves at her…

• ‘What if it only seems like an opportunity but it’s not?’
• ‘What if it’s too much work and doesn’t fit into my life how I want it to?”
• “What if I hate it?”
• “What if it fails?”
• “What if I waste my time?’

…You get the idea.

Fear is such a huge factor in our lives…it becomes a great reason NOT to do things, get involved, connect, try…live.

The funny thing to me is how we phrase our fears…here are some examples of what we tell ourselves…

• ‘I’m scared to fly’
  (No you’re not…you’re scared to die)
• ‘I’m scared to love’
  (No you’re not…you’re scared that you won’t be loved back)
• ‘I’m scared to try a new sport, language, hobby, business.’
  (No you’re not your scared you’ll look stupid)
• ‘I’m scared to start my own business.’
  (No you’re not…you’re scared you’ll fail)
• ‘I’m scared to reach out to that casting director’
  (No you’re not…you’re scared they’ll tell you you’re not talented)
• ‘I’m scared to tell them how much I love them’
  (No you’re not…you’re scared they won’t care)
• ‘I’m scared to commit to __________.’
  (No you’re not, you’re scared if you commit you lose the power to choose)

And the list goes on…

We attach fear to the wrong thing…we attach it to the action when really what we are scared of is some potential negative feeling/emotion/result.

If we took EVERYTHING that anyone claims they are scared of I guarantee it boils down to a few basic fears:

• Fear of death or injury (to you or someone you love).
• Fear of rejection
• Fear of looking stupid
• Fear of failure

Boiled down even further…what we are scared of in one word is PAIN.

And the thing about people is, for the most part, we will most likely take action to avoid PAIN than we will to achieve pleasure.

BUT BUT BUT

Isn’t living life in a LESS THAN way PAINFUL?

It is for me…it sucks…I hate it…I wish I got zapped with electricity every time I chose the pain of safety over the possibility of pain with something new or out of the box that could bring me great joy.

That’s what I mean by ‘Go Big’…to me ‘Going Big’ means choosing to go toward what has a chance to bring me great joy even though it may not…because if I don’t ‘Go Big’ I am guaranteed 1 thing and 1 thing only, and that is the pain of living a life that is ‘less than’.

So my questions for you today are:

What does ‘Go Big’ mean to you?

Remember the Go Big End of Year Challenge: In what small way (maybe in less than 15 minutes) can you push your comfort zone and choose to ‘Go Big’ today?

Go Big!

Kristen

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There are 39 days left in 2009…

I thought an experiment to see how far you can move forward while still enjoying the holiday season was appropriate!

First let me ask you this question…

If I told you that you could significantly move your life forward between now and January 1, 2010 and it would only take 15 minutes a day…

Would you commit to dedicating 15 minutes a day EVERY DAY for the next 39 days?

I’m going to assume you answered ‘Yes’!

So this is what we are going to do…

Starting today and going through Dec. 31, 2009 I want you to do 1 thing each day to move yourself forward…

Here are the rules:

• You MUST do 1 thing each day
• The ‘Thing’ you do MUST take 15 minutes or less to do…
• The ‘Thing’ you do MUST push your comfort zone
• The ‘Thing’ you do MUST make you feel like you have somehow moved yourself forward toward one of your goals

Got it?

It is up to you if you are going to focus on one area of your life to move forward for the next 39 days or if you are going to focus in several directions…

Either way, you WILL see a huge difference IF you absolutely commit to do this AND you follow through.

To help you out, I want you to leave a comment now stating that you are taking part in the challenge and what your focus is.  I also want you to tell me what it is you will do today.

This is another case of you are either in or you aren’t…

I know it’s tough love…but if you are just going to try to commit 15 minutes a day, you aren’t going to get where you want to go…

15 minutes…to move toward the life of your dreams…

• I KNOW you can do this…
• Commit to it now…
• Leave a comment…
• Tell me you’re in…
• Tell me your focus…
• Tell me what you will do today!

Have fun with this!!

YOU ARE EXTRAORDINARY!

Go Big!

Kristen

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For some of you it’s a new business for others it’s a  form of creative expression or way of impacting the world…

It doesn’t matter what it is, what matters is that you get it out there and I know that for most of you there is probably fear that goes along with that.  You don’t want to be pushy or salesy or annoy the people you know and love…

But let me tell you something important about this…

And I’ll actually use this blog to illustrate my point…

Here’s the truth…

The more I blog, the more responsive people are…the more people ask for my help, hire me as a coach, bring me on to speak etc.

What does this mean to me about life and more specifically living the life we want to design, achieving our aspirations, being the people we desire to be?

I’ll tell you (you knew I would)!

It means that when we want to get something out there or make something known or get people on board with something we have to take the other people into account.

Now this is where I flip what we normally do on it’s ear!

How we normally ‘Take other people into account’ is by ASSUMING we will annoy them or bother them…we think they will grow weary of us…so we mention something in passing and then let it go…assuming that if it is important to them or resonates with them they will pick up the ball and run with it, gleefully letting us know how what we have is exactly what they’ve been waiting for.

Let’s be honest,  if we REALLY ‘Take other people into account’ we will realize that there are so many distractions and so much stimuli flying around all at all times, that if we just mention something in passing, chances are great that our thing or message or whatever will automatically shift to the back of their brains, not because they are being mean or don’t care, but just because that is how it is.

BEFORE I GO ON LET ME CLARIFY…You should also NEVER ASSUME that they are all ears and sitting around all day every day just waiting for your message or thing or whatever…I’m NOT saying be annoying…I’m not saying harass people…in fact you should always give people the chance to respectfully decline…

Here’s the thing…you only want to be talking to people who want to hear what you have to say AND I guarantee you that there are a lot more people that actually do want to hear what you have to say than you think.

To boil it down, I’m saying is this…

‘If you don’t toot your own horn, someone else will pick it up and hit you over the head with it.’

• Toot it with respect for the people listening…
• Toot it with confidence but not OVER confidence or false bravado…
• Toot it and know that NOT everyone will like the sound of your particular horn…

Keep in mind…tooting your own horn doesn’t mean talking about yourself or bragging…it means putting what you want out there and letting it be known…you never know who has the key to a door for you!

And remember…listen for when you might have the key to a door for someone else…because that’s a powerful thing!

Leave me a comment right now and answer this question…

What have you  quietly kept to yourself or mentioned only in passing, that it’s time to claim loudly now?

(This could be a dream as big as wanting to run for President or it could be as simple as speaking up and saying that you have always wanted to have the Vintage Cameras that used to be in your Grandmother’s house.)

Go Big!

Kristen

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We’ve established that the Law of Attraction is ALWAYS working; it’s just a matter of if it is working for you or against you.

What we spend the majority of our time focusing on is we attract. If you spend most of your time thinking, feeling and acting broke…the Law of Attraction will deliver more situations to prove you are broke.

However, if you spend the majority of your time thinking, feeling and acting rich, then guess what the Law of Attraction will deliver to you?

You guessed it…opportunity for more riches!

Notice I said OPPORTUNITY for more riches…the reason I said OPPORTUNITY is because the Law of Attraction Key is INSPIRED ACTION.

Without Inspired Action you may be constantly surrounded by the opportunity for the life you desire…but if 8 million doors open up and you just sit there and don’t actually walk through one of those doors then your life still won’t change.

At this point, the question always arises of how to know the difference between regular action and Inspired Action and trust me there is a HUGE difference.

Regular action can keep you busy and running in circles every day for the rest of your life while inspired action doesn’t eat up all of your time and definitively moves you toward your goals.

Knowing the difference between regular action and inspired action will eventually become a ‘Gut Instinct’ for you…and once you tap into your intuition the Law of Attraction will work for you in ways you never imagined.

BUT…chances are good that right now you are like most people and much, if not most, of the action you take is probably inspired by fear or boredom.

There is 1 question you can ask yourself to discover if your instinct is guiding you out of Fear or Inspiration.

Before you take action, ask this question:

“Will doing this right now move me toward my goal of __________, away from my goal of __________ OR keep me in the same exact place?’

IT’S IMPORTANT to name the goal SPECIFICALLY, if you are general and don’t get specific this won’t be as effective.

If your honest answer is that it will move you toward your goal, GREAT, GO FOR IT…you are about to tap into the Law of Attraction Key of Inspired Action.

BUT…if it will move you away from your goal OR keep you in the same exact place then ask yourself this question:

‘What small action can I take RIGHT NOW to move me toward my goal of _______.”

When an answer pops into your head, ask yourself the first question again just to make sure you aren’t fooling yourself.

Then…

GO TAKE INSPIRED ACTION!

Remember, the Key to the Law of Attraction is Inspired Action. And once you tap into the power of Inspired Action you will stop taking action out of fear and in doing so will start immediately start attracting the life you desire.