Be honest…

Do you focus most of your thoughts thinking about what you want, or do you focus most of your thoughts on trying to avoid what you don’t want?

Here’s the deal…

Many people think that if they are thinking about how to make sure they avoid what they don’t want, then they are setting themselves up to get what they do want…

WRONG!

When you spend your time thinking about how to avoid what you don’t want, you are still focusing on what you DON’T want…

And what is the one thing we talk about all the time?

What are you sure to attract 100% of the time?

You are sure to attract what you focus the majority of your thoughts on…

SO…

If you are spending most of your time thinking about how to avoid what you don’t want — what will you attract?

You got it…you will attract what you DON’T want.

Every time you start to imagine avoiding what you don’t want, you are literally REHEARSING YOUR FAILURE!

Now, don’t be hard on yourself with this…

Just pay attention, and when you catch yourself thinking about what you don’t want in ANY way (even if it seems to be in a, proactive – this is what I’ll do to avoid what I don’t want way) then it is time to self-correct and say this to yourself…

“Okay, I’m focusing on what I don’t want — and what I want to do is focus on what I do want — so, what do I want?”

And then, really focus on what you do want…

How it feels, tastes, smells etc.

And if you are still struggling with what the difference is here, let me give you an example to really illustrate what I mean…

If I asked you, “What do you want?”

And you answered, “I want to be hugely successful in my business!”

GREAT, you are focused on what you DO want…

BUT –

If I asked you, “What do you want?”

And you answered, “I want to break free of failure and struggle in my business!”

Then you are focused on what you DON’T want…

It’s a small shift, but it is EVERYTHING!

Focus on what you do want — starting today — starting now!

I look forward to your comments!

Go Big!

Kristen

And today I want to introduce you to one of the most powerful questions there is…

I know SO MANY of you are frustrated and feel like you are banging your head against a wall wondering WHEN will you finally have the success you are looking for…

I get emails about it all the time — emails that say things like:

• “Kristen, I’m doing everything I can think of, but I still don’t have enough money…”
• “Kristen, I’m doing everything I can think of, but I still haven’t lost the last 20 pounds…”
• “Kristen, I’m doing everything I can think of, but I still haven’t met my soul mate…”
• “Kristen, I’m doing everything I can think of, but I still don’t have enough time…”
• “Kristen, I’m doing everything I can think of, but I still don’t have enough opportunities…”

and the list goes on…

I know you are nodding your head right now in agreement — I know you know what this feels like — I’ve been there too…

UNTIL

I shifted my focus — this is what I did…

I asked myself a different question than I had ever asked myself before –

Do you want to know what that question was?

Of course you do…here it is…

I asked myself this…

“Who do I need to be to have ___________ ?”

Here’s another great follow up question to that one…

“What do I need to believe to have ____________?”

And another powerful question…

“How do I need to act and look at life and handle setbacks to have ___________?”

Here’s the deal…

Whatever you want, I guarantee there is proof in this world that it is possible because I promise you someone else has it –

Study those people that have what you want –

• Who are they?
• What do they believe?
• What do they focus on?
• How do they handle setbacks?
• What do they expect?

This works for EVERYTHING –

Whether you want

• More money
• To lose weight
• To be a famous artist
• To have a successful business
• To find the love of your life
• To excel at your current job
• To discover your passion and purpose

etc. etc. etc.

STOP looking at what you don’t have and instead focus on who you have to be to have what you want…

I promise you that right now you are EXACTLY who you need to be to have what you currently have — and I know you are ready to change that!

Leave me a comment — let me know what your beliefs and more need to be for you to live the life you want…

I also have a video with more (free) power questions for you at:

http://www.gobigcoach.com/sos/powerquestions.html

Go check it out — this stuff can change your life — I know because it changed mine!

You are extraordinary!

Go Big!

There are 39 days left in 2009…

I thought an experiment to see how far you can move forward while still enjoying the holiday season was appropriate!

First let me ask you this question…

If I told you that you could significantly move your life forward between now and January 1, 2010 and it would only take 15 minutes a day…

Would you commit to dedicating 15 minutes a day EVERY DAY for the next 39 days?

I’m going to assume you answered ‘Yes’!

So this is what we are going to do…

Starting today and going through Dec. 31, 2009 I want you to do 1 thing each day to move yourself forward…

Here are the rules:

• You MUST do 1 thing each day
• The ‘Thing’ you do MUST take 15 minutes or less to do…
• The ‘Thing’ you do MUST push your comfort zone
• The ‘Thing’ you do MUST make you feel like you have somehow moved yourself forward toward one of your goals

Got it?

It is up to you if you are going to focus on one area of your life to move forward for the next 39 days or if you are going to focus in several directions…

Either way, you WILL see a huge difference IF you absolutely commit to do this AND you follow through.

To help you out, I want you to leave a comment now stating that you are taking part in the challenge and what your focus is.  I also want you to tell me what it is you will do today.

This is another case of you are either in or you aren’t…

I know it’s tough love…but if you are just going to try to commit 15 minutes a day, you aren’t going to get where you want to go…

15 minutes…to move toward the life of your dreams…

• I KNOW you can do this…
• Commit to it now…
• Leave a comment…
• Tell me you’re in…
• Tell me your focus…
• Tell me what you will do today!

Have fun with this!!

YOU ARE EXTRAORDINARY!

Go Big!

Kristen

P.S. Accountability is the key to success…get into my group program and I’ll hold you accountable and get on the phone with you every month to make sure you are on the right path.  Let’s shift your success from a maybe to a definite!  The monthly call is coming up so get in now…

http://www.gobigcoach.com/gobignow

What are they again?

Here you go…

‘How can I help you?’

Why am I writing about this?

I’ll tell you…

I had someone post a comment recently and they asked me to come clean on HOW I first went from making $1200/month to $10,000 plus/month…

Great question!

Obviously this is EXACTLY what teach people when I coach them BUT there has to be a concise answer right?  One that doesn’t require coaching and a program and all that jazz…right?

Right!

Here it is…

I found people who were influential and successful in the areas I wanted to focus on and I asked them the magic question…

• ‘How can I help you?’
• ‘How can I help you solve this problem?’
• ‘How can I help you take some things off your plate?’
• ‘How can I help you make this better?’
• ‘How can I help you, how can I help you, how can I help you?’

It’s simple, but it’s not easy…

Show people how valuable you are and they will happily pay you for that value…

So…

‘How can I help YOU?’

Leave me a comment and let me know how and when and where you are going to start asking this question!

Go Big!

Kristen

OR

Emails asking why they feel like something is off or wrong when they do get the things they want.

My answer is always the same and is ALWAYS in the form of a question…

What are your REAL expectations?

Seriously…

I know I tell you to get clear on what you want…

BUT what do you really expect?

Most people go through all the law of attraction steps that involve deciding what you do want and visualizing it in great detail etc. BUT if they don’t go through the process of clearing what they REALLY expect to happen then they find they are stuck.

OR

They attract what they want but because their real expectation is that to get what they want their life has to be full of stress…

So it’s time for a reality check…

What are your REAL expectations?

What do you REALLY believe is going to happen?

You can change your real expectations, but FIRST you have to get real about them…

Once you see what your real expectations are, I want you to look at what you want and then write down what your REAL expectations would have to be to get what you want…

Now that’s what I want you to focus on…

What do I have to believe to have the life I desire?

Leave me a comment and let me know what your REAL expectations are AND what they need to be…

Together we’ll bridge the gap between the two!

Go Big!

Kristen

This couldn’t be further from the truth…

When I talk about attracting more money I certainly don’t mean for you to sit in a room and focus on all of the money you want and then wait for the doorbell to ring with money on the other side…

That’s ridiculous! You have to take Inspired Action, but PLEASE make sure it is INSPIRED Action or you’ll spend a lot of time running around in circles (trust me, I know, I’ve been there).

Listen, I say it over and over again…

The Law of Attraction is always working, it’s just a matter of if it’s working for you or against you and this applies to everything…

• Business
• Money
• Relationships
• Health
• Weight Loss
• Finding and Living  Your Purposeetc.

You get what you spend the majority of your time focussing on (and most of us think we are focussing on what we want but are reeally focussing on what we don’t want, but that’s for another conversation…)

So, does the Law of Attraction apply to business?

YES! A million times YES!

This is what you need to do:

1. Take a good look at your business and decide the ultimate vision of what you want
2. Remove any blocks you have to believing what you want is possible
3. Decide what your FIRST STEP is (check out this post to help with this)
4. Take the first step (otherwise known as INSPIRED ACTION)
5. Let it go and trust

The steps are the same…

I suggest you go through the steps in my report specifically for your business or career, many of my students have done that and reported great results! Chances are good you subscribed for the report and downloaded it already…if not, click here to get it.

As I said, the Law of Attraction applies to EVERY AREA of your life!  Get in there and get it working for you in your business and everywhere else!

Leave me a comment and let me know how you can start to use the Law of Attraction specifically with your business or career!

Go Big!

Kristen

If you didn’t, GO DO IT NOW!

I am excited to work with you on how to find your purpose which is the key to a fulfilling life, but for me to help you, you have to DO MORE THAN READ THIS, and you must take INSPIRED ACTION!

Let’s jump in…

Yesterday you answered a bunch of questions I gave you and from that you should have come up with a few answers that seemed to keep showing up.

Those are the key you are looking for!

Grab your pen and paper again and write those elements down, we’ll call this your ‘Purpose List’…

If you are like most people you probably have 1-5 things written down…

I want you to rate those from most exciting to least exciting…

Let’s look at the woman I told you about yesterday who went through my ‘Find Your Purpose’ coaching…

When she answered all the questions I gave her, she discovered 3 things that kept reoccurring as times when she felt her best and in the zone. The 3 things were:

1. Animals

2. Being Outside

3. People

I had her to rate them from most exciting, (meaning when she felt most fulfilled) to least exciting.

The list then looked like this:

1. Animals
2. People
3. Being Outside

Okay, go rate your purpose list now…

Did you do it?

Great!

Now, quickly write down the times in your current life when you are participating or experiencing any of the items on your purpose list.

On a scale of 1-10 (10 being most or all of your time) how much of your time is spent on your purpose list?

Chances are good you answered between 1-5, right?

That’s what we need to focus on now…

In order to find your purpose and live a fulfilling life, you must be spending the majority of your time on the things that bring you the most fulfillment! That’s the key to a fulfilling life, that’s living your purpose!

‘But how do I do it Kristen? Are you saying I should quit my job and move?’

NO…

It is too soon to make any rash decisions, let me show you how to find your purpose while you are living your current life…

Let me help you step into your purpose and fulfilling life one step at a time, one day at a time…sound fair?

Good…

Here’s the question for today that will help you take steps toward finding and living your purpose…

Ready for it?

Here you go…

Ask yourself this question every single day…

“What 1 thing can I do today so that I spend at least 10 minutes on one of the things on my purpose list?”

AND THEN DO IT!

I promise you, once you start taking steps to spend more time doing the things that bring you joy EVEN without changing anything else in your life, you will start to align with your purpose and the law of attraction will start to draw more opportunities that align with your purpose to you.

I’m here to help you take this from this first step ALL THE WAY THROUGH to completely finding your purpose and living a fulfilling life…we’ll get there but you have to take the first step! Take it now!

Tell me what you plan on doing by leaving it here in a comment, accountability is huge and if you write it here you are 90% more likely to do it!

Go Big!

Why?

For me, it was a couple of things…

1. I knew there was MUCH MORE for me, but I couldn’t quite put a finger on what it was.
2. I was terrified to try to define it, because I didn’t want to attract the wrong thing.

I was never one of those people that thought the Law of Attraction doesn’t work. In fact, I always had complete faith that it works and that is what froze me at times, because I didn’t want to put the power of the law of attraction into manifesting something that I didn’t really want or worse, thought I wanted because I was feeling fearful and desperate.

And because I didn’t get specific, I attracted a whole bunch of things that fit my general requests, but they were never quite right.

For example…in 2 weeks time, I went from making less than $1000/month (in New York City…YIKES) to making OVER $5000/month. BUT…once the excitement wore off, I realized I was making money doing something that I didn’t want to do.

I adjusted, got specific and started attracting what I DID want and this taught me that you can always adjust your focus and change what you are attracting.

The moral of the story is that it is better to get specific and use the power of the Law of Attraction to attract what you are focusing on and then, if you need to, redefine your focus as you discover more of what you want…than it is to float around generally attracting things that are ‘kind of’ what you want.

Here’s the key…

It doesn’t matter why you are having trouble getting specific…

What matters is that you have a tool to help you GET SPECIFIC!

Here’s an exercise to do just that:

Grab 2 pieces of paper and a timer.

Put the timer on for 5 minutes.

In single sentences, write down everything that YOU DO NOT WANT.

Write it all down…all the things that drive you crazy about your life…everything you DON’T want to define you…EVERYTHING…

DO IT NOW…and then come back.

Welcome back…

OK…now look at the list of awfulness and take each sentence and on another piece of paper write down the opposite.

For instance, if you wrote, “I don’t want to be poor” then you would write on the other piece of paper “I want to be rich”.

NOW this is the Law of Attraction Key we talked about last time…YOU MUST write down specifics of what being rich is to you.

Don’t skip this part of the exercise. I know it might seem like a lot…but ask yourself if you’re ready to start using the Law of Attraction to work for you…and if the answer is ‘Yes’ then take the time to do this and get specific…trust me…it’s worth it.

Go Big!

Kristen

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