Do you stick to your guns?

During my Broadway days in NYC I also trained dogs for a while and there is something so important that can be learned from training dogs and that is sticking with your guns…

Huh?

Stay with me and I’ll explain…

One of the dogs I trained was a jack Russel Terrier –WOW they are smart dogs–some people say they are too smart and too hard to train…

I disagree…

If you stick to your guns and follow through and make sure they follow your command when you give it to them (no matter how stubborn they are) then eventually they become the best trained dogs you can find.

For example, this one couple who had the Jack Russel would have me work with him and then I would work with them and him…

Why?

Because in reality I was training them…

This is how it would go…

I would have him sit using a simple arm gesture and command…

The wife would have him sit with the same arm gesture and command…

The husband would try to have him sit with a similar arm gesture and command and then would give up after 3 tries…

YIKES!

If you tell a dog to sit and you really want the dog to know that when you say sit you mean it…

YOU HAVE TO STICK TO YOUR GUNS!

Here’s the deal…

At first they won’t want to and they will try to out stubborn you BUT you MUST PERSIST…

I don’t care if you have to stand there for an hour until the dog sits BUT you can’t let him go until he does.

Here’s another example…

I was in the grocery store the other day and this is the conversation I heard between a mother and little girl:

Little Girl: Mommy I want a candy bar

Mother: Sorry honey, not today

Little Girl: Why?

Mother: Because we’re about to go home and have dinner.

Little Girl: Please!

Mother: No honey, not tonight, some other time.

Little Girl: But I want it!

Mother: You’re about to have dinner.

Little Girl: I WANT IT!

Mother (embarrased because people are looking): Ok, but just this once…

Just this once huh? I don’t think so, that mother is in for a lifetime of candy bars before dinner…

And believe me, I completely understand…her daughter wore her down and brilliantly did it in front of strangers…who wouldn’t give in just to get out of there right?  Seriously, I GET IT!

What’s my point?

Here you go…

You are the Dog AND the Owner

You are the Child AND the Mother

Your conscious mind decides it wants something and gives your subsconscious mind a command to get it…then the outer world strikes and puts up an obstacle or sends out a diversion and your outer mind abandons the original command and changes it.

In other words…

You know what you want out of life and you tell yourself you are going to get it but the second something comes up to indicate that you may not be able to get it you give in or give up and call it a pipe dream and accept whatever ‘SEEMS’ to be true…

We’ve all done it…I know I have…

It’s time for that to end!

CAUTION: I’m not telling you to force things or force action BUT I am telling you not to give up!

Letting go of the specifics will help…

By that I mean don’t attach to how you will make a million dollars or who your perfect mate is or how you’ll get the financing to buy your dream house…

• Know what you want
• Know it’s possible
• Know that roadblocks will show up to indicate it ISN’T possible
• and then STICK TO YOUR GUNS and believe that you can have what you want and then…

Ask yourself this question…

“Even though I have run into a roadblock, what I step can I take right now to move toward what I desire?”

Please, I beg you…stop giving up on your dream every time someone or something tells you it can’t happen…

Like I said, you have to let go of how it will happen or who it will happen with because it may come to you in a way you never imagined but keep believing that you can create your life…

Leave me a comment and tell me the dream that you will now commit to believing in no matter what!

Be brave and…

Go Big!

Kristen

The Person With A Plan Wins

I just got back from the grocery store…

Normally I go in the wee hours of the morning to avoid everyone else, but today I couldn’t get there until lunch time.

Yikes!

At least it spurred me to write this blog post… (more on the my epiphany at the grocery store in a minute):

Okay…this is so important…

The Person with a Plan Wins!

You need to know this or you will float around aimlessly or just become an unknowing piece of someone elses plan…

Once again, this applies to everything

• Making money fast
• Making money slowly
• Building a business
• Getting a raise at work
• Raising your kids
• Enjoying wonderful, fulfilling relationships
• Discovering your purpose
• Enjoying a relaxing day

and so on and so on and so on…

Let me use my grocery store trip as an example…

Lunch time on a Friday in sunny California…otherwise known as the absolute worst time to go grocery shopping…but there I was…

I saw the chaos inside so I pulled out my list (the first good thing I did was have a list, I knew exactly what I needed and wanted)

Then I quickly decided the path I would take through the store, this only took a matter of seconds

Then I grabbed a cart and went in the door…

This is where it gets interesting…

There was a guy who went in the door at the same time and as he walked in the door he had his cell phone to his ear and I heard him saying, ‘Ok…I’m here, what do we need? Hurry up…I need to get out of here fast!’

Let’s just say that I was out the door within 20 minutes.  As I left I saw him heading from one end of the store to the other, still on the phone, with about 2 things in his cart and it didn’t look like he would be done any time soon.

I’ll say it again…

The person with the plan wins!

Now, is it possible to plan every single moment?

NO (I ran into many obstacles that I never could have predicted)…

Does that mean spend tons of time on the plan?

Not necessarily (obviously this will depend on what the plan applies to)

Here’s the deal…

You need a plan or at the very least a strategy, an approach if you will!

You won’t be able to plan everything…in fact if you do you could potentially miss out on something brilliant and unplanned for…

You don’t want to get stuck in the planning phase (You know who you are…) and will need to pull the trigger to get started, sooner rather than later please!

But…I’ll ask you this…

Do you want to show up to life with a focused, flexible strategy?

OR

Do you want to wander around aimlessly with a cell phone attached to your ear while someone tells you what they need?

I’m all for flexibility and spontaneity and wonderful accidents and all of that great stuff and I promise you, when you have a plan or a strategy, you will get more of that.

Try it!

Leave me a comment and tell me how this applies to different areas of your life…

Take a look at the areas where you have a plan, the areas where you don’t have a plan and the areas where you get stuck planning…

Let me know what you discover!

Go Big!

Kristen