The “Yeah Buts”…

Does this sound familiar?

You get an idea about something you want to do…

Whether it’s a way to make money or a great adventure you want to take or a dream you want to realize…

And in the first few seconds after you get the idea you get really excited…

It feels so real…

And then the voice in your head starts talking to you…

• “Yeah but you’re not smart enough”
• “Yeah but you don’t have enough time”
• “Yeah but you’re too old”
• “Yeah but you don’t know enough”

And on and on and on…

And then you start to doubt yourself and discount your idea…

I’ll ask you again…does that sound familiar?

Here’s the deal with the “Yeah Buts”…

I guarantee you that if you told someone else that same idea and they started in with all those “Yeah buts” you would have something to say about it…

So this is what I want you to do from now on…

Any of the ideas you have, write down the “Yeah Buts” that you have about them and then for each of them, give an answer of a solution –

Here’s an example from a coaching session I had recently –

My client has a business and she had an idea for how to get a bunch of sales from a group and one of her biggest “Yeah Buts” is that she is terrible with budgeting and tracking money — this was getting into her head so much that she was starting to get scared of making sales for fear of how she would blow it once money was coming in.

So I took her through the following exercise –

I had her tell me about her great marketing idea as if I was her best and most trusted friend — As her friend I then voiced her “Yeah But” and I told her she had to come up with a solution as she would if she was talking to someone else…this is how the conversation went:

CLIENT: “I’m taking my product to corporations to give to their employees — the best part is that I already have 3 corporations that are very interested and it looks like this will explode my business!”

ME: “Yeah but you’re terrible with money! If your business explodes you’re going to screw everything up and get in trouble with the IRS…”

CLIENT: “I thought of that to, so that’s why I’ve decided I’m going to get an accountant right away!

That was it, 3 lines of a conversation and she had decided on the exact solution to her “Yeah But” and she got the “Yeah But” to shut up.

That’s what I want you to do with all of your “Yeah Buts” –

Write them out in conversation form and look at the solutions you come up with –

And here’s a key –

Sometimes it takes longer to get to the resolve — what I mean is if your first answer to the “Yeah But” opens itself up to another “Yeah But” you need to keep going. Stick with it and you will resolve!

You are extraordinary!

Go Big!

Kristen

What are you putting off?

Let me ask you 1 question…

And then you should ask yourself this same question every day…

What are you putting off?

We all have something…

So what is it for you?

Be honest with yourself…

What is the thing, that you know would move you forward, that you always seem to push off to the next day?

I know you push it off because other really important things come up…

But what is it?

Because, if you are honest with yourself…

I guarantee you that putting it off is wearing on you…

Putting it off is causing you stress…

Even if you don’t realize it…

Even if you think that actually doing it would be stressful, I promise you that NOT doing it will eventually be even more stressful…

Why?

Because you KNOW deep down that you are putting off success and growth and movement forward…

So I’ll ask you one more time…

What are you putting off?

Leave me a comment and let me know!

Go Big!

Kristen

What do you do when you fall off a horse?

What do you do when you fall off a horse?

YOU GET BACK ON AGAIN!

So, what do YOU REALLY do when you fall off a horse?

Chances are good if you are like most people I talk to…

When you fall off a horse, you probably think up suitable punishments and/or means to rectify your fall.  Think of all the ways you can try even harder and do even more to make up for the fall and make it appear as if it didn’t happen at all…

Some people decide not to punish themselves, but instead look to place the blame for the fall on someone else…

And other people pretend they never fell at all, shove their heads in the sand and ignore it…

It doesn’t matter how you handle falling…what does matter is that it takes precious time and energy…here’s what I mean…

Falling off the horse isn’t setback…the setback comes in the beating ourselves up, thinking how we’ve let ourselves down, about all this will cost us and what failures we are and how we are weak and not committed and lack follow through and will NEVER have what we want BLAH BLAH BLAH! We spend so much time and energy in all of that muck and mire that by the time we’re done it seems impossible to get back on the horse.

THAT’S the real setback…if you just fell and got back up again without taking the time to beat yourself up, look for someone to blame or pretend it never happened, you’d be surprised how small the impact of inevitable falls are…

Ask anyone who rides, ‘What do you do when you fall off a horse?’

It isn’t just a saying…I GUARANTEE they will answer, ‘Get back on again.’

Then ask them, ‘When?’

I PROMISE they’ll say, ‘RIGHT AWAY!’

You’re going to fall off the horse…there…I’ve freed you…given you permission…told your future.

Leave me a comment to let me know these 2 things…

Before this moment, what did YOU do when you fell off a horse?

After this moment, what will YOU do when you fall off a horse?

Go Big!

Kristen

Are you using this success secret?

Let’s talk about 1 of the most thrown around ‘Buzz Words’ when it comes to any growth…

Personal Development

Business

Weight Loss

Money

etc.

What’s the word?

ACCOUNTABILITY!

Accountability…

It’s a buzz word…

We all know it…

I can’t tell you how many emails I get telling me that all someone needs is an accountability partner and then they’ll get the results they are looking for…

Here’s what I have to say to that…

It’s true!

It may be a buzz word, but when it comes to any kind of movement, growth or development…

It’s true!

I don’t care who you are…

I don’t care how successful you are…

I don’t care how motivated you are…

I guarantee you that when you have someone holding you accountable you will far exceed the success you would get without the accountability…

Listen, I am extremely self motivated — in fact, a place where I am always able to find my motivation is with working out…

I am actually one of those people that will get up every day and go to the gym AND I will work out hard when I’m there…

BUT…

When I work out with someone else or with a trainer I work even harder and get better results.

It isn’t good or bad, it IS human nature…

Start using accountability today to turbo charge your results…

Here’s the key though…

You have to make sure you have the right person holding you accountable or it won’t work…

But if you asked me right now what you could do to get more results between now and Jan 1st than you thought possible I would say do whatever it takes to be held accountable…

You can do this in many ways…

I have coaching clients who send me daily emails, weekly emails, talk with me on the phone for 5 minutes for an accountability report…

There are a million ways you can be held accountable, you just need to find the way that works for you and then get started!

Don’t fall into the trap that 90% of people fall into…90% of people go into this time of year and the year might as well be over…they decide that everything they want to do has to be put on hold until the start of the next year because of the holidays etc.

Don’t fall into this trap!  You can enjoy the holidays AND move forward in all the areas of your life during this time…I promise!!

Leave me a comment and let me know what you want to be held accountable to following through on consistently between now and the last day of this year.

Don’t just tell me what you are ready to be held accountable to…

Tell me WHY…

Let’s do this!

Go Big!

Kristen

Are you wasting this commodity?

Most of us are wasting time…

Why?

Because we aren’t choosing what to do with our time…

We are filling it up with the things “We have to do” or are pleasing the people that “Call the shots”…

Let me ask you this…

How often do you find yourself thinking that you

• Are wasting time
• Don’t know where the time went
• Just had more time

or anything else like this?

Most people have an unhealthy attitude toward time which is too bad because it is the one commodity we all have the same amount of each day.

Here’s the deal…

You may think you are choosing how you spend your time, but I can almost guarantee you that you are lying to yourself.

Harsh right?

Maybe…

But it’s true!

Most people have a negative connection with time…

• They constantly feel like they are catching up
• That they don’t have enough time
• That if they just had more time their lives would be drastically different

WRONG!  Just like with money, negative connections will cost you dearly!

If you have an unhealthy attitude toward time it won’t matter how much extra time I can help you find; it still won’t be enough or make you happy (and I can guarantee I can help you find AT LEAST 5 extra hours per week).

So how do we change the negative connection with time?

I hinted at it before…

You have to start to ACTIVELY CHOOSE how you are spending your time!

To be honest, you will often end up doing many of the same things you did before, but the shift to you choosing to do it as opposed to it demanding to be done will make ALL the difference in the world.

We’ll go into this in more detail because I know a lot of you are struggling with time and time management…

Let’s start with this…

I want you to answer this question:

“How do I feel about time?”

Write down 3 sentences that tell me how you feel about time and post it here as a comment…

We have to start here and THEN we can move to the next step!

Do it now…

Later is an excuse…

3 Sentences on how you feel about time — good or bad — do it!

I know I’m being extra strong about this but seriously, this is YOUR TIME and if you want your life to change we have to start here!

I’ll look for your comments!

Go Big!

Kristen