Weird topic –  but stick with me here and you’ll see why I’m all fired up…

My friend said, “When I was little, I was the girl that would sign my name and take up like half the page when I did it…”

Then she continued…

“Until one day when my grandmother saw me and she said, ‘You can’t do that!’”

You can’t do that…

How many times have you heard those exact words?

How many times did you hear them — or something a lot like them — before you were 10 years old?

I guarantee you can’t count how many times!

And here’s the deal…

When people say that to you, for the most part, there really truly are trying to protect you from something (at least in their own minds)…

But let’s get real…

YOU CAN’T DO THAT has to be the worst 4 letter phrase around!

Then my friend said the most amazing thing — and this is the thing I really want you to think about…

She said, “Sometimes I look back and think that I wish I was still that girl…”

Here’s the truth…

You CAN DO THAT (assuming you aren’t hurting anyone please) AND even if you used to do that and stopped when you were told that you couldn’t do that…

You are STILL that person…

THAT is still the essence of you — even if it’s a bit buried, that is still who you are!

How can you reclaim that essence?

What are some of the things you were told you couldn’t do?

RECLAIM THEM!

I can’t wait for your comments on this one!

Go Big!

Kristen

And today I want to introduce you to one of the most powerful questions there is…

I know SO MANY of you are frustrated and feel like you are banging your head against a wall wondering WHEN will you finally have the success you are looking for…

I get emails about it all the time — emails that say things like:

• “Kristen, I’m doing everything I can think of, but I still don’t have enough money…”
• “Kristen, I’m doing everything I can think of, but I still haven’t lost the last 20 pounds…”
• “Kristen, I’m doing everything I can think of, but I still haven’t met my soul mate…”
• “Kristen, I’m doing everything I can think of, but I still don’t have enough time…”
• “Kristen, I’m doing everything I can think of, but I still don’t have enough opportunities…”

and the list goes on…

I know you are nodding your head right now in agreement — I know you know what this feels like — I’ve been there too…

UNTIL

I shifted my focus — this is what I did…

I asked myself a different question than I had ever asked myself before –

Do you want to know what that question was?

Of course you do…here it is…

I asked myself this…

“Who do I need to be to have ___________ ?”

Here’s another great follow up question to that one…

“What do I need to believe to have ____________?”

And another powerful question…

“How do I need to act and look at life and handle setbacks to have ___________?”

Here’s the deal…

Whatever you want, I guarantee there is proof in this world that it is possible because I promise you someone else has it –

Study those people that have what you want –

• Who are they?
• What do they believe?
• What do they focus on?
• How do they handle setbacks?
• What do they expect?

This works for EVERYTHING –

Whether you want

• More money
• To lose weight
• To be a famous artist
• To have a successful business
• To find the love of your life
• To excel at your current job
• To discover your passion and purpose

etc. etc. etc.

STOP looking at what you don’t have and instead focus on who you have to be to have what you want…

I promise you that right now you are EXACTLY who you need to be to have what you currently have — and I know you are ready to change that!

Leave me a comment — let me know what your beliefs and more need to be for you to live the life you want…

I also have a video with more (free) power questions for you at:

http://www.gobigcoach.com/sos/powerquestions.html

Go check it out — this stuff can change your life — I know because it changed mine!

You are extraordinary!

Go Big!

You get an idea about something you want to do…

Whether it’s a way to make money or a great adventure you want to take or a dream you want to realize…

And in the first few seconds after you get the idea you get really excited…

It feels so real…

And then the voice in your head starts talking to you…

• “Yeah but you’re not smart enough”
• “Yeah but you don’t have enough time”
• “Yeah but you’re too old”
• “Yeah but you don’t know enough”

And on and on and on…

And then you start to doubt yourself and discount your idea…

I’ll ask you again…does that sound familiar?

Here’s the deal with the “Yeah Buts”…

I guarantee you that if you told someone else that same idea and they started in with all those “Yeah buts” you would have something to say about it…

So this is what I want you to do from now on…

Any of the ideas you have, write down the “Yeah Buts” that you have about them and then for each of them, give an answer of a solution –

Here’s an example from a coaching session I had recently –

My client has a business and she had an idea for how to get a bunch of sales from a group and one of her biggest “Yeah Buts” is that she is terrible with budgeting and tracking money — this was getting into her head so much that she was starting to get scared of making sales for fear of how she would blow it once money was coming in.

So I took her through the following exercise –

I had her tell me about her great marketing idea as if I was her best and most trusted friend — As her friend I then voiced her “Yeah But” and I told her she had to come up with a solution as she would if she was talking to someone else…this is how the conversation went:

CLIENT: “I’m taking my product to corporations to give to their employees — the best part is that I already have 3 corporations that are very interested and it looks like this will explode my business!”

ME: “Yeah but you’re terrible with money! If your business explodes you’re going to screw everything up and get in trouble with the IRS…”

CLIENT: “I thought of that to, so that’s why I’ve decided I’m going to get an accountant right away!

That was it, 3 lines of a conversation and she had decided on the exact solution to her “Yeah But” and she got the “Yeah But” to shut up.

That’s what I want you to do with all of your “Yeah Buts” –

Write them out in conversation form and look at the solutions you come up with –

And here’s a key –

Sometimes it takes longer to get to the resolve — what I mean is if your first answer to the “Yeah But” opens itself up to another “Yeah But” you need to keep going. Stick with it and you will resolve!

You are extraordinary!

Go Big!

Kristen

And then you should ask yourself this same question every day…

What are you putting off?

We all have something…

So what is it for you?

Be honest with yourself…

What is the thing, that you know would move you forward, that you always seem to push off to the next day?

I know you push it off because other really important things come up…

But what is it?

Because, if you are honest with yourself…

I guarantee you that putting it off is wearing on you…

Putting it off is causing you stress…

Even if you don’t realize it…

Even if you think that actually doing it would be stressful, I promise you that NOT doing it will eventually be even more stressful…

Why?

Because you KNOW deep down that you are putting off success and growth and movement forward…

So I’ll ask you one more time…

What are you putting off?

Leave me a comment and let me know!

Go Big!

Kristen

YOU GET BACK ON AGAIN!

So, what do YOU REALLY do when you fall off a horse?

Chances are good if you are like most people I talk to…

When you fall off a horse, you probably think up suitable punishments and/or means to rectify your fall.  Think of all the ways you can try even harder and do even more to make up for the fall and make it appear as if it didn’t happen at all…

Some people decide not to punish themselves, but instead look to place the blame for the fall on someone else…

And other people pretend they never fell at all, shove their heads in the sand and ignore it…

It doesn’t matter how you handle falling…what does matter is that it takes precious time and energy…here’s what I mean…

Falling off the horse isn’t setback…the setback comes in the beating ourselves up, thinking how we’ve let ourselves down, about all this will cost us and what failures we are and how we are weak and not committed and lack follow through and will NEVER have what we want BLAH BLAH BLAH! We spend so much time and energy in all of that muck and mire that by the time we’re done it seems impossible to get back on the horse.

THAT’S the real setback…if you just fell and got back up again without taking the time to beat yourself up, look for someone to blame or pretend it never happened, you’d be surprised how small the impact of inevitable falls are…

Ask anyone who rides, ‘What do you do when you fall off a horse?’

It isn’t just a saying…I GUARANTEE they will answer, ‘Get back on again.’

Then ask them, ‘When?’

I PROMISE they’ll say, ‘RIGHT AWAY!’

You’re going to fall off the horse…there…I’ve freed you…given you permission…told your future.

Leave me a comment to let me know these 2 things…

Before this moment, what did YOU do when you fell off a horse?

After this moment, what will YOU do when you fall off a horse?

Go Big!

Kristen

Personal Development

Business

Weight Loss

Money

etc.

What’s the word?

ACCOUNTABILITY!

Accountability…

It’s a buzz word…

We all know it…

I can’t tell you how many emails I get telling me that all someone needs is an accountability partner and then they’ll get the results they are looking for…

Here’s what I have to say to that…

It’s true!

It may be a buzz word, but when it comes to any kind of movement, growth or development…

It’s true!

I don’t care who you are…

I don’t care how successful you are…

I don’t care how motivated you are…

I guarantee you that when you have someone holding you accountable you will far exceed the success you would get without the accountability…

Listen, I am extremely self motivated — in fact, a place where I am always able to find my motivation is with working out…

I am actually one of those people that will get up every day and go to the gym AND I will work out hard when I’m there…

BUT…

When I work out with someone else or with a trainer I work even harder and get better results.

It isn’t good or bad, it IS human nature…

Start using accountability today to turbo charge your results…

Here’s the key though…

You have to make sure you have the right person holding you accountable or it won’t work…

But if you asked me right now what you could do to get more results between now and Jan 1st than you thought possible I would say do whatever it takes to be held accountable…

You can do this in many ways…

I have coaching clients who send me daily emails, weekly emails, talk with me on the phone for 5 minutes for an accountability report…

There are a million ways you can be held accountable, you just need to find the way that works for you and then get started!

Don’t fall into the trap that 90% of people fall into…90% of people go into this time of year and the year might as well be over…they decide that everything they want to do has to be put on hold until the start of the next year because of the holidays etc.

Don’t fall into this trap!  You can enjoy the holidays AND move forward in all the areas of your life during this time…I promise!!

Leave me a comment and let me know what you want to be held accountable to following through on consistently between now and the last day of this year.

Don’t just tell me what you are ready to be held accountable to…

Tell me WHY…

Let’s do this!

Go Big!

Kristen

Why?

Because we aren’t choosing what to do with our time…

We are filling it up with the things “We have to do” or are pleasing the people that “Call the shots”…

Let me ask you this…

How often do you find yourself thinking that you

• Are wasting time
• Don’t know where the time went
• Just had more time

or anything else like this?

Most people have an unhealthy attitude toward time which is too bad because it is the one commodity we all have the same amount of each day.

Here’s the deal…

You may think you are choosing how you spend your time, but I can almost guarantee you that you are lying to yourself.

Harsh right?

Maybe…

But it’s true!

Most people have a negative connection with time…

• They constantly feel like they are catching up
• That they don’t have enough time
• That if they just had more time their lives would be drastically different

WRONG!  Just like with money, negative connections will cost you dearly!

If you have an unhealthy attitude toward time it won’t matter how much extra time I can help you find; it still won’t be enough or make you happy (and I can guarantee I can help you find AT LEAST 5 extra hours per week).

So how do we change the negative connection with time?

I hinted at it before…

You have to start to ACTIVELY CHOOSE how you are spending your time!

To be honest, you will often end up doing many of the same things you did before, but the shift to you choosing to do it as opposed to it demanding to be done will make ALL the difference in the world.

We’ll go into this in more detail because I know a lot of you are struggling with time and time management…

Let’s start with this…

I want you to answer this question:

“How do I feel about time?”

Write down 3 sentences that tell me how you feel about time and post it here as a comment…

We have to start here and THEN we can move to the next step!

Do it now…

Later is an excuse…

3 Sentences on how you feel about time — good or bad — do it!

I know I’m being extra strong about this but seriously, this is YOUR TIME and if you want your life to change we have to start here!

I’ll look for your comments!

Go Big!

Kristen

“How do I let go?”

I’m not gonna lie…

That’s the hardest part about the Law of Attraction.

I mean c’mon, I have you jumping through hoops deciding what you really want, visualizing it in GREAT detail, using all of your senses…

By the time you are done with the exercises I put you through you are probably so excited about the life you have decided to create that you can almost taste it…

And then I tell you to ‘Let go’!

What am I crazy?

I know it seems almost impossible…

BUT I need you to do it…

• When I say ‘Let go’ I don’t mean for you to let go of the vision (In fact I want you revisiting that daily for a few minutes)…
• When I say ‘Let go’ I don’t mean for you to let go of the passion and excitement…
• When I say ‘Let go’ I mean ‘Let go of HOW it is going to come to you!’

STOP trying to figure it out (seems nearly impossible doesn’t it?)

So let me be more specific…

Let go of the How!

Focus on the ultimate vision every day…

Use all your senses…

Get excited…

and then LET GO of HOW it’s going to happen!

Yes it’s hard…

BUT I guarantee you that YOU will only LIMIT yourself if you impose what you think can happen and bring you what you want.

Get out of the way…

Decide that what you desire or even something better is on it’s way (actually it’s already here, but that’s for another time) and then let it go…

Stop thinking about it…

Once you do your daily focus…STOP THINKING ABOUT IT!

How many times have you wanted something…

• Money
• Relationship
• Job
• ANYTHING

And you’ve obsessed on it…wondered how you were going to do it and then finally gave up…

And then almost immediately after that it shows up? And in a way you never expected?

Leave me a comment and tell me when this has happened to you…even if it was small, I guarantee it has happened!

Go Big!

Kristen

You know what I’m talking about…

The dreaded ‘To Do List’!

If you are, you certainly aren’t alone!

Here’s what I want you to do right now…

Grab your list

Do these 2 steps:

1. For everything on the list ask yourself this, “Will doing this move me forward, sideways or backwards?”
   (I know it seems odd that there would be a backwards, but let me put it this way, if it’s on your list to help you procrastinate and avoid doing something that would REALLY move you forward than it qualifies.)
2. Keep, Leverage & Get Rid Of: This is how you handle the items now that they are labeled Forward, Sideways, Backwards

Forward: Keep
Sideways: Ask yourself if this really needs to be done, if the answer is ‘Yes’ then is there someone else you can leverage it to?
Backwards: GET RID OF IT!

Seriously…if you really want to get yourself moving toward the things you desire you HAVE to get rid of the things that are on your ‘To Do’ list that aren’t moving you closer to what you want.

I could literally right 20 more posts just on how to maximize the things you are spending your time doing and getting out from under the feeling of being overwhelmed, but this is a GREAT start.

Do it now!

I guarantee you there are at least 3 things you can get rid of if you are completely honest with yourself…

Leave me a comment and let me know what you are getting rid of and leveraging out…

Go Big!

Kristen

ONE BITE AT A TIME!

I applaud you all for being so ambitious and having large and wonderful visions of your ideal life…

BUT

To be honest…

You are freaking yourselves out…

Yes, you must figure out your ideal life, see it, feel it, focus on it…

But then ask yourself these questions…

1. ‘What is the first step?’
2. ‘What 1 step can I take RIGHT NOW to move me toward my ideal life?’

I’ve written about this before and many of you really got it and then I did something crazy…

I told you to approach people who are where you want to be and ask them how you can help them…

I opened a floodgate…

All I can say is HOLD ON!

Let’s back up a second…

I guarantee you there are several people who are where you ULTIMATELY want to be…

But all I want you to do is approach 3-5 people who are 1 or 2 steps further toward what you want than you are…

If you want to be a real estate mogul and you’ve never done a deal, I applaud you for having the vision of your real estate empire…

But unless you possess a great amount of confidence I wouldn’t suggest trying to approach Donald Trump…YET!

2 things I said in that last sentence are VERY important…

1. Confidence: We have to advance toward our goals in steps NOT because it’s impossible to achieve these things over night, but because normally we don’t have the confidence and certainty and faith that they can, so we build confidence and certainty and faith by taking BITE SIZE steps toward our goals.The good news about this is that this may seem like the slower route, but I promise you that it is the much faster journey!
2. YET: It’s important to realize that you aren’t (most likely) going to approach Trump yet…but if you go forward one step at a time, eventually even Trump will be another bite size step.

So my friends…

Know what the big picture is, but then please eat the elephant 1 bite at a time!

Once you reach a mini goal, CELEBRATE IT and then ask yourself what the next step is…

Leave me a comment and let me know your next step…

Go Big!

Kristen