Fear and patterns…

I have some important questions for you…(and you know I love using the power of questions!)

• What are you scared of?
• When you feel fear what is it about?
• What doubt grips at you and won’t let go?

Here’s the deal…

We all have fear and doubt, but I have a secret for you…

Normally WHAT we fear and doubt is a recurring pattern in our lives…

And this is what I mean…

Your fears and doubts may seem to be about different things, BUT when you really break them down, they are all the same 1-3 fears AND these fears have been the same for as long as you have had fear.

WHAT?

Do this exercise and you’ll understand…

• Write down your top 3 current fears RIGHT NOW.
• Now, look at those fears and ask yourself this –

“I know it seems like I am scared that (whatever it is you are scared of), but what I’m really scared of is that (whatever you are scared of) will mean that I  __________________ .”

Here’s a good example, let’s say you are scared you are going to have to declare bankruptcy, this is what your answers would look like…

“I know it seems like I am scared that (I will have to declare bankruptcy) but what I’m really scared of is that doing so will mean that I am a failure.”

So, what you are really scared of is being a failure…

• Now, I want you to take it a step further and ask yourself why?

For example: “I am scared of being a failure because then people won’t love me and I’ll be disappointed in myself (in other words you won’t love yourself).”

In other words, what you are really scared of, is NOT being loved (by yourself and others)…

NOW…

Here’s the important part…

• Look back at different times in your life when you have been scared and do the same exercise –

Chances are good that your whole life, you have been dealing with the same 3-5 patterns of fear.

The great part about this is that you only have to address those issues — the real fears to rise above them –

Hear me now –

It isn’t about the specific thing you think you are scared of now, it is about 1 of your base recurring fears — and once you identify that, you can move on!

Leave me a comment and let me know what your REAL fears are…

Go Big!

Kristen

Ready AND Willing?

I need to ask you an important question…

And this question could shed some light on the gap between where you are and where you want to be…

Here’s the deal…

I know you are ready for your life to be different…

I know you are ready

• to have more money
• to lose more weight
• to find the love of your life
• to experience great success
• to fully and completely express yourself creatively

and anything else that you may be looking for…

Now here’s the question that is so important to your success here…

I know you are ready, but are you WILLING to be different?

Because here’s the key…

To have a different life, YOU need to be different…

There isn’t another way…

What you have in your life won’t change unless you change

• How you make decisions
• How you handle success
• How you handle failure and mistakes
• How you handle your time
• How you set up boundries
• How you value yourself
• What you consistently focus on
• How you translate the things that happen in your life

and on and on and on…

If you are waiting for your life to change from the outside…

You are going to be waiting forever…

So…I’ll ask you again…

Are you WILLING to be different?

Leave me a comment and let me know…

I appreciate you and know you can have everything you desire!

Go Big!

Kristen

What do you celebrate?

Today is my mother’s birthday…and I love being able to celebrate her…

Take a minute to think about the important people in your life (including yourself)…

How grateful are you for those people and what they bring to your life?

Who are the people you love to celebrate?

Now let’s take it a step further…

What are all of the things in your life you could celebrate?

Think about it…

• What people could you celebrate?
• What qualities about yourself could you celebrate?
• What adventures and opportunities and small moments could you celebrate?

The more you celebrate, the more there is to celebrate!

You know that gratitude is a key to happiness and success…

But I’m talking about taking it to the next level…

When you take the time to be grateful your life starts to change BUT when you take it to the next level and actually CELEBRATE what you are grateful for then you FAST TRACK the changes in your life!

So my question to you is this…

What or who can you celebrate right now?

Do it! Take the step from gratitude to celebration — you’ll be so excited you did!

Leave me a comment and know that I celebrate YOU!

Go Big!

Kristen

Who are you listening to?

When it comes to your life and your goals and desires…

Let me ask you 1 question…

Who are you listening to?

This is one of the biggest challenges today…

• There are a whole bunch of people in your life who are more than ready and willing to give you advice on what you can and especially what you CAN’T or SHOULDN’T do…
• There are countless people standing by, ready to protect you or steer you toward what is smart and sensible and realistic…

So often these people listen to your ideas and tell you they won’t work, or they aren’t smart…

And when they do, it’s easy to get discouraged and abandon your ideas…

It’s easy to get deflated and look for a more sensible or realistic approach that doesn’t get you excited, but at least ypu’ve heard it makes sense…

Here’s my big question for you…

When it comes to the people who you are listening to…

Do they have what you want?

I’m all for advice and mentors and perspective…

BUT

Please, please, please…

Get that advice from people who are where you want to go…

• If you want advice on how to start making $10, 000 a month through passive income, should you listen to someone who has only ever made $3500/month and traded time for every single dollar of it?
• If you want your relationship to be healthy, communicative and passionate, are you going to listen to your friend who is in a loveless marriage?
• If you want to get into the best shape of your life, are you going to go to someone who has never exercised a day in their life for advice on how to do it?

When I ask my coaching clients these questions they always see how ridiculous it is to get advice from someone who doesn’t have what you want…

AND YET…

Most have them have been doing just that…

Most people have a group of advisers that they love and who love them, but when it comes to deciding if your ideas and dreams can happen…

When it comes to discovering the path to design the life you desire…

Make sure you are listening to people who know from experience what it takes to get there!

Listen…

Your friends and family are so important to love you and add to your life…

And if you your friends and family do have the things that you desire, then PLEASE listen to them!

But often your advisers serve a different purpose…

Start finding people who have what you want (at least the next level from where you are)…

Your life will start to change instantly when you do!

As always, leave a comment here…I love hearing from you and what you have to say might be helpful to someone else!

Go Big!

Kristen

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What can the Olympics teach you?

Okay I’ll admit it, I have Olympic fever!

Why?

Well there are so many reasons…

1. I love sports

2. I love watching people dig deep

3. I love hearing how people ris above injusries and circumstances that seem insurmountable

4. I love what I can learn about success and mindset and strategies of success

I love all of these things…

But there is something else, and that is what I’m going to focus on today…

5. I love seeing how differently certain athletes handle defeat

Lindsey Jacobellis is the perfect example…

In the last Olympics she was certain to win a Gold in the Snowboard Cross Event…

I mean she had it tied up and was so far ahead of the pack that all she had to do was stay up on her board and she would have the gold…

That’s when she made her mistake…

She went into the air, and caught in the moment she went to do a little extra to celebrate…

AND FELL…

She still got silver, but this was a situation where the Gold was hers to lose and that is exactly what she did…

• You’ll get 8 million people sounding off about how it was the mistake of youth or showboating…
• You’ll get an earful from just about anyone about how stupid she was to do this…
• You could throw a rock in the middle of the desert and chances are you would still hit someone who would be more than willing to judge her for what heppened…

To be honest, I don’t care about that…

We all make mistakes, it’s a fact of life…

What I’m interested in is what we do after the mistake…

How we handle ourselves…

What we tell ourselves this mistake means about us and our future…

And this is where I am so impressed with Jacobellis…

She had to endure some pretty tough interviews — each time having to answer the question of ‘What Happened?’ –

Of course she would explain — of course she wished it hadn’t gone the way it did — I’m sure she learned a serious lesson –

But she also seemed to let it roll off of her…

The best thing I heard from her was when she said that she didn’t know how to explain what happened other than to say that she fell down.

I love that!

That’s the best success lesson you can find…

You’re going to make mistakes and you are going to do things when you should have known better…

Do you have to learn from these mistakes?

YES

But, do these mistakes mean that you are stupid, have ruined everything and now you’ll never succeed?

NO NO NO!

Learn from her…

Sometimes the most honest answer to “What happened there?” is

“I fell down”…

Leave me your comments about how you can learn from this…

Go Big!

Kristen