Who are you listening to?

When it comes to your life and your goals and desires…

Let me ask you 1 question…

Who are you listening to?

This is one of the biggest challenges today…

• There are a whole bunch of people in your life who are more than ready and willing to give you advice on what you can and especially what you CAN’T or SHOULDN’T do…
• There are countless people standing by, ready to protect you or steer you toward what is smart and sensible and realistic…

So often these people listen to your ideas and tell you they won’t work, or they aren’t smart…

And when they do, it’s easy to get discouraged and abandon your ideas…

It’s easy to get deflated and look for a more sensible or realistic approach that doesn’t get you excited, but at least ypu’ve heard it makes sense…

Here’s my big question for you…

When it comes to the people who you are listening to…

Do they have what you want?

I’m all for advice and mentors and perspective…

BUT

Please, please, please…

Get that advice from people who are where you want to go…

• If you want advice on how to start making $10, 000 a month through passive income, should you listen to someone who has only ever made $3500/month and traded time for every single dollar of it?
• If you want your relationship to be healthy, communicative and passionate, are you going to listen to your friend who is in a loveless marriage?
• If you want to get into the best shape of your life, are you going to go to someone who has never exercised a day in their life for advice on how to do it?

When I ask my coaching clients these questions they always see how ridiculous it is to get advice from someone who doesn’t have what you want…

AND YET…

Most have them have been doing just that…

Most people have a group of advisers that they love and who love them, but when it comes to deciding if your ideas and dreams can happen…

When it comes to discovering the path to design the life you desire…

Make sure you are listening to people who know from experience what it takes to get there!

Listen…

Your friends and family are so important to love you and add to your life…

And if you your friends and family do have the things that you desire, then PLEASE listen to them!

But often your advisers serve a different purpose…

Start finding people who have what you want (at least the next level from where you are)…

Your life will start to change instantly when you do!

As always, leave a comment here…I love hearing from you and what you have to say might be helpful to someone else!

Go Big!

Kristen

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What can the Olympics teach you?

Okay I’ll admit it, I have Olympic fever!

Why?

Well there are so many reasons…

1. I love sports

2. I love watching people dig deep

3. I love hearing how people ris above injusries and circumstances that seem insurmountable

4. I love what I can learn about success and mindset and strategies of success

I love all of these things…

But there is something else, and that is what I’m going to focus on today…

5. I love seeing how differently certain athletes handle defeat

Lindsey Jacobellis is the perfect example…

In the last Olympics she was certain to win a Gold in the Snowboard Cross Event…

I mean she had it tied up and was so far ahead of the pack that all she had to do was stay up on her board and she would have the gold…

That’s when she made her mistake…

She went into the air, and caught in the moment she went to do a little extra to celebrate…

AND FELL…

She still got silver, but this was a situation where the Gold was hers to lose and that is exactly what she did…

• You’ll get 8 million people sounding off about how it was the mistake of youth or showboating…
• You’ll get an earful from just about anyone about how stupid she was to do this…
• You could throw a rock in the middle of the desert and chances are you would still hit someone who would be more than willing to judge her for what heppened…

To be honest, I don’t care about that…

We all make mistakes, it’s a fact of life…

What I’m interested in is what we do after the mistake…

How we handle ourselves…

What we tell ourselves this mistake means about us and our future…

And this is where I am so impressed with Jacobellis…

She had to endure some pretty tough interviews — each time having to answer the question of ‘What Happened?’ –

Of course she would explain — of course she wished it hadn’t gone the way it did — I’m sure she learned a serious lesson –

But she also seemed to let it roll off of her…

The best thing I heard from her was when she said that she didn’t know how to explain what happened other than to say that she fell down.

I love that!

That’s the best success lesson you can find…

You’re going to make mistakes and you are going to do things when you should have known better…

Do you have to learn from these mistakes?

YES

But, do these mistakes mean that you are stupid, have ruined everything and now you’ll never succeed?

NO NO NO!

Learn from her…

Sometimes the most honest answer to “What happened there?” is

“I fell down”…

Leave me your comments about how you can learn from this…

Go Big!

Kristen

Apolo Anton Ono asks himself this every day…

Olympic fever time!

I was just watching a human interest story on Apolo Anton Ono…

What a cool guy, he’s driven ad charismatic and easy going and absolutely in love with what he does…

In the interview he said this –

“Before every day you go to sleep. Ask yourself one thing. Did you do every single thing you could today to make sure you did your best?  It’s hard to answer yes, every single day.”

I thought to myself — YES, that’s it!

He has the key…

Every day, go into that day with the intention to be the best version of yourself –

When you ask yourself at night if you did everything possible to be the best version of yourself, you won’t always come up with a ‘Yes’…

But, I guarantee you, if you approach your life like this — each and every day — no matter what happened the day before –

The quality of your life will immediately lift significantly!

Leave me a comment, let me know if you are ready to approach every day like this regardless of what the day before brought or didn’t bring…

You are extraordinary!

Go Big!

Kristen

Are you losing money because of this?

T’is the season…

I’ve been decorating and shopping…

One of the things I love to do is come up with a great idea for someone and shop online…

And this is what brings me to this post…

I have to get this off my chest —

If you have your own business, I don’t care how small your business is…

I have 1 thing to say to you that could be the difference between success and failure (especially during the holiday season)!

MAKE IT EASY FOR PEOPLE TO DO BUSINESS WITH YOU!

Please don’t make people have to jump through hoops to give you money for whatever you offer!

I don’t care how good your business or product is…

If it isn’t easy to give you my money, I’m gone and giving it to someone else…

Here’s an example:

I wanted to buy a gift certificate for someone in my family who lives accross the country.  I know that they love this one business in their area so I looked for the website –

• No website (Strike 1)

Then I looked them up online to get their number and called and left a message.  They called me back and said if I wanted a gift certificate they’d be happy to help but I need to email Susie (and then they gave me Susie’s email address.)

• Adding a step for me to take (Strike 2)

When Susie emailed me back she said she would be more than happy to create a personal gift certificate for me and that I could just swing by to get it and they accept payment in the form of cash or local check.

• Minimal payment options (Strike 3)

Keep in mind that I am more persistent than most people who would have stopped after strike 1 or 2.

What did I do?

I deleted Susie’s email and went to my second idea for a gift for this family member. I purchased it and had it on it’s way to me already gift wrapped in 5 minutes.

Please tell me you see the lesson here…

You could have the best business in the world but if you make it hard to do business with you, you will  lose that business…it’s as simple as that!

Look around you as you shop…

Notice the places that make it difficult and the places that make it easy and learn from each of them.

I notice this everywhere…stores, coaches, actors, entrepreneurs, people looking for jobs etc.

Start with that one goal in mind and see how you can adjust things…

And if you don’t have a business — how can you apply this principle to your life?

Leave me a comment of how you are going to apply this as of today!

Go Big!

Kristen

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Unbelievable…

THANK YOU EVERYONE for your amazing emails and posts!

The outpouring of love and care that has come to me over the past few days since my accident is absolutely amazing…

Some might even call it unbelievable…

Now, you know me…there’s a message or lesson in everything…

So what is it this time?

Here you go…

There are so many people out there talking about the horrible state of the world and the people in it.  Complaining about the lack of connection and care that exists between people these days…

This way of thinking just causes us to disconnect further…

And I have to say, “I get it.”

There are so many distractions now, so many ways for us to all stay in our own bubbles of space and time…

So many examples of inconsiderate behavior and people running over others to make sure they get what they want first…

BUT…

and this is a BIG one…

Over the last few days I have discovered that isn’t the truth at all…

Sure, there are distractions and we can ALL (me, you and everyone else) get too self absorbed sometimes…

But when it really comes down to it…

We are all connected…and when something happens that hits us at our core we feel that connection and are surrounded by it.

You are never alone…

THAT is what I discovered from all the reaching out…

Even when you feel alone you aren’t…

And when you accept that you are connected and supported and loved EVEN WHEN you don’t feel that way or see where that connection and support and love exists for you…

It will start to show up…

In the most unexpected ways and sometimes from the most unexpected people and sources…

But you have to open yourself up to it...

Which means you have to be willing to connect and be available and not decide where it should come from but just let it come…

And then…

Accept it! Don’t say yeah that was great but so and so didn’t show me love…

Don’t look for ways to dismiss the beauty of the love and connection and support that surrounds you every minute of every day…

Instead look for more ways to see it and value it and share it yourself.

Leave me a comment and let me know how you can be a source of unexpected connection or love or support to people you know and love or even to strangers.  Let me know how you are going to consciously CONNECT from now on!

I thank you all for your energy…it is overwhelmingly beautiful and I am better for it!

Go Big!

Kristen