Opportunity and fear…

Time to Go Big…

Fear was on my mind on my walk today, I was thinking about a coaching client of mine.

She is faced with an opportunity right now and when it was brought to her she was immediately hit with fear.

On our call today, she told me all of the wild thoughts that threw themselves at her at warp speed when she first got the call with this opportunity.

Before I share her thoughts with you (and yes, she gave me approval to do so) I feel it’s important to know that there is NO MONEY at stake, there are NO CONTRACTS being signed, DEATH could not be a result, hell INJURY isn’t even a possibility.

Back to her attacking thoughts…these are the primary thoughts that hurled themselves at her…

• ‘What if it only seems like an opportunity but it’s not?’
• ‘What if it’s too much work and doesn’t fit into my life how I want it to?”
• “What if I hate it?”
• “What if it fails?”
• “What if I waste my time?’

…You get the idea.

Fear is such a huge factor in our lives…it becomes a great reason NOT to do things, get involved, connect, try…live.

The funny thing to me is how we phrase our fears…here are some examples of what we tell ourselves…

• ‘I’m scared to fly’
  (No you’re not…you’re scared to die)
• ‘I’m scared to love’
  (No you’re not…you’re scared that you won’t be loved back)
• ‘I’m scared to try a new sport, language, hobby, business.’
  (No you’re not your scared you’ll look stupid)
• ‘I’m scared to start my own business.’
  (No you’re not…you’re scared you’ll fail)
• ‘I’m scared to reach out to that casting director’
  (No you’re not…you’re scared they’ll tell you you’re not talented)
• ‘I’m scared to tell them how much I love them’
  (No you’re not…you’re scared they won’t care)
• ‘I’m scared to commit to __________.’
  (No you’re not, you’re scared if you commit you lose the power to choose)

And the list goes on…

We attach fear to the wrong thing…we attach it to the action when really what we are scared of is some potential negative feeling/emotion/result.

If we took EVERYTHING that anyone claims they are scared of I guarantee it boils down to a few basic fears:

• Fear of death or injury (to you or someone you love).
• Fear of rejection
• Fear of looking stupid
• Fear of failure

Boiled down even further…what we are scared of in one word is PAIN.

And the thing about people is, for the most part, we will most likely take action to avoid PAIN than we will to achieve pleasure.

BUT BUT BUT

Isn’t living life in a LESS THAN way PAINFUL?

It is for me…it sucks…I hate it…I wish I got zapped with electricity every time I chose the pain of safety over the possibility of pain with something new or out of the box that could bring me great joy.

That’s what I mean by ‘Go Big’…to me ‘Going Big’ means choosing to go toward what has a chance to bring me great joy even though it may not…because if I don’t ‘Go Big’ I am guaranteed 1 thing and 1 thing only, and that is the pain of living a life that is ‘less than’.

So my questions for you today are:

What does ‘Go Big’ mean to you?

Remember the Go Big End of Year Challenge: In what small way (maybe in less than 15 minutes) can you push your comfort zone and choose to ‘Go Big’ today?

Go Big!

Kristen

P.S. My Go Big VIP Program is filling up and I am doing something special.  The next 50 people that join and commit to ‘Go Big Now’ and not wait until after the holidays will get a special 1-on-1 strategy session with me in January to give you that extra advantage you need to make 2010 the best it can be. Get on board as one of the next 50 here: http://www.gobigcoach.com/gobignow

Success in 15 minutes a day — will you commit to yourself?

Experiment time!

There are 39 days left in 2009…

I thought an experiment to see how far you can move forward while still enjoying the holiday season was appropriate!

First let me ask you this question…

If I told you that you could significantly move your life forward between now and January 1, 2010 and it would only take 15 minutes a day…

Would you commit to dedicating 15 minutes a day EVERY DAY for the next 39 days?

I’m going to assume you answered ‘Yes’!

So this is what we are going to do…

Starting today and going through Dec. 31, 2009 I want you to do 1 thing each day to move yourself forward…

Here are the rules:

• You MUST do 1 thing each day
• The ‘Thing’ you do MUST take 15 minutes or less to do…
• The ‘Thing’ you do MUST push your comfort zone
• The ‘Thing’ you do MUST make you feel like you have somehow moved yourself forward toward one of your goals

Got it?

It is up to you if you are going to focus on one area of your life to move forward for the next 39 days or if you are going to focus in several directions…

Either way, you WILL see a huge difference IF you absolutely commit to do this AND you follow through.

To help you out, I want you to leave a comment now stating that you are taking part in the challenge and what your focus is.  I also want you to tell me what it is you will do today.

This is another case of you are either in or you aren’t…

I know it’s tough love…but if you are just going to try to commit 15 minutes a day, you aren’t going to get where you want to go…

15 minutes…to move toward the life of your dreams…

• I KNOW you can do this…
• Commit to it now…
• Leave a comment…
• Tell me you’re in…
• Tell me your focus…
• Tell me what you will do today!

Have fun with this!!

YOU ARE EXTRAORDINARY!

Go Big!

Kristen

P.S. Accountability is the key to success…get into my group program and I’ll hold you accountable and get on the phone with you every month to make sure you are on the right path.  Let’s shift your success from a maybe to a definite!  The monthly call is coming up so get in now…

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Superstition and luck…

Happy Friday the 13th!

I know this is a day where many people  get superstitious and expect bad things to happen…

I  like to look at things differently so on Friday the 13th I actually expect some surprise GOOD things to happen…

You ready to join me on that?

Right this second decide that today is your lucky day…

Think about when you were a kid and it was your birthday or the first day of vacation etc….

Remember what it was like to wake up EXCITED about the day…

You didn’t know what was going to happen, but the day had a feeling of promise and excitement to it…

That’s what I want you to do today!

If you are about to spout 8 million good reasons why you CAN’T do that like:

I’m bogged down in debt

I don’t have enough time

I don’t have enough money

I’m too stressed

My relationship sucks

I just lost my job

etc. etc. etc.

DON’T!

What?  How can I be so cold and insensitive to suggest that you just ignore all the bad in your life and expect something good to happen?

I’m not being cold and insensitive…

In fact, this is coming out of love…

JUST ONE DAY…

That’s all I ask…

1 day where you choose to get excited and feel like luck is on your side and the day is full of possibility…

1 day!

If you hate it you can go back to exactly what you usually do tomorrow…

But today is LUCKY Friday the 13th!!

I can’t promise you that your life will change today…

But I can promise you that if you do this today, you are planting the seed of infinite possibility and positive expectation…

Look for the small positive clues that surround you right now (I guarantee they are there if you look for them and stop looking for proof of how bad and desperate things are for you.)

Your mindset today determines your reality tomorrow (I know in reality there is only NOW, but you know what I’m saying.)

So…

Are you game?

Will you look at today with excitement and expectation?  You don’t have to know what you are excited about…in fact, that’s the point, you are surrounded by opportunity at ALL TIMES…so just get excited about that and about opportunity and fun and excitement being revealed to you.

Leave me a comment and let me know if you are in!

Happy Friday the 13th!!

Go Big

Kristen

Are you using this success secret?

Let’s talk about 1 of the most thrown around ‘Buzz Words’ when it comes to any growth…

Personal Development

Business

Weight Loss

Money

etc.

What’s the word?

ACCOUNTABILITY!

Accountability…

It’s a buzz word…

We all know it…

I can’t tell you how many emails I get telling me that all someone needs is an accountability partner and then they’ll get the results they are looking for…

Here’s what I have to say to that…

It’s true!

It may be a buzz word, but when it comes to any kind of movement, growth or development…

It’s true!

I don’t care who you are…

I don’t care how successful you are…

I don’t care how motivated you are…

I guarantee you that when you have someone holding you accountable you will far exceed the success you would get without the accountability…

Listen, I am extremely self motivated — in fact, a place where I am always able to find my motivation is with working out…

I am actually one of those people that will get up every day and go to the gym AND I will work out hard when I’m there…

BUT…

When I work out with someone else or with a trainer I work even harder and get better results.

It isn’t good or bad, it IS human nature…

Start using accountability today to turbo charge your results…

Here’s the key though…

You have to make sure you have the right person holding you accountable or it won’t work…

But if you asked me right now what you could do to get more results between now and Jan 1st than you thought possible I would say do whatever it takes to be held accountable…

You can do this in many ways…

I have coaching clients who send me daily emails, weekly emails, talk with me on the phone for 5 minutes for an accountability report…

There are a million ways you can be held accountable, you just need to find the way that works for you and then get started!

Don’t fall into the trap that 90% of people fall into…90% of people go into this time of year and the year might as well be over…they decide that everything they want to do has to be put on hold until the start of the next year because of the holidays etc.

Don’t fall into this trap!  You can enjoy the holidays AND move forward in all the areas of your life during this time…I promise!!

Leave me a comment and let me know what you want to be held accountable to following through on consistently between now and the last day of this year.

Don’t just tell me what you are ready to be held accountable to…

Tell me WHY…

Let’s do this!

Go Big!

Kristen

Don’t reinvent the wheel…

So many of you are struggling…

So many of you have decided (either by choice or necessity) to break into your own business…

So many of you are banging your heads against the wall with the business you started…

I get emails every single day asking me what is the 1 thing I can say that will help you succeed faster.

If you need to start to generate money fast then listen up because chances are good you are wasting valuable time.

Listen closely because I’m going to tell you the most important thing you can hear about this…

Don’t reinvent the wheel!

When you start your own business you need to discover what makes you different from your competitors and identify your unique selling proposition and all that other stuff you hear and read about…

But here’s the truth…

Especially in the beginning…

Don’t reinvent the wheel!

Yes, you need to separate yourself from the pack, but at first, look at what the people who are successful in your business are doing and DO IT!

Get started…

Model success and go for it…

Let me throw some cold water in your face right now…

If you aren’t successful in an area, then you DON’T know better than the people that are!

• Listen to them…
• Watch what they do…
• Look at the moves they make…
• Follow their lead…

Eventually you will become successful and you will find what makes you unique and THEN you can invent something new.

But until then…

Give yourself a break and increase your chances of success by almost 80% and Don’t Reinvent the Wheel!

I can promise you this…

If you are genuine and show up as you, you will be unique from the beginning…

Just because it’s been said before doesn’t mean it’s been said how YOU say it…

Every time I have a coaching session with a client and I suggest they do something and they object to it because that is what everybody else is doing I say — everyone else is doing it because IT WORKS!

Put the odds in your favor…

I’m not saying copy someone word for word…

As I said, if you stay true to yourself, you will bring a fresh perspective and approach to everything you do even when you are modeling someone else’s success!

I want you to be honest with me now…

Leave me a comment and tell me how you are going to use this to model success and stop reinventing the wheel now!

Do it now…accountability is key…if you write it here I can hold you accountable!

Go Big!

Kristen