You could give up or you could get _______ …

I know you have things that you want to have happen in your life…

You are focusing on them, visualizing, getting specific and taking inspired action –

You’re doing everything we’ve talked about here…

BUT..

Often you still find yourself waiting for someone else or sidetracked by unforeseeable circumstances or pressed for someone else’s deadline…

So what now?

I constantly talk about how we are 100% responsible for our lives and the story that plays out in our lives and yet…

How can that be true when you are subjected to other people and situations and expectations?

I’ll tell you how…

• You can ALWAYS be creative…
• You can ALWAYS take another path…
• You ALWAYS have a choice…

This is one of those posts that will make some people really angry — and if you aren’t ready to accept this as true, I’m sorry…but I’m not going to change my tune…

Here’s the deal –

When you are waiting or feel like whatever you want to happen relies on someone else, you feel a loss of power…

When you look at the situation and acknowledge that the one path you are looking at is delayed and then ask yourself what different action you can take to find a different path or opportunity etc. THEN you activate your power — you activate your creative juices — you activate Inspired Action…

So here’s my question for you today…

And keep in mind this applies to EVERY AREA of your life…

• Money
• Business
• Relationships
• Fun
• Health

EVERYTHING…

Ask yourself this…

What is something in your life that is ‘held up’ or seems to be reliant on someone else and how can you get creative and look for another possiible path to bring you the same (or better result)?

Leave me a comment with your answer…

Also, let me know if you are ready to be creative and stop waiting for other people to make things happen in your life…

Go Big!

Kristen

Opportunity and fear…

Time to Go Big…

Fear was on my mind on my walk today, I was thinking about a coaching client of mine.

She is faced with an opportunity right now and when it was brought to her she was immediately hit with fear.

On our call today, she told me all of the wild thoughts that threw themselves at her at warp speed when she first got the call with this opportunity.

Before I share her thoughts with you (and yes, she gave me approval to do so) I feel it’s important to know that there is NO MONEY at stake, there are NO CONTRACTS being signed, DEATH could not be a result, hell INJURY isn’t even a possibility.

Back to her attacking thoughts…these are the primary thoughts that hurled themselves at her…

• ‘What if it only seems like an opportunity but it’s not?’
• ‘What if it’s too much work and doesn’t fit into my life how I want it to?”
• “What if I hate it?”
• “What if it fails?”
• “What if I waste my time?’

…You get the idea.

Fear is such a huge factor in our lives…it becomes a great reason NOT to do things, get involved, connect, try…live.

The funny thing to me is how we phrase our fears…here are some examples of what we tell ourselves…

• ‘I’m scared to fly’
  (No you’re not…you’re scared to die)
• ‘I’m scared to love’
  (No you’re not…you’re scared that you won’t be loved back)
• ‘I’m scared to try a new sport, language, hobby, business.’
  (No you’re not your scared you’ll look stupid)
• ‘I’m scared to start my own business.’
  (No you’re not…you’re scared you’ll fail)
• ‘I’m scared to reach out to that casting director’
  (No you’re not…you’re scared they’ll tell you you’re not talented)
• ‘I’m scared to tell them how much I love them’
  (No you’re not…you’re scared they won’t care)
• ‘I’m scared to commit to __________.’
  (No you’re not, you’re scared if you commit you lose the power to choose)

And the list goes on…

We attach fear to the wrong thing…we attach it to the action when really what we are scared of is some potential negative feeling/emotion/result.

If we took EVERYTHING that anyone claims they are scared of I guarantee it boils down to a few basic fears:

• Fear of death or injury (to you or someone you love).
• Fear of rejection
• Fear of looking stupid
• Fear of failure

Boiled down even further…what we are scared of in one word is PAIN.

And the thing about people is, for the most part, we will most likely take action to avoid PAIN than we will to achieve pleasure.

BUT BUT BUT

Isn’t living life in a LESS THAN way PAINFUL?

It is for me…it sucks…I hate it…I wish I got zapped with electricity every time I chose the pain of safety over the possibility of pain with something new or out of the box that could bring me great joy.

That’s what I mean by ‘Go Big’…to me ‘Going Big’ means choosing to go toward what has a chance to bring me great joy even though it may not…because if I don’t ‘Go Big’ I am guaranteed 1 thing and 1 thing only, and that is the pain of living a life that is ‘less than’.

So my questions for you today are:

What does ‘Go Big’ mean to you?

Remember the Go Big End of Year Challenge: In what small way (maybe in less than 15 minutes) can you push your comfort zone and choose to ‘Go Big’ today?

Go Big!

Kristen

P.S. My Go Big VIP Program is filling up and I am doing something special.  The next 50 people that join and commit to ‘Go Big Now’ and not wait until after the holidays will get a special 1-on-1 strategy session with me in January to give you that extra advantage you need to make 2010 the best it can be. Get on board as one of the next 50 here: http://www.gobigcoach.com/gobignow

What’s the Opportunity?

If I could give you one question to ask yourself during a challenging time it would be this…

What’s the opportunity here?

I know the last thing you want or think to do when you are in the middle of a challenging time or situation is to ask yourself what the opportunity is, and I know it seems like I’m asking you to be unhuman, but go with me on this for a second…

How many times in your life have you looked back on a particularly difficult time of your life and suddenly had a lightbulb go off as to what you got from it?

Here’s an example…

My best friend lost her father…

It was a long and hard 2 1/2 years and at the end she was fortunate enough to be able to go and be with him and care for him for the last couple of months.

About 6 months after he had died, she and I had a long conversation about how she felt like she was still playing catch up with her life and she was scared she would never get her life back on track.

I asked her why she felt so behind and she said that when her dad had been diagnosed she did what everyone does in that situation and she put her life on hold.

During this time she had also moved accross the country and given her career a fresh start, but the whole time her focus was on her dad.

As we talked, I asked her what her life would be like now if he had never gotten sick…if he was still alive…

And THAT is when the light bulb went on…

Her eyes brightened and she said, “I would be doing exactly what I was doing then, I wouldn’t have moved, I’d be doing the same exact things I was doing before that were making me feel trapped and like I was living with a ceiling on my success.”

I said, “Okay, so what is your life like because he was diagnosed and you went through that time?”

The light bulb was really on now…

“I am living somewhere else, I’ve made progress in one career and have a whole other career I never dreamed I would have…”

Her voice drifted off for a second and then she said, “I’ve been feeling like I got behind, but I really ended up ahead of where I was ever going to be if I hadn’t gone through all of that.”

AMAZING!

So often we are struck days, months, years later with why something happened the way it did…what opportunities came to us because of the challenges we went through…

So all I’m asking you to do now is to try to remember to look for that opportunity in the midst of the challenge…

You won’t always be able to do it…

But, when you run into roadblocks with anything…

• Making money
• Discovering your passion
• Living your dreams
  etc.

Try asking yourself what the opportunity may be?

Just try it!

To help you get into this practice, leave me a comment with one or two examples from your life…

Go Big!

Kristen

What You Do in the Last 4 Counts!

People tend to evaluate and re-evaluate their lives every year toward the end of the year so that they can head into the New Year ready to go!

I’m here to tell you that what you do in the last 4 months counts!

How are you setting yourself up now?  Don’t wait until Dec 31st to decide how you are going to do things differently…

Start now!

I’m telling you this…

About 5 years ago I stopped waiting and I actually started looking at the last 4 months of the year as a time of amazing opportunity…

The difference in my life is ASTOUNDING!!

Take the last couple of weeks of August to decide what you REALLY want!

• Do you want more money?
• Do you want to lose weight and get in the best shape of your life?
• Do you want to attract a wonderful, supportiv and passionate relationship?
• Do you want to grow your business?
• Do you want to start making money from your passion?

First ask yourself what it is you want?

Then ask yourself why you want it?

Then use the last 4 months to START NOW!

Imagine if you start now instead of waiting until Jan 1…

Imagine if you take the pressure off the New Year and start moving toward the life you want to design now?

Imagine if you are just that little bit ahead of the game…

1. What do you want?
2. Why do you want it?
3. What can you do RIGHT NOW to move 1step (just 1) toward what you want?

Imagine if you took 1 step a day, every day between today and Dec 31st, toward your goals…

• How much farther would you be?
• How different would your life be?
• How different would you be?

Just 1 step a day…

These last 4 count…let’s do it!

Leave me a comment to let me know what you want and why and if you are going to commit to taking 1 step a day starting NOW!

Go Big!

Kristen