• “How do I get people to give me the break I need?”
• “How do I get people to put my products in front of their list?”
• “How do I get people to introduce me to someone that can really help me?”
• “How do I get people to really appreciate me?”

and so on…

I get it…I used to wonder those same things…

BUT I had it all wrong…look at the questions I listed above…

What is the one part that repeats in every question?

“How do I get people to…”

I’ll tell you now…you need to stop looking for how you can get them all to make your life better and more successful and instead ask yourself this question –

“What do I bring to the party?”

And here’s the deal with this…

I didn’t say to ask yourself  what you bring to the table…

THERE IS A HUGE DIFFERENCE…

What you bring to the table is all of your natural gifts and abilities…

What you bring to the party is who you are, what you give, how you act, the energy you give off…

Let me explain further…

I know a TON of people that bring a lot to the table…

I mean they are talented and bright and have potential that you wouldn’t believe…

BUT…

They don’t bring anything to the party…

In fact half the time they don’t even show up to the party, and when they do, they are so busy sitting there wondering why no one sees everything that they bring to the table, that they come off as angry, withdrawn, insecure or boring — they actually betray what they bring to the table by bringing nothing to the party…

So, ask yourself, what do I bring to the party?

Leave me a comment and let me know!

Go Big!

Kristen

P.S. You can still vote for Oprah to pick up my show (and you can vote as much as you want until midnight of July 3rd) – here’s the link, I appreciate all of the support!

http://myown.oprah.com/audition/index.html?request=video_details&response_id=9753&promo_id=1

Weird topic –  but stick with me here and you’ll see why I’m all fired up…

My friend said, “When I was little, I was the girl that would sign my name and take up like half the page when I did it…”

Then she continued…

“Until one day when my grandmother saw me and she said, ‘You can’t do that!’”

You can’t do that…

How many times have you heard those exact words?

How many times did you hear them — or something a lot like them — before you were 10 years old?

I guarantee you can’t count how many times!

And here’s the deal…

When people say that to you, for the most part, there really truly are trying to protect you from something (at least in their own minds)…

But let’s get real…

YOU CAN’T DO THAT has to be the worst 4 letter phrase around!

Then my friend said the most amazing thing — and this is the thing I really want you to think about…

She said, “Sometimes I look back and think that I wish I was still that girl…”

Here’s the truth…

You CAN DO THAT (assuming you aren’t hurting anyone please) AND even if you used to do that and stopped when you were told that you couldn’t do that…

You are STILL that person…

THAT is still the essence of you — even if it’s a bit buried, that is still who you are!

How can you reclaim that essence?

What are some of the things you were told you couldn’t do?

RECLAIM THEM!

I can’t wait for your comments on this one!

Go Big!

Kristen

And today I want to introduce you to one of the most powerful questions there is…

I know SO MANY of you are frustrated and feel like you are banging your head against a wall wondering WHEN will you finally have the success you are looking for…

I get emails about it all the time — emails that say things like:

• “Kristen, I’m doing everything I can think of, but I still don’t have enough money…”
• “Kristen, I’m doing everything I can think of, but I still haven’t lost the last 20 pounds…”
• “Kristen, I’m doing everything I can think of, but I still haven’t met my soul mate…”
• “Kristen, I’m doing everything I can think of, but I still don’t have enough time…”
• “Kristen, I’m doing everything I can think of, but I still don’t have enough opportunities…”

and the list goes on…

I know you are nodding your head right now in agreement — I know you know what this feels like — I’ve been there too…

UNTIL

I shifted my focus — this is what I did…

I asked myself a different question than I had ever asked myself before –

Do you want to know what that question was?

Of course you do…here it is…

I asked myself this…

“Who do I need to be to have ___________ ?”

Here’s another great follow up question to that one…

“What do I need to believe to have ____________?”

And another powerful question…

“How do I need to act and look at life and handle setbacks to have ___________?”

Here’s the deal…

Whatever you want, I guarantee there is proof in this world that it is possible because I promise you someone else has it –

Study those people that have what you want –

• Who are they?
• What do they believe?
• What do they focus on?
• How do they handle setbacks?
• What do they expect?

This works for EVERYTHING –

Whether you want

• More money
• To lose weight
• To be a famous artist
• To have a successful business
• To find the love of your life
• To excel at your current job
• To discover your passion and purpose

etc. etc. etc.

STOP looking at what you don’t have and instead focus on who you have to be to have what you want…

I promise you that right now you are EXACTLY who you need to be to have what you currently have — and I know you are ready to change that!

Leave me a comment — let me know what your beliefs and more need to be for you to live the life you want…

I also have a video with more (free) power questions for you at:

http://www.gobigcoach.com/sos/powerquestions.html

Go check it out — this stuff can change your life — I know because it changed mine!

You are extraordinary!

Go Big!

I’m just going to jump right in…

If you are struggling with something consistently over a decent period of time (3 months or more…) then I want to ask you 1 question…

What’s the payoff?

I know you hate whatever it is you are struggling with and you want nothing more than for it to stop and be a thing of the past…

But I’ll ask you 1 more time…

What’s the payoff?

If I’ve hit a nerve here and you want to jump through the computer and tell me I’m crazy…stick with me while I explain…

Let me do this by giving an example…

A friend of mine had been in theatre for years…

He was very successful and went from one tour to the next…

He never stopped working…but the one thing that kept eluding him was a Broadway Show…

He was more than talented enough…

He worked harder than most people in the business…

But it just kept not happening and it was driving him crazy!

One night we were sitting and talking and he was telling me how frustrated he was, how he was having trouble watching people who weren’t as talented and who didn’t work as hard get Broadway Shows while he didn’t.

I looked him dead in the eye and said, “What’s the payoff?”

He said, “What do  you mean?”

I said — “What are you getting 0n a subconscious level by NOT getting your Broadway Show?”

For a second I thought he was going to leave the table…so I continued…

“I’m not being mean…but seriously, you’ve already told me you are more than qualified and you work all the time in big productions…so what are you getting from it?”

He sat and glared at me for more than a minute…

And then his face changed — his eyes flashed and he got a weird smile on his face and then he said, “Wow…I can’t believe I’m saying this, but you’re right. Every time I complain about all the people who aren’t as good as me who are getting rewarded with what I deserve, I feel a weird sense of being better than them…like I work so much harder than them and deserve it more than them…so in my subconscious, by not getting what I want I’m somehow giving myself the message that I’m better than everyone else…”

I said, “Wow, that was honest…”

He said, “Yeah, but as I’m verbalizing it, I’m realizing that I don’t care about being better than everyone else, I just want my Broadway Show!”

Here’s what happened after that…

He consciously stopped judging people who were getting what he wanted…

In fact, whenever he wanted to complain about them, instead he said 3 words…

“That’s for me!”

It didn’t happen overnight…

It took a year of him sticking to his guns…

But he finally got his Broadway Show (and has been on Broadway ever since)…

So…

I’m going to ask you 1 more time…

Whatever it is you are struggling with…

“What’s the payoff?”

Be honest with yourself…

Leave me a comment and let me know!

Go Big!

Kristen

Let me ask you 1 question…

Who are you listening to?

This is one of the biggest challenges today…

• There are a whole bunch of people in your life who are more than ready and willing to give you advice on what you can and especially what you CAN’T or SHOULDN’T do…
• There are countless people standing by, ready to protect you or steer you toward what is smart and sensible and realistic…

So often these people listen to your ideas and tell you they won’t work, or they aren’t smart…

And when they do, it’s easy to get discouraged and abandon your ideas…

It’s easy to get deflated and look for a more sensible or realistic approach that doesn’t get you excited, but at least ypu’ve heard it makes sense…

Here’s my big question for you…

When it comes to the people who you are listening to…

Do they have what you want?

I’m all for advice and mentors and perspective…

BUT

Please, please, please…

Get that advice from people who are where you want to go…

• If you want advice on how to start making $10, 000 a month through passive income, should you listen to someone who has only ever made $3500/month and traded time for every single dollar of it?
• If you want your relationship to be healthy, communicative and passionate, are you going to listen to your friend who is in a loveless marriage?
• If you want to get into the best shape of your life, are you going to go to someone who has never exercised a day in their life for advice on how to do it?

When I ask my coaching clients these questions they always see how ridiculous it is to get advice from someone who doesn’t have what you want…

AND YET…

Most have them have been doing just that…

Most people have a group of advisers that they love and who love them, but when it comes to deciding if your ideas and dreams can happen…

When it comes to discovering the path to design the life you desire…

Make sure you are listening to people who know from experience what it takes to get there!

Listen…

Your friends and family are so important to love you and add to your life…

And if you your friends and family do have the things that you desire, then PLEASE listen to them!

But often your advisers serve a different purpose…

Start finding people who have what you want (at least the next level from where you are)…

Your life will start to change instantly when you do!

As always, leave a comment here…I love hearing from you and what you have to say might be helpful to someone else!

Go Big!

Kristen

P.S. My Go Big Now! VIP Program is designed to give you the strategies of successful people so that you can immediately start moving toward the life of your dreams.  I’m accepting new members and would love to see you there… www.gobigcoach.com

He had a profound effect on me and countless other people…

His life and way of looking at everything changed our world forever and helped move us into a time of conscious living and deliberate creation…

He will be missed but his legacy will live on.

This presses me to ask a very important question of you…

What do you want your legacy to be?

It doesn’t have to be a legacy of global impact…

It doesn’t have to be anything other than what you want it to be…

But you need to know how you want to leave this world…

My mother always used to tell me to leave my campsite better than I found it…

So how will you leave the world better than you found it?

What small or large way will you leave your imprint?

Leave me a comment to let me know — and if you don’t know, we can work on that too!

Go Big!

Kristen

Here’s the deal…

We all get behind sometimes…

Life happens to all of us and takes us a bit off track…

We all put our energy on the most pressing thing and temporarily remove it from other things…

And if we don’t explain why wh have shifted our focus and energy then people will understandably take it personally and feel like they can’t count on you…

So what was the kick in my pants?

Well…

As you know I had that bad car accident and the healing and logistics that come with resolving something like that got my primary focus.

I still posted to my blog and I still developed content etc. for my new Go Big Now! VIP Program…

BUT WHAT I DIDN’T DO was stay on top of responding to emails and blog posts.

I know it’s understandable considering the circumstances…BUT I should have explained.

I should have sent out an email letting everyone know that I wasn’t ignoring them and I would catch up and respond to them soon.

I should have…

But I didn’t…

And I am sorry!

The kick in the pants came as an email from a loyal subscriber who said that he probably would have signed up for my Go Big Now! VIP program but because he hadn’t received a response to his emails he didn’t know he could trust me.

Ouch…

But true…

So, what can you learn from my kick in the pants?

There will be times when you have to shift your energy, that is a part of life and you shouldn’t have to change that…

But…

Think of the people it will directly effect and let them know and you will be amazed at how much that adds to your relationships — whether it’s business, personal or both!

Leave me a comment and let me know your thoughts on this…

Go Big!

Kristen

For some of you it’s a new business for others it’s a  form of creative expression or way of impacting the world…

It doesn’t matter what it is, what matters is that you get it out there and I know that for most of you there is probably fear that goes along with that.  You don’t want to be pushy or salesy or annoy the people you know and love…

But let me tell you something important about this…

And I’ll actually use this blog to illustrate my point…

Here’s the truth…

The more I blog, the more responsive people are…the more people ask for my help, hire me as a coach, bring me on to speak etc.

What does this mean to me about life and more specifically living the life we want to design, achieving our aspirations, being the people we desire to be?

I’ll tell you (you knew I would)!

It means that when we want to get something out there or make something known or get people on board with something we have to take the other people into account.

Now this is where I flip what we normally do on it’s ear!

How we normally ‘Take other people into account’ is by ASSUMING we will annoy them or bother them…we think they will grow weary of us…so we mention something in passing and then let it go…assuming that if it is important to them or resonates with them they will pick up the ball and run with it, gleefully letting us know how what we have is exactly what they’ve been waiting for.

Let’s be honest,  if we REALLY ‘Take other people into account’ we will realize that there are so many distractions and so much stimuli flying around all at all times, that if we just mention something in passing, chances are great that our thing or message or whatever will automatically shift to the back of their brains, not because they are being mean or don’t care, but just because that is how it is.

BEFORE I GO ON LET ME CLARIFY…You should also NEVER ASSUME that they are all ears and sitting around all day every day just waiting for your message or thing or whatever…I’m NOT saying be annoying…I’m not saying harass people…in fact you should always give people the chance to respectfully decline…

Here’s the thing…you only want to be talking to people who want to hear what you have to say AND I guarantee you that there are a lot more people that actually do want to hear what you have to say than you think.

To boil it down, I’m saying is this…

‘If you don’t toot your own horn, someone else will pick it up and hit you over the head with it.’

• Toot it with respect for the people listening…
• Toot it with confidence but not OVER confidence or false bravado…
• Toot it and know that NOT everyone will like the sound of your particular horn…

Keep in mind…tooting your own horn doesn’t mean talking about yourself or bragging…it means putting what you want out there and letting it be known…you never know who has the key to a door for you!

And remember…listen for when you might have the key to a door for someone else…because that’s a powerful thing!

Leave me a comment right now and answer this question…

What have you  quietly kept to yourself or mentioned only in passing, that it’s time to claim loudly now?

(This could be a dream as big as wanting to run for President or it could be as simple as speaking up and saying that you have always wanted to have the Vintage Cameras that used to be in your Grandmother’s house.)

Go Big!

Kristen

P.S. My new monthly membership program is filling up and I’m very excited to be able to hold my VIP members accountable and talk with them every month. If you are ready to live an extraordinary life NOW then go check it out and see if it’s the program for you:

http://www.gobigcoach.com/gobignow

Personal Development

Business

Weight Loss

Money

etc.

What’s the word?

ACCOUNTABILITY!

Accountability…

It’s a buzz word…

We all know it…

I can’t tell you how many emails I get telling me that all someone needs is an accountability partner and then they’ll get the results they are looking for…

Here’s what I have to say to that…

It’s true!

It may be a buzz word, but when it comes to any kind of movement, growth or development…

It’s true!

I don’t care who you are…

I don’t care how successful you are…

I don’t care how motivated you are…

I guarantee you that when you have someone holding you accountable you will far exceed the success you would get without the accountability…

Listen, I am extremely self motivated — in fact, a place where I am always able to find my motivation is with working out…

I am actually one of those people that will get up every day and go to the gym AND I will work out hard when I’m there…

BUT…

When I work out with someone else or with a trainer I work even harder and get better results.

It isn’t good or bad, it IS human nature…

Start using accountability today to turbo charge your results…

Here’s the key though…

You have to make sure you have the right person holding you accountable or it won’t work…

But if you asked me right now what you could do to get more results between now and Jan 1st than you thought possible I would say do whatever it takes to be held accountable…

You can do this in many ways…

I have coaching clients who send me daily emails, weekly emails, talk with me on the phone for 5 minutes for an accountability report…

There are a million ways you can be held accountable, you just need to find the way that works for you and then get started!

Don’t fall into the trap that 90% of people fall into…90% of people go into this time of year and the year might as well be over…they decide that everything they want to do has to be put on hold until the start of the next year because of the holidays etc.

Don’t fall into this trap!  You can enjoy the holidays AND move forward in all the areas of your life during this time…I promise!!

Leave me a comment and let me know what you want to be held accountable to following through on consistently between now and the last day of this year.

Don’t just tell me what you are ready to be held accountable to…

Tell me WHY…

Let’s do this!

Go Big!

Kristen

So many of you have decided (either by choice or necessity) to break into your own business…

So many of you are banging your heads against the wall with the business you started…

I get emails every single day asking me what is the 1 thing I can say that will help you succeed faster.

If you need to start to generate money fast then listen up because chances are good you are wasting valuable time.

Listen closely because I’m going to tell you the most important thing you can hear about this…

Don’t reinvent the wheel!

When you start your own business you need to discover what makes you different from your competitors and identify your unique selling proposition and all that other stuff you hear and read about…

But here’s the truth…

Especially in the beginning…

Don’t reinvent the wheel!

Yes, you need to separate yourself from the pack, but at first, look at what the people who are successful in your business are doing and DO IT!

Get started…

Model success and go for it…

Let me throw some cold water in your face right now…

If you aren’t successful in an area, then you DON’T know better than the people that are!

• Listen to them…
• Watch what they do…
• Look at the moves they make…
• Follow their lead…

Eventually you will become successful and you will find what makes you unique and THEN you can invent something new.

But until then…

Give yourself a break and increase your chances of success by almost 80% and Don’t Reinvent the Wheel!

I can promise you this…

If you are genuine and show up as you, you will be unique from the beginning…

Just because it’s been said before doesn’t mean it’s been said how YOU say it…

Every time I have a coaching session with a client and I suggest they do something and they object to it because that is what everybody else is doing I say — everyone else is doing it because IT WORKS!

Put the odds in your favor…

I’m not saying copy someone word for word…

As I said, if you stay true to yourself, you will bring a fresh perspective and approach to everything you do even when you are modeling someone else’s success!

I want you to be honest with me now…

Leave me a comment and tell me how you are going to use this to model success and stop reinventing the wheel now!

Do it now…accountability is key…if you write it here I can hold you accountable!

Go Big!

Kristen