Have you lost hope?

The other night I sat around talking with 2 of my closest friends.

We were talking about losing people you love and the process you go through afterward to reclaim your life…

We all agreed that when you go through losing someone who is very important to you, there is a healthy amount of ‘The small stuff doesn’t matter’ that follows…

And that’s a good thing!

However, one of my friends made the very good point that there is a flip side to that when you are suddenly faced with the reality that we are all going to live and then we are going to die and that flip side is the natural impulse to wonder why any of it matters.

Then she said the most amazing thing…

She said, “I feel like I’ve lost the constant hope I used to have.  I’m still looking for it, but if I’m being honest, I’ve lost my hope.”

When she said this her eyes were so clear and honest and real…

I said, “Isn’t that just hope showing up differently?”

“What do you mean?” she asked…

“Well, you’ve lost your hope but you are still looking for it…so you have hope you’ll re-discover your hope…”

Her eyes lit up…

“Yeah, funny…you’re right.” She seemed relieved…

Here’s the deal…

When it seems like you’ve lost your hope, for whatever reason…

Ask yourself if you still truthfully feel that you are looking to have hope again…

Sometimes emotions show up in different ways than we are used to…

They have to re-design themselves so that we’ll notice them and feel them and not always recognize them…

Have you lost hope?

About anything…you can lose hope in one area and not another…

• You can lose the hope that you’ll ever be wealthy, but know that you have love
• You can lose the hope that you’ll live your dreams, but know you can make lots of money
• You can lose hope that you’ll ever feel excited about your life but know you can be healthy

So, have you lost hope?

Do you feel yourself looking for it…wondering if you’ll find it right where you left it?

Then let me give you the good news…

You still have it…

It is never too late for hope…

It is never too late to believe that things can change…

It is never too late to live an extraordinary life…

You can do it…one step at a time!

Don’t hesitate…

Leave me a comment and tell me where you have hope!

Go Big!

Kristen

You’re going to fall down…

Here’s the deal…

No matter how many people are promising you success and money and a life beyond your wildest dreams…

You WILL fall down from time to time!

This is also the deal…

You can still have success and money and a life beyond your wildest dreams…

IF you are ready to get back up again.

Falling down doesn’t mean you are failing…

It just means you have something to learn!

Fall down and be grateful you are being given the lessons you need to move you toward your ultimate vision.

The ONLY reason you won’t get the money, success and life beyond your wildest dreams is if when you fall down you stay down OR you see it as proof that you can’t have what you want.

The universe wants to deliver to you what you are so convinced you deserve that you can hear ‘NO’ a million times and you still know you deserve it!

REMEMBER…I am NOT talking about getting attached to a specific job or person or thing when I say this…please don’t start stalking people because I told you the universe will give it to you if you just keep pushing past a million times of hearing “No”.

I mean this…

Release the pressure  and limits that come when you decide that you have to have a certain job or person or amount of money and shift to ‘Knowing’ in your heart that you deserve…

• Success
• Love
• Money
• Glory
• Joy
• Laughter
• Peace
• Faith
• Freedom
• Prosperity

etc.

Know it so strongly that you don’t hear “No” instead you hear “Take a different approach”.

You will fall down…

You WILL fall down…

You will FALL down…

So what!

You fell down a million times before you walked…

So fall down and laugh knowing that you are one fall closer to discovering how to walk!

This is your time!

Live an extraordinary life!

Go Big!

Kristen

You Won’t Save the World by Giving Your Solution Away for Free

Have I already hit a sore spot?

I know it’s a touchy subject when it comes to making money from your passion, and I hit on it slightly in one of my posts a few weeks ago and I’m still getting emails about it.

So what’s the nerve I’ve hit?

I’ll tell you…

You won’t save the world by giving your solution away for free!

We’ve been doing all of this work on finding your passion and making money from it and discovering how you can help people…

In other words, defining what solution you have to someone else’s problem…

I do one-on-one and group coaching to help people do all of this and time and time again one of my clients will say to me…

‘But I want to make the world a better place and if I have a solution that someone else needs, shouldn’t I give it to them for free?’

YIKES!

NO!

Here’s the deal…

Do I want you to take advantage of people?

No, of course not!

But the fact of the matter is you are NEVER going to make the world a better place by giving your solution away for free for 2 main reasons…

1. If you give it away for free, how long do you think you’ll be able to keep giving it away? Honestly, won’t you end up depleted of resources like time and money and energy if you go this route? I say this to my coaching clients like a mantra, “When you fly in an airplane, there’s a reason they tell you to put the oxygen mask on your self first.”

2. People don’t have anything at stake if it’s free and if you REALLY want to help people they have to have something at stake.

Now before you argue with me on that second point, I have proof…

Years ago, I had enough people ask me why I didn’t give my coaching for free so I thought it would be an interesting experiment. I invited 10 people to work with me one-on-one for free. This normally would have been a $5000 investment for them to work with me, but I agreed to have them pay that amount once they finished the program and saw what it could do for them.

What do you think happened?

Well…the first 2 weeks went quite well, everyone stayed accountable and took the action I gave them to take and then…

Well, let’s just say that after 5 weeks I was putting all my time and effort into chasing them down.

I called a group session together and asked them what they thought the problem was…

I’ll be completely honest about the response…

• 1 of the men in the group said that I just wasn’t the coach for him
• 1 woman said that she realized she really didn’t want to do what it would take to be an enterpreneur
• 1 younger guy didn’t even call into the group session
• And the 7 remaining people agreed that because they didn’t have any skin in the game, the program had gone to the bottom of their priority list…

They literally told me that because they didn’t have their investment in the program pressuring them to follow through, they just weren’t making it a priority at all.

Ultimately, as a group, we called off the experiment and 3 of the people made the investment to start working with me…

The results?

2 of them now have extremely successful businesses and the third didn’t follow through anyway so I let him out of the program.

So, I’ll say this a million times if I have to…

If you have a solution that will help people, and you really want to help as many people as you possible can, the results will be much better for everyone if you don’t give it to them for free!

I’m all for giving and charity, but that isn’t what this is about…

You don’t have to charge huge amounts of money, but it does need to be enough that it inspires the person to follow through and actually use the solution you have offered them…

If you want to make money from your passion, please take this to heart…

Put the oxygen mask on yourself first and then get out there and you’ll be able to help all the people you can reach!

Leave me a comment or shoot me an email to let me know how you feel about this, it’s a hot button topic and I want to open up a conversation about it!

Go Big!

Kristen

The Quest for Significance

I’ve been getting great feedback from everyone about the ‘Find Your Purpose’ exercises.

Many of you are on the path to discovering your purpose and discovering ways you can make money from doing what you love…now that’s exciting!

The more people who are attracting money from their purpose, the better the world is!

But there is another reason to commit right now to ‘Finding Your Purpose’ and discovering what makes you happy and what makes you tick…

This reason is most often overlooked because we get so focussed on finally making money doing something we love.

This reason is the difference between really living your life and just waking up every day and getting through it until there are no days left to get through…

This reason is why you MUST discover your purpose.

What’s the reason?

I’ll tell you in a second…

Your purpose is your unique take on the world and EVERYONE has a unique way of viewing the world.  Every single person has a unique voice and a unique way of expressing that voice.

The reason you MUST discover your purpose and express your unique voice is this…

If you DO NOT find a way to express who you are, it will eat you up!

That’s it…

We all need to feel significant…

We are all questing for it…

And our significance lies in our unique, one of a kind, way of seeing the world around us…

If you smother your expression, you smother yourself and you cut off your significance.

And that results in a life of ‘quiet desperation’.

You don’t have to become a millionaire from your expression, you don’t have to be loud about it, do it how it feels right for you.  It may involve other people, it may not…

But right now…

Commit to your unique way of seeing the world and start expressing it!

You owe it to yourself and you owe it to all the rest of the world!

Leave me a comment, let me know about you and your vision!

Go Big!

Kristen