Let me ask you 1 question…

Who are you listening to?

This is one of the biggest challenges today…

• There are a whole bunch of people in your life who are more than ready and willing to give you advice on what you can and especially what you CAN’T or SHOULDN’T do…
• There are countless people standing by, ready to protect you or steer you toward what is smart and sensible and realistic…

So often these people listen to your ideas and tell you they won’t work, or they aren’t smart…

And when they do, it’s easy to get discouraged and abandon your ideas…

It’s easy to get deflated and look for a more sensible or realistic approach that doesn’t get you excited, but at least ypu’ve heard it makes sense…

Here’s my big question for you…

When it comes to the people who you are listening to…

Do they have what you want?

I’m all for advice and mentors and perspective…

BUT

Please, please, please…

Get that advice from people who are where you want to go…

• If you want advice on how to start making $10, 000 a month through passive income, should you listen to someone who has only ever made $3500/month and traded time for every single dollar of it?
• If you want your relationship to be healthy, communicative and passionate, are you going to listen to your friend who is in a loveless marriage?
• If you want to get into the best shape of your life, are you going to go to someone who has never exercised a day in their life for advice on how to do it?

When I ask my coaching clients these questions they always see how ridiculous it is to get advice from someone who doesn’t have what you want…

AND YET…

Most have them have been doing just that…

Most people have a group of advisers that they love and who love them, but when it comes to deciding if your ideas and dreams can happen…

When it comes to discovering the path to design the life you desire…

Make sure you are listening to people who know from experience what it takes to get there!

Listen…

Your friends and family are so important to love you and add to your life…

And if you your friends and family do have the things that you desire, then PLEASE listen to them!

But often your advisers serve a different purpose…

Start finding people who have what you want (at least the next level from where you are)…

Your life will start to change instantly when you do!

As always, leave a comment here…I love hearing from you and what you have to say might be helpful to someone else!

Go Big!

Kristen

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I know this is a day where many people  get superstitious and expect bad things to happen…

I  like to look at things differently so on Friday the 13th I actually expect some surprise GOOD things to happen…

You ready to join me on that?

Right this second decide that today is your lucky day…

Think about when you were a kid and it was your birthday or the first day of vacation etc….

Remember what it was like to wake up EXCITED about the day…

You didn’t know what was going to happen, but the day had a feeling of promise and excitement to it…

That’s what I want you to do today!

If you are about to spout 8 million good reasons why you CAN’T do that like:

I’m bogged down in debt

I don’t have enough time

I don’t have enough money

I’m too stressed

My relationship sucks

I just lost my job

etc. etc. etc.

DON’T!

What?  How can I be so cold and insensitive to suggest that you just ignore all the bad in your life and expect something good to happen?

I’m not being cold and insensitive…

In fact, this is coming out of love…

JUST ONE DAY…

That’s all I ask…

1 day where you choose to get excited and feel like luck is on your side and the day is full of possibility…

1 day!

If you hate it you can go back to exactly what you usually do tomorrow…

But today is LUCKY Friday the 13th!!

I can’t promise you that your life will change today…

But I can promise you that if you do this today, you are planting the seed of infinite possibility and positive expectation…

Look for the small positive clues that surround you right now (I guarantee they are there if you look for them and stop looking for proof of how bad and desperate things are for you.)

Your mindset today determines your reality tomorrow (I know in reality there is only NOW, but you know what I’m saying.)

So…

Are you game?

Will you look at today with excitement and expectation?  You don’t have to know what you are excited about…in fact, that’s the point, you are surrounded by opportunity at ALL TIMES…so just get excited about that and about opportunity and fun and excitement being revealed to you.

Leave me a comment and let me know if you are in!

Happy Friday the 13th!!

Go Big

Kristen

I’ve been getting tons of comments to my different posts and that’s AWESOME!

BUT…

About 1 out of every 4 comments gets me all riled up…

Why?

I’ll tell you why…

Too many people are wasting their energy on what everyone else is doing…

I’ve literally received a bunch of emails saying pretty much the same thing which is essentially this:

“Why should I live at 100% when nobody else does?”

I’ll tell you why…

BECAUSE IT’S YOUR LIFE!

Stop waiting for someone else or something else to change before you change…

If you do that, you’re going to have a life full of waiting…

This isn’t about anyone else…

This isn’t about the people who don’t care and don’t respect other people and don’t live anywhere near 100%.  This isn’t about the government or what your parents didn’t do for you or who let you down.

This isn’t about anyone else…

It’s about you!

One of the most powerful quotes is “Be the change you want to see in the world.”

This applies to everything!

If you want your relationships to change…

Change who YOU are in the relationship.

If you want your money situation to change…

Change how YOU think about money.

If you want your health to change…

Change how YOU deal with your health.

If you want your LIFE to change…

Change how YOU live your life.

You are the creator of your world…that’s it.

There are always going to be less than desireable people, situations and events in your life…

But here’s the exciting part…

You can control how YOU react to these people, situations and events…

Get over it, stop waiting and stop giving your power away…

You can live an extraordinary life and you can start living it RIGHT THIS SECOND but you have to claim it…you have to decide that you are extraordinary no matter what other people are doing or believe.

You are extraordinary!

You were born that way…

1 step at a time is all it takes and the first step is to CLAIM it and decide that in this moment your life is yours and you decide what to do with it and how to act and react NO MATTER WHAT IS THROWN AT YOU!

You are extraordinary…

Are you ready to claim it?

This might make you uncomfortable…

Some of you may be so uncomfortable you choose to stop coming here…

Some of you may be so uncomfortable that you comment or email me with 1 more attempt to give power to anyone other than yourself…1 more email of “But the government” or “But everyone else” or “But my job” or “But my finances”…

Stop looking for buts…you will always be able to find them and as long as you do you will stay stuck EXACTLY where you are…

Sorry it’s harsh…but it’s true!

I promise you that no matter how terrible your situation is…

There is at least 1 person who has triumphed over worse…

I’m not minimizing your pain or the fact that there are some careless people in this world or that the economy is tough right now…you have right to all of that…but it’s not helping you anymore.

Stop clinging to it…

It’s no longer an option to define your world by anything outside of yourself…

Leave me a comment right now and tell me if you are ready to let go of what everyone else seems to be doing and claim your life…

Tell me EXACTLY what you are ready to let go of so you can step into your extraordinary self…

Do it now…your life can’t wait any longer!

Go Big!

Kristen

Huh?

Stay with me and I’ll explain…

One of the dogs I trained was a jack Russel Terrier –WOW they are smart dogs–some people say they are too smart and too hard to train…

I disagree…

If you stick to your guns and follow through and make sure they follow your command when you give it to them (no matter how stubborn they are) then eventually they become the best trained dogs you can find.

For example, this one couple who had the Jack Russel would have me work with him and then I would work with them and him…

Why?

Because in reality I was training them…

This is how it would go…

I would have him sit using a simple arm gesture and command…

The wife would have him sit with the same arm gesture and command…

The husband would try to have him sit with a similar arm gesture and command and then would give up after 3 tries…

YIKES!

If you tell a dog to sit and you really want the dog to know that when you say sit you mean it…

YOU HAVE TO STICK TO YOUR GUNS!

Here’s the deal…

At first they won’t want to and they will try to out stubborn you BUT you MUST PERSIST…

I don’t care if you have to stand there for an hour until the dog sits BUT you can’t let him go until he does.

Here’s another example…

I was in the grocery store the other day and this is the conversation I heard between a mother and little girl:

Little Girl: Mommy I want a candy bar

Mother: Sorry honey, not today

Little Girl: Why?

Mother: Because we’re about to go home and have dinner.

Little Girl: Please!

Mother: No honey, not tonight, some other time.

Little Girl: But I want it!

Mother: You’re about to have dinner.

Little Girl: I WANT IT!

Mother (embarrased because people are looking): Ok, but just this once…

Just this once huh? I don’t think so, that mother is in for a lifetime of candy bars before dinner…

And believe me, I completely understand…her daughter wore her down and brilliantly did it in front of strangers…who wouldn’t give in just to get out of there right?  Seriously, I GET IT!

What’s my point?

Here you go…

You are the Dog AND the Owner

You are the Child AND the Mother

Your conscious mind decides it wants something and gives your subsconscious mind a command to get it…then the outer world strikes and puts up an obstacle or sends out a diversion and your outer mind abandons the original command and changes it.

In other words…

You know what you want out of life and you tell yourself you are going to get it but the second something comes up to indicate that you may not be able to get it you give in or give up and call it a pipe dream and accept whatever ‘SEEMS’ to be true…

We’ve all done it…I know I have…

It’s time for that to end!

CAUTION: I’m not telling you to force things or force action BUT I am telling you not to give up!

Letting go of the specifics will help…

By that I mean don’t attach to how you will make a million dollars or who your perfect mate is or how you’ll get the financing to buy your dream house…

• Know what you want
• Know it’s possible
• Know that roadblocks will show up to indicate it ISN’T possible
• and then STICK TO YOUR GUNS and believe that you can have what you want and then…

Ask yourself this question…

“Even though I have run into a roadblock, what I step can I take right now to move toward what I desire?”

Please, I beg you…stop giving up on your dream every time someone or something tells you it can’t happen…

Like I said, you have to let go of how it will happen or who it will happen with because it may come to you in a way you never imagined but keep believing that you can create your life…

Leave me a comment and tell me the dream that you will now commit to believing in no matter what!

Be brave and…

Go Big!

Kristen

“How do I let go?”

I’m not gonna lie…

That’s the hardest part about the Law of Attraction.

I mean c’mon, I have you jumping through hoops deciding what you really want, visualizing it in GREAT detail, using all of your senses…

By the time you are done with the exercises I put you through you are probably so excited about the life you have decided to create that you can almost taste it…

And then I tell you to ‘Let go’!

What am I crazy?

I know it seems almost impossible…

BUT I need you to do it…

• When I say ‘Let go’ I don’t mean for you to let go of the vision (In fact I want you revisiting that daily for a few minutes)…
• When I say ‘Let go’ I don’t mean for you to let go of the passion and excitement…
• When I say ‘Let go’ I mean ‘Let go of HOW it is going to come to you!’

STOP trying to figure it out (seems nearly impossible doesn’t it?)

So let me be more specific…

Let go of the How!

Focus on the ultimate vision every day…

Use all your senses…

Get excited…

and then LET GO of HOW it’s going to happen!

Yes it’s hard…

BUT I guarantee you that YOU will only LIMIT yourself if you impose what you think can happen and bring you what you want.

Get out of the way…

Decide that what you desire or even something better is on it’s way (actually it’s already here, but that’s for another time) and then let it go…

Stop thinking about it…

Once you do your daily focus…STOP THINKING ABOUT IT!

How many times have you wanted something…

• Money
• Relationship
• Job
• ANYTHING

And you’ve obsessed on it…wondered how you were going to do it and then finally gave up…

And then almost immediately after that it shows up? And in a way you never expected?

Leave me a comment and tell me when this has happened to you…even if it was small, I guarantee it has happened!

Go Big!

Kristen

Everything is back up and running now…

I’ve noticed something from the emails I get every day…

I want to address it here, because even if you haven’t emailed me about this specifically, you may be struggling with this very thing.

So what is it?

Figuring out what you want in ALL areas of your life…

I’ve told you to look at the whole, big, amazing vision of what you desire…

I want to help you get more specific and really fill in that vision…

I assume you want more than just money or a better career or a better relationship or to lose weight etc.

Right?

Good…then do this…

I want you to answer this question with as many answers that come to you (and I’ll give you an example to help you through it):

Who are you?

For every single one of you I can guarantee there is more than one answer…

For instance if you were to ask me the same question, this is how I would answer:

• I am an adventure seeker
• I am a coach
• I am a champion of my loved ones
• I am an entertainer
• I am an entrepreneur
• I am a creator
• I am a networker
• I am a marketer

etc. (I left out quite a few but you get the idea).

The point is this…

We are all more than 1 thing…

For each of us there are typically specific areas that we will always want to be attending to and growing and going to the next level in…

Some of these areas are personal like:

• Your body and health
• Your spirituality
• Your relationships
• Your money and finances
• Your fun, adventure and relaxation
• Your creativity
• Your atmosphere

etc.

Some of these areas are professional like:

• Your job or business
• Your business relationships
• Your business growth
• Your business finances

etc.

I want to give you a bonus step that will help you create a FULL vision of exactly what you want in ALL of your areas…

1. Write down all of the areas of your life that are constant areas of attention (separate them into personal and business) you will probably have 5-10 in personal and 5-10 in business.
2. Decide what your Ultimate Vision is for that area of your life…
3. Write it down…
4. Look for any conflicts between areas (that is a BIG reason for blocks to success) and then and ONLY then, put all the pieces together to form a COMPLETE vision.

There is so much power in coming up with your ultimate vision this way…

In my coaching sessions I work with people on this and the results are amazing…so trust me and go for it!

Leave me a comment and let me know who you are!

Go Big!

Kristen

The 80/20 rule applies!

So what is the 80/20 rule?

Most of us have heard of it, but typically it is used when people are talking about sales and business…

Since I’m telling you that the 80/20 rule applies to EVERYTHING I need to tell you what it is AND how to use it!

It’s simple really…

When you break down your actions in any area of your life, I promise you that you will find that about 20% of these actions are the ones that bring you results.

So, the 80/20 rule means this…

Spend 80% of your time on the 20% that brings you results!

For most people it is the opposite…

Most people spend 80% of their time on the 80% that doesn’t bring them results…

Why?

Because most often the 80% that doesn’t bring you the most results is where it is easiest to throw your energy.

Let me use business as an example…

A good friend of mine has a very successful business…but it wasn’t that way only 2 years ago…

I worked with him and coached him and this is what we did.

• First we assessed his subscriber/customer base. We realized that 20% were the customers that brought in the most revenue.
• Then we looked at where he was spending the majority of his time and where do you think the majority of his time was going?

YOU GUESSED IT…

He was spending 80% of his time dealing with questions, issues and requests made by the 80% of his subscribers/customers that didn’t continually bring in revenue…

Yikes!

That explained it…

Of course he knew that he still needed to give those people attention, but certainly not the majority of his attention. So we created systems and brought on a great customer service rep and took other measures to make sure those 80% were taken care of but in only 20% of the time.

He then put the bulk of his efforts and focus on cultivating his relationship with the 20% and his business boomed.

It is the same with money…

I worked with a client last year who was spending 80% of his time on product refinement and 20% of his time on marketing.  Now, I am the first one to tell you that you HAVE to provide value in any product or service you provide…

BUT

Once you have a valuable product or service to offer, you MUST spend 80% of your time getting it out there or the value won’t matter.

Think about it…

How does this apply to:

• Making Money?
• Losing Weight?
• Attracting your Perfect Mate?
• Discovering and Living Your Passion?
• Living an Abundant and Healthy Life?

etc. etc. etc.

Here’s an exercise for you:

1. Break your life into categories like Health, Finances, Relationships, Business, Spirituality, Relaxation and Fun etc.
2. Write down the actions, experiences etc. that bring you the most success in each category
3. Write down the actions, experiences etc. that you spend the bulk of your time on in each category

If you answered the same things for #2 and #3…

Good for you…

If you didn’t (and that will be most of you)…

You need a plan…

How can you start to shift so that you spend 80% of your time and resource on the 20% that brings you the most results?

Use my business example above to help guide you…

Leave a comment here so I can help you and hold you accountable…

Go Big!

Kristen

BUT

In the pit of your stomach you knew it wasn’t?

And you have absolutely no rational justification to walk away from whatever (or whomever) it is.

And you are left with a feeling of ‘eating away at you dread’ if you walk toward whatever (or whomever) it is.

This happens with everything from money making opportunities, relationships, career moves etc.

When this happens your mind starts loudly arguing equally for 2 points…one side of your brain shouts, ‘WALK AWAY…you know it’s not the THING and if you go toward it you’ll end up finding out at some
point and you’ll have to run screaming into the hills…leaving only a dust cloud behind. Why waste your time?’

You are tempted by this side…because it has a point and knows you well.

BUT

The other side of you head whispers 4 words over and over and over and over and over…

‘What if you’re wrong? What if you’re wrong? What if you’re wrong? What if you’re wrong? What if you’re wrong?’

You are equally as tempted by this argument because if you are human one of your deepest fears is that you’ll miss something.

So what do you do?

Well, in my life, there have been times where I have gone with both arguments…

BUT

When I think back to those times when that pit has been in my stomach…

The final outcome has always been that my instinct was right…

So, the question I have for you is…

When you think back…has your gut or your head ultimately been right?

How can you use that to listen to your instincts and take inspired action in your life now?

Leave me a comment and let me know your story!

Go Big!

Kristen