How do you walk into a room?

We’ve been talking a lot about how to become a solution for someone else’s problem.

We’ve also talked about how important it is to approach people and ask them how you can help them instead of approaching people and telling them how you think you can help them.

I know from the emails I’ve been getting that some of you are already having GREAT success with this and some of you are really struggling.

The biggest struggle seems to be in having people believe you are the solution.

Luckily this is where I can help…

As you know I am a coach but I am also an actress.  I have performed on Broadway and in Film and TV and the audition process is a great learning tool…

Here’s why…

When someone is casting a show or movie or TV show they have a problem that needs a solution.

Their problem is a script with no one to bring the characters to life and tell the story in a way that will come across to the audience.

That’s where an actor comes in…

Every person that walks in the door to an audition is a potential solution to that problem.

Now here’s the key…

When you walk into the room to audition, you better carry with you the belief that YOU ARE A PERFECT SOLUTION to their problem or you are going to be almost invisible.

Notice I didn’t say THE perfect solution and that’s because I am of the mind that to every challenge or problem there are multiple solutions…

But if you don’t go in there feeling that you are A perfect solution they will almost not even see you.

So what can you learn from this?

MANY, MANY things…

But the primary thing I want you to look at right now is making sure you do whatever you need to do before you approach someone in any way to absolutely believe that you are 1 perfect solution to their problem.

If you are feeling invisible, that’s what’s missing…

People are looking for solutions to what they are focusing on and if you don’t fit that, it’s nothing personal, you just won’t be on their radar.

I want you to remember this through all of it…

You won’t be the solution that gets chosen every time…

That’s ok…

Your ONLY job is to make yourself visible to them as a possible solution whether it’s now, later or never…

If you find yourself constantly feeling invisible there are 2 primary reasons:

1. You don’t have conviction in you being a solution
2. You are trying to make yourself a solution to the wrong problem (find the right fit and you’ll be amazed at what happens.)

So I ask you…

How do you walk into a room?

Do you walk in as a possible solution or do you walk in already expecting that you will be invisible and overlooked?

Be honest and leave me a comment so I can know how to continue to help you!

Go Big!

Kristen

Nobody Makes it Out Alive…

I was out to dinner with a friend last night and in the middle of a conversation about life and living life to the fullest, she jokingly said something that was quite brilliant…

She said, “We all might as well go for EVERYTHING we want, because when it comes down to life, nobody makes it out alive!”

Once I stopped laughing, it hit me how true that was…

We all get so stressed about everthing under the sun…

• We worry…
• We obsess…
• We doubt…
• We settle…

There’s so much at stake…

What if we fail?

What if we don’t make enough money?

What if people laugh at us?

What if we look stupid?

What if, what if, what if?

Here’s the deal…

It doesn’t matter if what you want is to attract money fast, live your passion, travel the world, fall madly in love or all of the above and more…

It’s true…

Nobody makes it out alive…

Now it’s your choice if that is a depressing thought or a freeing one…

Fill your life with life and it will be worth it!

Make bold choices, be the person you wish you were, believe what you need to believe to be everything that you know in your heart you are.

Know that with stuggle comes triumph and triumph can also come without struggle…

Yup, I said it…it doesn’t always have to be hard!

What makes you happy?

Do more of it…

What makes you feel fulfilled?

Do more of that…

What is your gift or gifts?

Do everything you can to spend most of your time expressing them (incidentally, that’s when money will follow)…

You can be, have and do everything you desire…

And, since nobody makes it out alive, what do you have to lose?

Leave me a comment, let me hold you accountable, share your vision and goals…

I know that everything you see in your mind is possible!

Go Big!

Kristen

How to find your purpose – The Key to a fulfilling Life

Let me ask you some important questions…

• Are you struggling though life?
• Have you heard the saying, “Do what you love and the money will follow” but for the life of you, you can’t figure out what ‘what you love’ is?
• Do you feel that the key to a fulfilling life is to find your purpose, but you don’t even know where to start?
• Do you feel that until you find your purpose you will be stuck in this pattern of struggle?
• Do you wonder if you really have a purpose or if you are destined to a mediocre, purpose free life?

Did you answer YES to any of these questions?

If you did answer Yes to even one of these questions, you are in the right place…

Listen to me here…

It’s time for you…

It’s time for you to find your purpose and to have a fulfilling life…

I can hear you now, “But HOW Kristen, how do I find my purpose?”

Let’s start with a few simple steps…but first I have to ask you to allow yourself to answer whatever comes to mind and not judge what you come up with as possible or not possible.

No judgment; we are just digging in for discovery purposes…

Are you in?

Great, let’s go…

Grab a pen and paper (or you can go to your computer, but pen and paper tends to bring out more honest, instinctual responses) and answer these 10 questions…

Remember, don’t think, just write…

1. Write down your top 3 favorite things to do when you were a kid.
2. Write down your top 3 LEAST favorite things to do when you were a kid.
3. Write down your top 3 favorite things to do now.
4. Write down your top 3 LEAST favorite things to do now.
5. When you feel ‘In the zone’ at work, home or anywhere, what are you doing?
6. How do you make your money? What is your job?
7. How many hours a week do you spend at your job?
8. Is there anything about your job that you like and feel you are really good at?
9. What are the things about your job that you hate?
10. When do you feel most comfortable in your own skin? What are you doing?

You need to know 2 things when it comes to how to find your purpose as the key to a fulfilling life.

1. Your purpose CANNOT be something you don’t feel ‘Right’ doing?

AND

2. You can have MORE THAN 1 purpose!

First we need to discover the common bonds between all of your answers.

In your answers to the questions above, there are most likely a few things that keep popping up in your answers…

What are they?

Write them down…

One of my clients was struggling to find her purpose so we went through this exercise and found that dealing with animals and being outside kept popping up in her answers. When we talked about animals and being outside, she got animated and excited and emotional…that’s the KEY…she was emotional, she felt something…you have to be emotional about your purpose!

Here’s the funny part about this client of mine, she didn’t have any pets AND she worked in an office on a computer without any windows, very little interaction and certainly NO exposure to animals.

No wonder she felt like she was off purpose…she was!

She and I went through a whole process to find her purpose and I am happy to say she has found her purpose and is living a fulfilling life. It took time, time that you and I will take too…

The first step to how to find your purpose is to discover the answers to the questions I have put in this post…

Leave me a comment with any common things that keep popping out at you…that way I can help…it is important to see what you do love AND what you absolutely don’t love…write it all down, share it with me here and I’ll make sure I reply to your comments.

Once you do this exercise, we can move on to the next step of discovery for what you can do with that purpose.

Remember, to find your purpose is the key to a fulfilling life, take these steps now, answer the questions, let me know what you find by leaving it here in a comment and we will take this journey together!

Go big!

3 Steps to Attract Money Fast (Part 2)

I know you want to get to the 3 Steps to Attract Money Fast, so let’s dive right in…

Last post we talked about the 3 C’s and how they may be natural but they only make the situation worse. Today we’ll get into the 3 G’s. As I said last time, The 3 Steps to Attract Money Fast require you to step out of your comfort zone and go against survival instinct.

I told you these 3 Steps may sound ‘Woo Woo’ and even completely ridiculous, but if you are here reading this, I’m assuming you are ready to try them and give them an honest shot the next time you need to attract money or anything fast.

The 3 Steps to Attract Money Fast aka The 3 G’s:

1. Gratitude
2. Give
3. Generate

1. GRATITUDE:

Gratitude is the way to abundance. It’s as simple as that.

Do this right now…no matter how awful things may seem in your life right now…it’s time to get grateful.

I can hear you kicking and screaming, ‘Are you crazy Kristen? Nothing in my life is going right and you want me to be grateful?’

Yes…that’s exactly right…I want you to be grateful and I GUARANTEE you that you have at least 3 things you can be grateful for.

Time for some tough love…

Your life might be terrible right now, but when you sit in Complaining and Self Pity and any of the other awful emotions you may be feeling, you prolong the struggle.

So I ask you this…

What do you have to be grateful for right now?

Part of you is probably yelling at me, ‘NOTHING…I have NOTHING to be GRATEFUL FOR!’

Here, let me help…

• Are you breathing right now?
• Can you read?
• Can you walk and run and talk and laugh?
• Can you think and imagine?
• Can you hear and smell and eat?
• Do you have someone (anyone) somewhere that loves you?
• Do you have someone (anyone) somewhere that you love?

I promise you that if you are reading this right now you have something to be grateful for…in fact, I believe you have at least 3 things to be grateful for.

What are they? You can answer in your head, on paper or post them here.

Even if it doesn’t make sense to you…the FIRST STEP in the 3 Steps to Attract Money Fast is to get grateful.

What are 3 things you are grateful for? I don’t care how small they are…think of each of them…really focus on them individually…why are you grateful for these things?

Focus on them, feel them, breathe into them and then for each of them say, ‘THANK YOU’.

If you are thankful for being able to breathe say, ‘I am so grateful for my breath and for my body that breathes without me having to tell it to, THANK YOU.’

If you are thankful for your imagination say, ‘I am so grateful for that I can imagine what if feels like to have a full and abundant life, THANK YOU!’

You get the idea…

Do it now…

I don’t care if it seems silly…DO IT!

Just by doing it you will change your state…

You will literally shift from an awareness of lack to an awareness of abundance. Remember you attract what you focus on!

Now you are ready for the second step in the 3 Steps to Attract Money Fast…

We’ll talk about the 2^nd G next time…until then, place a comment and let me know what you are Grateful for…

I am grateful for you!

Go Big!

Kristen

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