The “Yeah Buts”…
Does this sound familiar?
You get an idea about something you want to do…
Whether it’s a way to make money or a great adventure you want to take or a dream you want to realize…
And in the first few seconds after you get the idea you get really excited…
It feels so real…
And then the voice in your head starts talking to you…
- “Yeah but you’re not smart enough”
- “Yeah but you don’t have enough time”
- “Yeah but you’re too old”
- “Yeah but you don’t know enough”
And on and on and on…
And then you start to doubt yourself and discount your idea…
I’ll ask you again…does that sound familiar?
Here’s the deal with the “Yeah Buts”…
I guarantee you that if you told someone else that same idea and they started in with all those “Yeah buts” you would have something to say about it…
So this is what I want you to do from now on…
Any of the ideas you have, write down the “Yeah Buts” that you have about them and then for each of them, give an answer of a solution –
Here’s an example from a coaching session I had recently –
My client has a business and she had an idea for how to get a bunch of sales from a group and one of her biggest “Yeah Buts” is that she is terrible with budgeting and tracking money — this was getting into her head so much that she was starting to get scared of making sales for fear of how she would blow it once money was coming in.
So I took her through the following exercise –
I had her tell me about her great marketing idea as if I was her best and most trusted friend — As her friend I then voiced her “Yeah But” and I told her she had to come up with a solution as she would if she was talking to someone else…this is how the conversation went:
CLIENT: “I’m taking my product to corporations to give to their employees — the best part is that I already have 3 corporations that are very interested and it looks like this will explode my business!”
ME: “Yeah but you’re terrible with money! If your business explodes you’re going to screw everything up and get in trouble with the IRS…”
CLIENT: “I thought of that to, so that’s why I’ve decided I’m going to get an accountant right away!
That was it, 3 lines of a conversation and she had decided on the exact solution to her “Yeah But” and she got the “Yeah But” to shut up.
That’s what I want you to do with all of your “Yeah Buts” –
Write them out in conversation form and look at the solutions you come up with –
And here’s a key –
Sometimes it takes longer to get to the resolve — what I mean is if your first answer to the “Yeah But” opens itself up to another “Yeah But” you need to keep going. Stick with it and you will resolve!
You are extraordinary!
Go Big!
Kristen


